10/15/2026
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Personal Statement
By: Audrey Weibert
D**g Xiao Ning’s body was blue from lack of oxygen. Because of China’s one-child policy, born female and with a severe congenital heart defect; I was abandoned and spent the first three years of my life in an orphanage. At three years old, I was adopted by a loving Christian couple in America. On that trip, my adoptive mother bought me two pearl bracelets: one tiny enough to fit my wrist then and another to fit me as an adult.
Growing up, my parents never hid my adoption story from me. They celebrated it. As a little girl, I proudly told classmates that I had been adopted from China. To me, it was simply another interesting fact about my life. I rarely questioned what it meant or how differently my story could have unfolded. Adoption was not separate; it was, and still is, simply part of who I was. But, oh, those teenage years would change everything.
One evening, while waiting for dinner at a Chinese restaurant, the waiter looked at me and said, "You are very fortunate to live in America. People in China, especially women, do not have the same opportunities." At the moment, my brothers were more interested than some lady’s comment, yet her words lingered long after we left the restaurant. A slow realization crept in: my life could have looked very different. The little things I took for granted: world-class health care, rigorous education, and the unconditional love of a family. My adoption was not simply a footnote, but the reason I still lived.
In my younger teen years, I separated D**g Xiao Ning and Audrey. I was angry that D**g Xiao Ning was abandoned and whose name had been assigned by an orphanage. I was grateful that Audrey was chosen, deeply loved, and given extraordinary opportunities. Because of this perspective, I never wanted to revisit and reject the culture connected to it.
As I have matured, that perspective has slowly changed. Meeting international students and other adoptees made me question my original view. I have learned that two seemingly opposite truths can exist at the same time. Yes, Xiao Ning was abandoned, and yes, Audrey was chosen. Yes, Xiao Ning has no memories of her biological family, but she is part of who I am. Yes, Audrey was given a better life because of adoption, but the harsh reality of where her story began remains the same. I had a messy beginning, but out of those ashes arose a beautiful life.
Because of this new perspective, I find myself wanting to learn more about China, its people, history, and the culture that shaped the first chapter of my life. Someday I hope to visit mainland China, not out of obligation, but because it is a piece of me.
My adoption was not the only challenge that shaped me. Due to my heart condition and the learning disabilities that followed, I often questioned whether I was truly good at anything. I remember one afternoon asking my mom what I should do with my life because everyone had their thing but me. During those years, teachers, mentors, and family members poured into me the love of learning, a good listener, compassion, and resilience. From this, I have developed a deep desire to be the older person who invests in the younger generation. I can not erase the pain of the past, but their past does not define their future. Whether through teaching, mentoring, or simply walking alongside teenagers during one of the most formative seasons of their lives, I want to help them through the seasons of hardship, but also know that eventually they will look back and see how those hard moments shaped their character.
Today, I carry both D**g Xiao Ning and Audrey with me, not as two separate people, but as one young woman marked by loss, love, resilience, and compassion. I have been poured into; now it is my turn to pour into the next generation. The pearl bracelet my adoptive mom gave me no longer fits; I have grown into the bigger bracelet.
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