Unwed Mothers of Illinois

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12/25/2018

Merry Christmas to all the single mothers.

10/25/2018

10/17/2018

October 11th was INTERNATIONAL DAY FOR GIRLS. We want to share some quotes from many inspiring women and girls who have had a great impact on the world. As they say, you need to have passion for something good, believe in yourself, be brave and just do it. Read these quotes, follow their advice, become the best version of yourself and go make a positive dent in the world!

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” –Eleanor Roosevelt

“If you are always trying to be normal, you’ll never know how amazing you can be.” – Maya Angelou

“And though she be but little, she is fierce.” – William Shakespeare

“The most effective way to do it, is to do it.” – Amelia Earhart

“If you really want to fly, just harness your power to your passion.” – Oprah.

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

“We cannot all succeed when half of us are held back. We call upon our sisters around the world to be brave – to embrace the strength within themselves and realize their full potential.” – Malala Yousafzai

“There are two ways of spreading light. To be the candle, or the mirror that reflects it.” – Edith

“No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written across her face, she will be beautiful.”- Eleanor Roosevelt

“Happiness and confidence are the prettiest things you can wear.” – Taylor Swift

“The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” – Ayn Rand

“You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.” –Melissa Etheridge

“You have what it takes to be a victorious, independent, fearless woman.” ­–Tyra Banks

“No matter what you look like or think you look like, you’re special, and loved, and perfect just the way you are.” ­–Ariel Winter

“Believe in yourself and you can do unbelievable things.” — Unknown

“Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself. Keep fighting for your dreams!” – Gabby Douglas

“When someone tells you that you can’t, turn around and say ‘watch me.’” – Anonymous

10/09/2018

For every victim of sexual assault or r**e we see on the news there thousands of untold stories. Where women, young girls/boys, even men whose lives were changed by ungodly acts of family members, trusted adults, or total strangers. I'm hearing your silent cries in my spirit and I want to encourage you today. Here are three steps to help guide those struggling with the pains of sexual assault, r**e, or in**st.

God does not want you to be miserable. In fact, he died for you—for all of us—so that you can step into who you are in him. Jesus came to proclaim good news to the afflicted, joy to the brokenhearted, liberty to the captives, and comfort to those who are crushed and bruised. As your first step toward redemption and release you need to lay hold of this promise and make it your own. Memorize it. Hide it in your heart. Pray over it day and night. Find other scriptures that strengthen you and blocks the enemy attacks to depress you.

Second step would be to share the burden of your abuse with a trusted friend. Share it with someone who will take action with you. Then take your third step and seek professional and spiritual counseling. I recommend expertise of both counselors.

Know that even if you take three steps forward and one step back, it's still progress. Not everyone will conquer the affects of past abuse right away. But you can face every day because God exists and makes our crooked paths straight. I want to encourage every survivor to have hope. God does not want you to keep your emotions or our troubles to yourselves. Tell God exactly how you feeling, and trust him to help you work through it.

A PERSONAL EXCERCISE. Find a quite room where you can be alone. Get two empty chairs. Set one chair in front of you and an empty chair behind you. While you stand in the middle both chairs should face you. First turn to the chair behind you. This will represent your past. Tell your past how you felt during your incident(s). Talk about your struggles and current pains of today. Be open tell it everything. Scream, cry, yell if you like. Don't hold back. You can even pretend the assailant is there. Tell them the impact of there crime to you but let them know no more. Their crime will no long hang over you. Then tell your past pain this ends today! When you're finished face forward again. Tell your future chair how you want to live. Tell your future how your life will not be dictated by the past. Proclaim your liberty and peace in mind, body, and spirit. NOW LIVE ON, YOU DESERVE IT!

10/06/2018

To you, the WEARY MOTHER. I’m writing right now to you.

You, the mother, with spit up stains on your shirt and toddlers yelling for you in the background and the noodles for macaroni overcooked and waiting for the pack of cheese to spread over them. You, the mother, with the newborn who has not had more than three hours of sleep a night with the baby that cries and cries and cries and doesn’t like any of the 102 tricks found in the parenting article on newborns that you cut out before she was born. You, the mother, in whatever stage of being a mother you might find yourself in and yet there is this weariness that has settled in you.

Maybe your kids are grown. Maybe you work out of the home or in the home or do a mixture of both. Maybe you wish you had a bigger house or that you had less stuff or that you could find a way to manage it all. Maybe you have one kid or a dozen. Maybe you only eat organic. Maybe you prepare some meals from scratch. Maybe McDonalds is your weekly treat. Maybe, maybe, maybe.

All of those maybes don’t really matter. What matters is you, you and what you do when you give of your heart to those children in your lives. After all, that is a great deal of motherhood – it’s that giving and letting go and praying and wondering and pride and hope and not getting weary – all wrapped up in a day.

Motherhood is a great deal of perseverance and belief that today, this day that you are blessed to have, doesn’t have to be dependent on the days in the past.

Brush off all the stuff holding you back – that stuff that makes your heart wonder about the value of what you really do. The I can’t do its, the I’m failing words, the weary sighs, the I don’t measure ups, and all of that stuff. Your kids don’t really care about those words, remember. They just want you. Down on your knee or tiptoeing up looking them in the eyes and telling to them sweet words of I love you and I am proud of you and I am blessed to be your mother.

You are blessed.