08/26/2026
So perfectly and beautifully said
There is a part of Dolly Parton’s story that I think deserves to be spoken about.
For all the extraordinary things she achieved, there was one thing she had once imagined for her life that never came to be.
Dolly never had children.
She lived with endometriosis and endured years of painful health struggles, eventually undergoing a partial hysterectomy. She had spoken about believing that she and her beloved husband Carl would have children, even imagining what they might call them.
But that part of the future she had pictured never came.
And I think that matters.
Because there are so many women, and couples, who know the quiet grief of longing for a child who never arrives.
Sometimes, when someone has a full or successful life, we almost expect everything they do have to somehow make up for what they don’t.
But grief doesn’t work like that.
You can be deeply grateful for your life and still grieve the life you thought you would have.
You can know enormous joy and still carry an absence.
You can make peace with what happened, while knowing you would once have chosen a very different ending.
There is something incredibly moving about what Dolly did with all the love she had to give.
She poured so much of herself into children, her family, and through her Imagination Library, into the lives of millions of children around the world.
Not because any of them could replace the children she had once imagined having.
But because love doesn’t disappear simply because it cannot go where we hoped it would.
Sometimes, somehow, it finds somewhere else to go.
And perhaps that is one of the quieter lessons in Dolly’s remarkable life.
A life can hold an enormous absence and still become extraordinarily full.
For anyone whose family didn’t become the family they once dreamed of, I’m thinking of you.
There are many ways to nurture, many ways to make a difference, and so many ways for our love to live beyond us.
Dolly showed us that beautifully.
Zoe ❤️❤️
(Posted on my instagram )