04/12/2024
From Anna Livingston - April's Artist in Residence
On an Indiana farm, up on a low hill with cornfields and soybean fields as far as the eye can see all around, sits my best friend in her own cozy lady’s living room decorated in soft greens, comfortable furnishings and carpet surrounded by sewing projects, old family photos and her piano. She has pillowy soft skin, blue eyes and gives the best hugs that side of the North/South divide and she’s about 82. Barbara, my best friend and mentor (second mom, actually), has always been a farmer’s wife. To see Barbara, you wouldn’t for a minute think here was an adventurer who’d flown over to the other side of the world time and again to go and preach the Gospel to people in Thailand or smuggled in Bibles and encouragement in Myanmar. Gracious! You’d think she’d never left the county, let alone the country.
I can imagine how it was when she crossed the heavily guarded border into Myanmar after hearing word there was a woman who wanted Barbara to come encourage her Bible study group and, hopefully, bring much needed Bibles. Sweet Barbara is the SWEETEST lady I have ever met and few would guess at the band of steel at her center.
She reminds me so much of, “But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty,” 1 Corinthians 1:27.
Yet she, being mild in manner and knowing full well she is just a woman (not something the culture she was entering looked well upon), and an American woman at that, walked past armored guards without issue and took the most dangerous message on this planet to a group of women hungry for more about God and Who His Son is.
There have been many times in our own lives, mine and Stewart’s, where we wondered at just how on Earth God could use us as He has!
One instance was during the first adoption proceedings for two of our children. The adoption was in Scotland and, as was the case for adoptions in Glasgow, parental rights and responsibilities weren’t yet terminated because the council was trying to keep their budgets low and, at the same time, timelines for kids in care low by putting the prospective parents front and center in the battle to create a forever family. Talk about intimidating! Add in an incredible amount of complications + 1 lawyer we dubbed “The Viper” (she really did earn her name, that one)…
Stewart is just an ordinary man from Glasgow. I’m just a regular girl from the American Midwest. We’re, both of us, not particularly clever or witty or learned or artistic or… I could go on, but suffice it to say, we, neither of us, have law degrees and when our own lawyer (think “Andy Griffith” in demeanor and not an ounce of ruthlessness about him) tells us we are going to have to go up against “The Viper” on the witness stand in the fight of our lives for our children…
“Where is the wise? Where is the scribe? Where is the disputer of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of this world?... For Jews request a sign, and Greeks seek after wisdom; but we preach Christ crucified, to the Jews a stumbling block and to the Greeks foolishness…” 1 Corinthians 1:20, 22-23
Yeah! Where IS the wise? We wanted THAT guy on the stand, not us! In fact, we wanted the test tube baby of Hulk Hogan and Sheldon Cooper to go on the stand to match wits and strength with “The Viper” and, should wits fail, pulverize accordingly!
Know what happened? Well… In the end, it was only me. Just me. Sitting below the high seat of the judge in a wooden box facing “The Viper,” the biological family still in the case (some of the family members withdrew their case by this point), professional witnesses for both sides, several other lawyers and guards and, oh… I can’t even remember. In fact, I can’t even remember what was said.
The night before I was to take the stand (“Andy Griffith” thought it best if I testified because Stewart might get a bit too riled by “The Viper”), Stewart and I prayed the only thing we knew to pray:
“You will be brought before governors and kings for My sake, as a testimony to them and to the Gentiles. But when they deliver you up, do not worry about how or what you should speak. For it will be given to you in that hour what you should speak; for it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father who speaks in you.” Matthew 10:18-20
That’s what happened. Those exact verses Jesus spoke Himself were precisely what happened – to the point that perhaps it wasn’t for me to remember what was said. Maybe it was just too holy a thing for me to remember and to help keep me from claiming any of the good those words did.
Because it wasn’t me, please, PLEASE understand. No word spoken from my mouth, apart from my name, was me. It couldn’t have been. I was so utterly, TERRIBLY sick with fear of losing our babies. No WAY could I have done any more than a small, tiny-voiced answer to the question of my name. It had to be God.
And it was God. And it is God. This whole living life as a family of 8 (+1, my mom) is a confusing, scary, WONDERFUL ball of no-way-that-makes-sense. To the outside world, we look pretty foolish.
How can 2 people without full college educations expect to pay for and raise 6 children with such complex needs?
How can 2 people with such varied pasts, more moves (internationally and nationally) than years under their belts, carrying trauma themselves from losing children to miscarriage, multiple foster placements, infertility struggles and lengthy, horrific adoption proceedings stay married let alone stay happy together?
How can 2 people expect to live past 45 with so many health complications?
The world will tell us we need to do and be perfect and satiated in order to be ok. None of those things will help us find peace nor will it last longer than our world has left. No, give me Jesus and His upside down wisdom with Words so life-giving on one hand and which cut bone away from marrow on the other hand. He spoke it straight, our Jesus. He didn’t mince words and told us His Spirit was to come after He went home to Heaven to keep us, guide us and, as was in our case, silence the lying lips of “The Viper.”
I wish you could have been there, the day I sat on the stand. It’s no one else’s business what went on in the courtroom but I WISH you could have seen how God showed up with such power as to make the greatest world leader shake in their boots. It was that incredible, what my God did that day. The proof is our life today, our family today.
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” James 1:2-5
What I hope Stewart and I have in common with Barbara is a willingness to let God walk us through the hardest times of our lives. They do come, you know, times so hard they feel like every bone in your body is being crushed by the weight of it. During those 2 years of court hearings, social worker visits, social work team meetings, court-appointed evaluations, other visitations with professionals and biological family – I permanently felt ILL. I didn’t count it all joy every moment of every day. Goodness, I did well get out of bed some days. Looking at the face of my children in happy, carefree times reminded me of the joy of testing because it meant the testing, our literal trial was our means to an end – our FAMILY. If getting and keeping our children safe meant going to court every day for the rest of my life, I’d do it without a second thought.
That’s the joy set before me – my children.
More than that, the joy set before me is knowing without even a hint of a doubt that God is WITH me. He isn’t leaving. He doesn’t have any other plans or more important work to get to. Right here and right now, in this minute and in the coming, He IS right here and will be. I never, EVER have to doubt whose I am and Who He is. He proved that once and will continue to prove it as needed until it’s my turn to go home one day.
There is wisdom not even “The Viper” could laugh at.