05/25/2026
As Memorial Day approaches I wanted to share a few thoughts:
I get a lot of questions about what people should do to “observe” Memorial Day. The one thing I don’t want is for people to feel like they need to walk on egg shells around Veterans for fear of saying the wrong thing. There is a lot of confusion surrounding Memorial Day and I’m hoping my post can help clear that up and reduce the amount of pain and frustration that Veterans feel having to make it through this day:
#1 Traditionally people say “Happy Memorial Day”. They just add on the word “Happy” because that’s what we do. Happy Easter, Happy Thanksgiving etc. While people should be happy on Memorial Day, greeting people with Happy Memorial Day is inappropriate (in my opinion). Veterans want you to be Happy on Memorial Day. However instead of greeting people with Happy Memorial Day we want you to actually say a more well thought out sentence like “It is so nice to enjoy today together as a family. We wouldn’t have this if it wasn’t for our soldiers who are no longer here” or “Freedom is not free and we should enjoy today for those who cannot be here to enjoy it with us”. You can make up whatever sentence that you want....however Veterans truly enjoy hearing you acknowledge in some form what Memorial Day is truly about.
#2 If there is ever one day not to thank someone for their service in the military Memorial Day is that day. Memorial Day has absolutely nothing to do with any Veteran or Soldier who is still here living. That is what Armed Forces Day and Veterans Day is for. Memorial Day is strictly a day set aside to all of those we lost who served in the U.S. Military. Telling a Veteran thank you for your service on Memorial Day is basically like saying “I don’t know what today really means and I’m just talking because I feel like I need to say something”. When in doubt it is better to stay silent, smile and nod then to speak and reveal you don’t understand what Memorial Day is about! If you feel like you need to say something to a Veteran consider something like this “I am so glad you made it back from overseas. If you lost Soldiers in your unit just know that I haven’t forgotten about the cost of Freedom” or “I am happy you made it back. I make sure to teach my kids that Freedom Is Never Free”.
Do you see how in some of those examples above I was able to take the direct thanking out of the sentence and turn it into an acknowledgment and assurance that I won’t forget about the sacrifices so many made?
#3 What should you do to observe Memorial
Day? You should BBQ, go boating, drink beer, hang out and do whatever you want! I’m serious! Every Veteran wants you to enjoy Freedom and be happy! We don’t want anyone feeling sad or depressed on Memorial Day.......we have to deal with that daily and know what it is like and don’t wish it on anyone. The only thing we ask is that you do something to observe the day AND educate your kids on what Memorial Day is all about. This could include proudly displaying the flag, maybe having a candle burn in memory of all of those who are not here or even just saying something special about the cost of Freedom before you eat as some examples. Make up whatever tradition you want as long as it is respectful and keeps the true meaning of Memorial Day alive. Some people go to a local cemetery and clean off the weeds and other vegetation that over take some of the soldiers graves. You don’t have to know the person to do a kind act like that for them.
#4 Memorial Day is not the start of summer and shouldn’t even be considered the “unofficial start of summer”. The start of summer this year is June 21st!
I could go on with many more examples but my point is simple. Educate yourself about Memorial Day and think before you speak. Veterans like to see, hear or observe civilians acknowledge that their Fallen Comrades have not been forgotten. More importantly teach your kids so that they can carry the tradition of observing Memorial Day on as they get older. Otherwise the meaning of the day just becomes forgotten.
If you aren’t sure what to do or what information is correct or not correct about Memorial Day please reach out to me and I would be glad to get you going in the right direction.
Knowledge is power. Educate yourself and share with others. Freedom is never guaranteed and certainly is never free!
And to answer the question that the child asked in the picture......the cost of the hot dog is over 1,300,000 soldier’s lives who were killed in action defending Freedom.
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