South Coast Together

06/04/2024

Celebrating one another can be so impactful! Whether its something as large as a birthday, or just celebrating small moments together, every celebration helps build and strengthen our connections. These can be as simple as a hug and saying " I really appreciate you" or "Thank you for being you!" Knowing that people around us love and care for us can really boost our self esteem and resilience.

05/28/2024

Little Otters need time to explore and enjoy new things. Helping your little otter explore new things safely can be a fun and rewarding experience.

05/21/2024

Achieving things together as a family can be a rewarding experience! Celebrate even small successes! You've earned it!

05/14/2024

Helping our little otters can be such an important and rewarding experience both for us and for our little otters. As little otters grow, learning how and when to ask for help can be an important tool for adulthood. It also allows us big otters to be good role models of how to help with kindness and sincerity. Here, Ollie is trying to find as many blue shells as he can, papa otter Oliver is helping them get shells in places they can't reach. What a good papa Oliver!

04/16/2024

Following through on boundaries is an important part of the process. Think of it like making a commitment to yourself, and your wellbeing. If we continue to let people cross our boundaries, we are only hurting ourselves, and emptying our cup. When setting consequences remember we can not control other people, only ourselves, so these are action that YOU take, not the other person. Example: "When you raise your voice at me, I feel really uncomfortable and will leave the room until we can have a conversation later when we've both had time to calm down." or "I get really anxious when you send me a text at 2 am that is not an emergency. I will turn my phone onto silent at night if you continue to send those texts." Big boundaries may require big consequences. Example "I feel unsafe when you are drinking/using drugs. I will not be around you if you are actively drunk/high". "I do not feel safe after you threaten to hit me. I will leave this relationship if this behavior continues". Remember, safety 1st. If a big boundary is being violated, get to a safe place and give yourself space before talking with the other person. If you don't feel safe talking with the other person about your boundary, don't be afraid to reach out for support.

04/11/2024

For those of you looking to access mental health sercices in your area, check out the new behavioral health hub, which can help you find local providers for all types of mental health and psychiatric services in Coos and Curry County based on your needs, insurance, and more...so that you can find the right fit for you and your needs. Coos Curry Behavioral Health Hub

04/10/2024

Part of building resilience is making connections in our community. Harmony & Me Music does a great job of that with their intergenerational music classes! Building resilience...and a beat

04/09/2024

Make sure to go join our friends over at Pathways to Positive Parenting for a FREE showing of WALL-E! So Cool!

04/09/2024

A healthy relationship tool is to learn to RESPOND not REACT. By giving ourselves time to think things over before we make a commitment or agree to something, this allows us to be fully committed in the direction that we choose. By not giving ourselves time or space we may engage in a knee-jerk REACTION, instead of a thoughtful RESPONSE.

04/02/2024

Boundaries can be hard to set sometimes, especially if you are not used to expressing them. Using "I" or "I feel" statements and focusing on another person's behavior, can make setting boundaries easier for everyone involved. For example, if you have a coworker that gets l #@%$ #! every time you make a mistake, instead of focusing on our opinion (that they are a #@%$ #!) we focus on the behavior. So you could say something like "I feel upset/ scared/ angry when you raise your voice at me when I make a mistake. I do not want you to continue to raise your voice at me. Can we come together and find a healthier way to communicate with one another when I make mistakes?" as opposed to "You're a real ! #@% #! sometimes!" Note how the 1st sentence feels more collaborative, and is focused on finding solutions, where the second sentence only drives division.

04/01/2024

03/26/2024

Today we have another Boundary tip! We can't fill up other people's cups, if ours are empty. By agreeing to things we don't have the energy to do, we aren't really helping anyone else, and only hurting ourselves. By recognizing our own needs, and only agreeing to things that we can do safely and in a healthy way, we are building better relationships with others and ourselves.