05/30/2026
Defensiveness, emotional shutdown, perfectionism, people-pleasing, fear of conflict.
Many of the behaviors that cause difficulty in our relationships begin as survival strategies long before adulthood β but those patterns don't have to be permanent.
Bestselling author and licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon stresses that understanding is key:
"Pain wants to be acknowledged. It wants to be witnessed. It wants to be felt."
At a recent conversation hosted by The Family Institute at Northwestern University (a 2026 Make It Better Philanthropy Award winner), Pharaon joined the Institute's Chief Clinical Officer Nancy Burgoyne to unpack how childhood wounds shape the way people love, communicate, and protect themselves β and what healing can truly look like in practice.
What does that look like for you?
Watch the full panel on MIBTV and explore Pharaon's 10 insights on healing childhood wounds and building healthier connections on Better.net β π below.
https://better.net/relationships/vienna-pharaon-shares-10-insights-on-healing-childhood-wounds-and-building-healthier-connections/