Hartley House

10/07/2026

Before someone says, “Well, maybe she attacked him.”
She didn’t.
She challenged him.
She disagreed. Raised her voice. Said no. Refused to back down.
Why does a strong woman suddenly become “a man” when she stops being agreeable?

Before someone says, “Well, maybe she attacked him.”

She didn’t.

She challenged him.

She disagreed. Raised her voice. Said no. Refused to back down.

Why does a strong woman suddenly become “a man” when she stops being agreeable?

10/01/2026

Purple ribbons are easy. The uncomfortable conversations aren’t.

This month, we’re talking about the control, fear, coercion, manipulation, and realities survivors live every damn day.

**What do YOU think people still don’t understand about domestic violence?**

09/30/2026

The Hartley House Festival of Trees is back for an unforgettable evening filled with holiday cheer, community spirit, and giving! 🎄

📅 Saturday, November 21, 2026
🕕 5:30 PM
📍 Clovis Civic Center

This cherished holiday tradition raises critical funds to support Hartley House and its mission to serve victims of domestic violence throughout our community.

🎄 Want to make a difference?
We’re looking for individuals, businesses, organizations, and groups to decorate and donate a Christmas tree or wreath for this year’s event!

Interested in participating? Contact:
📞 Kim – Clovis/Curry County Chamber of Commerce: 575-763-3435
📞 Donna – Hartley House: 575-762-0050

🎟️ Tickets will be available soon!
$50 Individual | $90 Couple | $350 Table

Mark your calendars and join us for an evening of hope, holiday spirit, and community impact. Every dollar raised helps support the life-changing work of Hartley House. 🎄

09/25/2026

🚨 FOR YEARS, WE’VE TOLD YOU 1 IN 3 WOMEN WILL EXPERIENCE INTIMATE-PARTNER V!OLENCE.

A NEW NATIONAL STUDY JUST FOUND THE NUMBER MAY BE CLOSER TO 6 IN 10.

Not 1 in 3.

61%.

For years, “1 in 3 women” has been one of the most recognizable statistics in domestic-v!olence advocacy.

Now new national research is forcing us to look at the scope of this crisis again.

The U.S. National Study on Violence Experiences Across the Lifespan found that 61% of women reported experiencing intimate-partner v!olence during their lifetime.

That is more than 6 out of every 10 women.

And there's another number we cannot ignore:

19% of women reported potentially lethal intimate-partner v!olence.

Nearly 1 in 5.

So, did domestic v!olence suddenly double?

That's NOT what this research proves.

The older “1 in 3” statistic and this new study were produced using different surveys, definitions and methods. The new research was designed to capture experiences that traditional measurements may have missed.

And maybe THAT is the bigger story.

How much have we been missing?

How many survivors were never reflected in the numbers because their experiences didn't fit neatly into the questions being asked?

How much coercion, intimidation, psychological ab*se and other forms of partner v!olence have remained invisible when we tried to measure the size of this crisis?

For years, survivors have told us the problem was bigger than people realized.

Now we have a new number: 61%.

As we head into Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we're going to be talking much more about what this new research found—and what these numbers mean for survivors.

Because whether it's 1 in 3 or more than 6 in 10, we're no longer talking about a problem on the margins of society.

We're talking about millions upon millions of women.

Does 61% shock you—or does it make you wonder how much we've been undercounting all along?

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09/23/2026

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09/17/2026

🚨 TRIGGER WARNING

**SHE LEFT HIM. HE JUST FOUND NEW WAYS TO AB*SE HER.**

We tell survivors to leave as though walking out the door is the finish line. Get away. File for divorce. Protect the children. Start over.

But what happens when leaving doesn't end the ab*se?

For some survivors, separation simply changes the weapons being used against them.

The relationship ends, but suddenly there are endless custody battles, financial control, threats involving the children, withheld resources, intimidation, surveillance, rumors designed to destroy credibility, and court filings that force survivors to remain connected to the very person they escaped.

Rebecca Zimmerman described her ab*se becoming significantly worse after she filed for divorce. She had documented prior incidents and says a judge acknowledged evidence that her former partner had been surveilling her—yet the court still ordered 50/50 custody.

Another survivor, Leah Recor, described something survivors rarely hear discussed: the secondary trauma of finally finding the courage to leave and then discovering that the systems you believed would protect you may not believe you.

That's what makes post-separation ab*se so terrifying.

**THE ABUSER MAY LOSE ACCESS TO YOUR HOME WITHOUT LOSING ACCESS TO YOUR LIFE.**

Children can become leverage. Money can become control. Courtrooms can become another battleground. Friends and family can be manipulated. And every attempt to move forward can become another opportunity to pull a survivor back into conflict.

Leaving matters.

But we need to stop pretending leaving always means it's over.

Sometimes that's when another fight begins.

Read more about post-separation ab*se:
https://breakthesilencedv.org/?p=19094

Share your story:
https://breakthesilencedv.org/?page_id=16824

💜 What is something you wish people understood about what can happen AFTER a survivor leaves?

09/04/2026

🎄✨ SAVE THE DATE! ✨🎄

The Hartley House Festival of Trees is returning for an unforgettable evening of holiday cheer, community, and giving.

📅 Saturday, November 21, 2026
🕕 5:30 PM
📍 Clovis Civic Center

This beautiful holiday tradition raises critical funds to support Hartley House and its mission of serving victims of domestic violence throughout our community.

Want to make a difference? We're currently looking for individuals, businesses, organizations, and groups to decorate and donate a Christmas tree or wreath for this year's event!

If you're interested in participating, please contact:
Kim at the Clovis/Curry County Chamber of Commerce, 575-763-3435 or Donna at Hartley House 575-762-0050

Tickets will be available soon:
🎟️ $50 Individual | 💕 $90 Couple | 🎄 $350 Table

Mark your calendars and join us for an evening of hope, holiday spirit, and community impact. Every dollar raised helps support the life-changing work of Hartley House. ❤️

09/04/2026

09/04/2026

The items that are considered physical abuse might surprise you. They include breaking your things, trapping you and driving recklessly. How many of these have you/did you experience? https://carolineabbott.com/what-is-domestic-violence/

09/03/2026

Long after physical injuries heal, survivors may continue to carry the emotional and psychological effects of what they endured. Trauma can leave lasting impacts, including PTSD, anxiety, fear, hypervigilance, difficulty trusting others, shame, and changes in how a person sees themselves and the world around them.
Emotional and psychological abuse can leave deep wounds of their own, even when there was never a bruise to point to. Being threatened, controlled, humiliated, isolated, manipulated, or repeatedly made to question your own reality can affect a survivor long after the relationship ends.
Emotional or psychological healing does not follow the timeline as bruises. Survivors deserve compassion, support, and the time and space to heal from all of the wounds abuse leaves behind, including the ones no one else can see.
Just because you can't see the injury doesn't mean it isn't real.

Long after physical injuries heal, survivors may continue to carry the emotional and psychological effects of what they endured. Trauma can leave lasting impacts, including PTSD, anxiety, fear, hypervigilance, difficulty trusting others, shame, and changes in how a person sees themselves and the world around them.

Emotional and psychological abuse can leave deep wounds of their own, even when there was never a bruise to point to. Being threatened, controlled, humiliated, isolated, manipulated, or repeatedly made to question your own reality can affect a survivor long after the relationship ends.

Emotional or psychological healing does not follow the timeline as bruises. Survivors deserve compassion, support, and the time and space to heal from all of the wounds abuse leaves behind, including the ones no one else can see.

Just because you can't see the injury doesn't mean it isn't real. 💜