10/08/2026
Between The Visits: When the people you expected to be there… aren’t.
Some seasons of motherhood have a way of revealing the truth about our relationships.
Not everyone who loves us knows how to support us. Not everyone who promises to be there has the capacity to actually show up. And sometimes, the people we thought would be part of our village slowly become people we have to learn to live without.
That kind of loss can be complicated.
You can love someone and still recognize that they aren’t able to meet you where you are. You can be grateful for a relationship and still grieve what you needed from it but didn’t receive.
And I think there’s freedom in eventually stopping yourself from asking, “Why aren’t they showing up for me?”
and starting to ask,
“Where can I find the connection I need?”
That might mean letting a relationship change. It might mean making the first move toward someone new. It might mean finding community in a place you never expected. It might mean allowing yourself to be known by people who haven’t been part of your story for very long.
Building a village as an adult is not always easy. It can feel awkward. It can require vulnerability. And sometimes it means admitting that the village you imagined isn’t the village you have.
But that doesn’t mean you don’t get to have one.
Sometimes the next chapter isn’t about getting the people who disappointed you to show up differently.
Sometimes it’s about finding the people who already know how to show up.
And there’s something beautiful about realizing that your story isn’t limited by the people who couldn’t be there.
Your village can still grow.