Chandler Nar-Anon Live and Let Live Family Support Group

06/01/2026

We are, once again, sorry to announce that the physical Nar-anon group in Chandler AZ has permanently closed.

This page will be deactivated as of tonight. We hope you will look for other Nar-anon pages and search for in-person or online meetings in your area at:

www.nar-anon.org

Thank you for following our page. We wish you the best on this difficult journey.

06/01/2026

May 31 ~ Nar-Anon Daily SESH Reading

MIND MY OWN BUSINESS

In Nar-Anon, we learn that each person is capable of solving his or her own problems. When we lose control of our lives, it is often because we are too busy trying to fix other people's lives and problems. For me, other people's problems felt much easier to fix than my own; it also made me feel useful.

I once took two days off from work to call the insurance company, and research and call rehabilitation centers to get my loved one into treatment. However, when I presented him with the list of rehabs and the possible times for admission, my loved one was ungrateful. He did not appreciate the time and effort I had spent to help him. Further, when I went back to work, I had missed an important deadline and my supervisor gave me a disciplinary warning.

Nar-Anon step work teaches me that I do not have the right or the responsibility to run someone else’s life. If I continue to try to control the addict in my life, I not only lose control of my own life, but I also rob the addict of the opportunity to solve his or her own problems, in their own way and time.

Thought for Today: If I mind my own business and work on improving my self-control, I will be an example for others around me, possibly even someone I care about. Today, I am neither a controller nor a controlee.

“Relinquishing control is the ultimate challenge of the Spiritual Warrior.” ~ The Book of Runes

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06/01/2026

05/30/2026

May 30 ~ Nar-Anon Daily SESH Reading

TAKING CARE OF ME

I am finding that Nar-Anon can help me in all areas of my life, not just with addiction. My work is stressful and my many appointments require a tight schedule. This past week I had twenty meetings scheduled. Even after my reminder calls, some did not show up and a few called to reschedule. Things were not going as planned. I had expected my week to go smoothly. Before going to Nar-Anon meetings, working the steps and using the other tools of the program, I would have obsessed about how inconsiderate these people were. How dare they make a commitment and not follow through.

I am learning that I cannot expect others to have the same priorities as me. I can take care of myself by planning what to do and to let go when I am disappointed. I can let go of my expectations. I can acknowledge my disappointment, but I can also decide how I want to feel. Instead of feeling resentful, I can be at peace with things the way they are. I can look at the positive and appreciate the people who did show up and understand why some needed to reschedule.

Thought for Today: I will take care of me – my schedule, my feelings and my needs. I do not have to be tossed aside and I can be free of resentment and anger and enjoy my life's moments.

“While transformation results in changes in thoughts, feelings and behaviors, the actual process of transformation does not involve changing these things directly but instead requires a change in perspective—altering one’s core assumptions about the nature of things.” ~ Marilyn Schlitz-Mandala, PhD

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05/30/2026

May 29 ~ Nar-Anon Daily SESH Reading

SELF-PITY

Self-pity is defined as “the self-indulgent belief that your life is harder and sadder than everyone else's.” I spent many of my early Nar-Anon meetings overcome with self-pity. I was married to an addict. In my mind, my life was more difficult than anyone else’s was and I was miserable. The addict was wasting our money on drugs and had even been arrested. I was living with huge problems and I had no answers. I had a right to feel hurt, sad and angry.

At a meeting, I heard a member share that she was grateful to be married to an addict. From an earlier sharing, I knew her life was not easy and her situation was not much different from my own. So I thought I must have misunderstood her.

She explained that if she were not married to an addict, she would never have considered coming to Nar-Anon. Without the Twelve Steps, she would still think the way she always had. No one would have suggested that she did not need to solve every problem. She would not have learned to turn to her Higher Power to handle those things she could not. She would not have learned about gratitude. Gratitude helped her change her perspective. With gratitude, she could look for the good things in her life and take the focus off the bad things. She understood she could love herself and be happy even if she did not have the perfect life.

I had not misunderstood. I was engaged in self-pity and it was self-indulgent. It was time to change my attitude to gratitude.

Thought for Today: If I see myself clearly and honestly in relation to my present circumstances, I will see that I can still choose to be happy and grateful and I do not have to become the victim of self-pity.

“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything good in the world.” ~ Helen Keller

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