I Survived Now What?

11/10/2025

NOT MY WORDS - RATHER A QUESTION/SITUATION POSED FROM SOMEONE ELSE:

“I spent twenty years running groups for men who were abusive and violent to partners and their children. In those twenty years I was faced with all manner of excuses and justifications for those behaviors. One of those "reasons" stands out to me after all these years:

-One man explained his violence to his pregnant wife by claiming she lied to him about smoking while pregnant.

He positioned himself as the protector of his own born child -even as he assaulted his unborn child's mother, injuring her and putting their unborn baby in danger of injury and even death.

How often do men using violence and control cloak their behavior in the justification of protecting the very same people they are harming?”

11/04/2025

Traumatic Brain Injury: Domestic Violence Podcast.

11/04/2025

In 2024, Mecklenburg County recorded 11 intimate partner-related homicides, a significant increase from previous years. Between January 2018 and June 2022, over 15,000 Domestic Violence Protective Orders (DVPOs) were filed. In 2021, the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department reported 5,564 criminal incidents classified as domestic violence, including 1,103 aggravated assaults.

Homicides:

There were 11 intimate partner-related homicides in 2024, compared to 6 in 2023 and 2 in 2022.

Between January 2018 and December 2022, there were at least 29 intimate partner violence homicides in the county.

Protective Orders and Criminal Incidents
Over 15,000 DVPOs were filed between January 2018 and June 2022.

In 2021, the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department logged 5,564 domestic violence-related criminal incidents.

These 2021 incidents included 1,103 aggravated assaults and 1,294 assaults on a female.

11/04/2025

If you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end low vibrational relationship or friendship–you won. 💜💜💜

10/31/2025

Last Day of Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10/31/25. Love Speaks Out 💜💜💜

10/26/2025

To every survivor reading this — I see you. Healing after abuse takes time, courage, and community. This space is for you. Together, we can turn our pain into purpose. 💜 Drop a 💪🏽 or 💜 if you’re choosing healing today.

10/26/2025

We made it out — but that’s not the end of our story. It’s the start of a new chapter filled with purpose, peace, and power. Survivors don’t just survive… we rise. 💪💜 ”

10/24/2025

In 2025, domestic violence remains a widespread issue, with estimates that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men in the US are victims of domestic violence. On a global scale, an estimated 736 million women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime. In some urban areas like California, the severity of reported incidents has increased even as the overall number of calls has declined, with a slight reported increase in incidents nationwide during the first half of 2025 compared to the same period in 2024.

United States statistics

Prevalence: Around 10 million people are affected by domestic violence annually in the US.
Lifetime experience: An estimated 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men are victims of domestic violence.

Youth impact: Approximately 1 in 3 teens will experience some form of relationship abuse.

Daily impact: On any given day, domestic violence hotlines receive around 20,800 calls in the US.
Reporting: Many cases go unreported, with only about half of intimate partner physical violence incidents being reported to law enforcement.

Global statistics

Women: Worldwide, an estimated 736 million women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence, with 640 million of them experiencing violence by an intimate partner.

Murders: Globally, intimate partners commit 38% of all murders of women.

Child exposure: About 26% of children under 18 are exposed to some form of family violence

11/18/2022

43.9% of North Carolina women and 19.3% of North Carolina men experience intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner sexual violence and/or intimate partner stalking in their lifetimes.

10/24/2022

Join Us Tonight!!!!

10/24/2022