10/07/2026
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Read below from a Survivor:
never imagined that I'd be a purple survivor in my life. I grew up in a Christian home with a loving grandmother who raised me in the church, during those days I came up under a loving preacher and church family. I only knew love in the most respectful way.
Then I grew up! My domestic violence and abuse story began in 1999 with my ex- husband.
We met at his workplace. He sold me a car and chile with the exception of my son, I wish I'd gone to another dealership 😁because if God had given me a glimpse of this dude whewwww I would have been on two wheels out that lot. I was a single mom of two small children who was really just trying to survive life. I wasn't man shopping, I desperately needed a car to get back and forth to work.
After purchasing the vehicle, he called my job to thank me for purchasing my vehicle and then asked me if I was single....chile, I told him yes🙂 He asked if he could take me out and I agreed...lord have mercy!
Shortly after a few dates, he moved into my place with me and my children ( RED FLAG) and thats when the phone calls started from another woman he apparently had a child with in Monroe NC and the arguments and fights started. ( RED FLAG)
Surprisingly, I became pregnant with my 3rd child and commanded him that we'd get married because I was in church and declared not to go before the church to confess my sins again with a 3rd baby and especially in front of my grandmother. ( biggest mistake I made)
Well, the infidelity of this man continued after our marriage. The fights became consistent( now my norm) and then within a year of our marriage he impregnated another woman ( now emotional abuse) overwhems me. This fight landed me in the ER and Cabarrus county jail ( humiliation) I experienced strangulation while we were driving down 85 south in Charlotte with his hands tightly squeezing my neck. All I could do was cry and ask God to let me get home to my children. I experienced strangulation twice with him. One of the scariest thing's I remember was him trying to run me off the road in a neighborhood in Charlotte onto Graham street with my young children. An oncoming Ambulance saved our lives that day as I flagged for HELP 😭 this is just a fragment of what I went through with this abuser.
I was married to him for 13 years before filing for a divorce in November of 2010. Shortly after our divorce he remarried someone a few months later ( RED Flag) and continued to abuse her and continued his infidelity impregnating the same woman again.
God SET ME FREE from that marriage. I already had my mind made up that I would not reconcile that marriage..I was done being miserable. To much damage had been done. had I stayed with him, her story would have been my continued story, BUT GOD🙌
For FULL details you can get my book: BREAKING HIS SILENCE on Amazon today!
My passion is to HELP women recognize who they are and their worth.. NO MAN is worth your peace, sanity and LIFE that disrespects you on any level my sisters.
Me personally in 2026 I have a LOW tolerance for ignorant, disrespectful, low down dirty, cheating, lying, UNHEALED childish men. GOD IS NOT FINNA LET YOU PLAY, HURT OR HARM me, plus I have some strong spiritual sisters/ brothers in my life NOW that I can call on and I promise you, they not finna play with you either 😁 Lord my one brother in Christ waiting on a joker to trip with me🤣
But, because I know my TRUE identity in Christ, they don't have to worry about me. I don't entertain toxic people/relationships anymore. I decree and declare in the mighty name of JESUS that I'll only attract healthy healed people to be apart of my life and me apart of theirs.
My radar is on high alert for 🚩. You have one time to say the wrong thing, sound crazy, look crazy..you are BLOCKED and DELETED
I will never again walk on eggshells. I will not be intimidated.You will never make me feel invaluable. I will NOT be controlled and you definitely won't have NO power over me.
Thats not just for a man, its anybody!
MY LIFE IS CHANGED FOR THE BETTER AND BETTER IS WHAT I DECREE TO LIVE!
I'm FREE in CHRIST JESUS and this is where I plan to REMAIN for the rest of my life!
Let's STOP domestic violence and abuse by becoming AWARE!
You have the POWER within you to stop them jokers!
