Ms. Molly Foundation

12/25/2025

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.

Stay safe and remember that every difficult situation has a "year later."

11/27/2025

This Thanksgiving, your safety and peace matter more than any tradition.
If today feels heavy, if gatherings feel unsafe, or if you’re spending the holiday alone to protect yourself, your choices are valid.

You deserve:

A home without fear

A meal without tension

A day without walking on eggshells

If today doesn’t feel festive, please know:
🌿 You are not alone.
🌿 You are not difficult.
🌿 You are surviving — and that is enough.

Have a happy, safe and peaceful Thanksgiving!

11/25/2025

Domestic Violence & the Holidays: What We Don’t Talk About Enough

The holiday season isn’t safe or joyful for everyone. For many survivors, November–January is one of the most dangerous times of the year. Here are key realities we need to keep in mind:

1. Increased Isolation

Abusers often use holiday gatherings (or the lack of them) to isolate survivors further. Travel, family pressure, and closed offices remove daily escapes.

2. Heightened Control

With more time spent at home, abusive partners may increase surveillance, restrict phone access, or limit communication with friends/family.

3. Financial Pressure

Holiday spending can intensify economic abuse. Survivors may be denied access to money, forced to spend on gifts, or punished for perceived financial “mistakes.”

4. Children at Home

Winter breaks mean fewer safe windows to seek help. Kids may witness more conflict, and survivors may have less privacy to call hotlines or plan safely.

5. Alcohol & Stress

Alcohol doesn’t cause abuse—but holiday drinking can escalate an already abusive dynamic. Stress, expectations, and family gatherings often worsen volatility.

6. Limited Access to Support

Shelters fill up. Courts and service providers have reduced hours. Survivors may not be able to leave the house to reach help discreetly.

7. Emotional Manipulation

Abusers frequently weaponize holiday expectations:
“You’re ruining Christmas.”
“Don’t embarrass me in front of my family.”
“Why can’t you just be normal today?”

These tactics keep survivors silent.

📞 If you or someone you know needs help:

National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.)
📱 1-800-799-SAFE
💬 thehotline.org (24/7 chat available)

10/22/2025

💜 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month 💜
It’s more than bruises. It’s control. It’s silence. It’s survival.

Domestic violence can be emotional, psychological, financial, sexual—or all of the above. Survivors often live in fear, lose their sense of self, and walk on eggshells just to get through the day.

This month, we honor survivors. We amplify their stories. We demand safer systems, better support, and a world where survivors are believed, empowered, and protected.

🎗️ Ways to Support:

Learn the signs of abuse

Share resources with friends and community

Donate to local shelters or survivor-led orgs

Believe survivors. Always.

📍If you’re in danger or need support:
Call the National DV Hotline: 800-799-7233
Text “START” to 88788

🟣 Survivors deserve more than survival.
They deserve safety, healing, and justice.

10/20/2025

It's the last hour to BID in our auction! Lots of items to BID on a make a difference!

Neighborly Reunion may be over, but the Ms. Molly Foundation online auction is still going until Monday! The proceeds of this Auction will be sent to Domestic Violence shelters and Agencies across the United States. Check out our website for more information about what we do! www.msmolly.org

10/20/2025

Today is the final day of the Ms Molly Foundation's Auction. Reminder, the funds raised go to Domestic Violence shelters across the United States.

https://www.biddingforgood.com/auction/auctionhome.action?auctionId=341812307

10/17/2025

Time to say a bunch of thank you's!

Thanks to everyone who stopped by the booth to say hi, express interest in what we do!
Thank you for your donations and support!
Thanks to all the vendors who donated items for our auction and beyond!
Thank you to all our board members past and present for your incredible work!
Thank you for being here with us.
Stay tuned for more content and events. We are very lucky to have all of you here!💜

09/12/2025

"I Forgot Who I Was": Identity Loss in Abusive Relationships

One of the most painful—and invisible—effects of domestic violence is the erosion of identity. Many survivors emerge from abuse feeling unrecognizable. Their values, boundaries, interests, and confidence have been stripped away—not by chance, but through prolonged psychological control and trauma.

How Abuse Dismantles Identity

1. Gaslighting
Survivors are told they’re “crazy” or “too sensitive.” Over time, they begin to question their memory and emotions, relying on the abuser’s version of reality. This erodes trust in their own judgment.

2. Isolation
Friends and hobbies are slowly cut off. Survivors are told others are “bad influences” or “don’t really care.” Abusers mock passions, calling them “childish” or “embarrassing,” causing deep emotional loneliness.

3. Adaptation for Survival
Survivors shape-shift—toning down opinions, expressions, clothing, or habits—to avoid conflict. Identity becomes a mask for safety, not authenticity.

4. Internalized Blame
Abuse teaches survivors to believe it’s their fault. “If I were easier to love,” “If I didn’t provoke them…” This self-blame replaces self-worth with guilt.

What Identity Loss Feels Like
“I don’t remember what I like anymore.”
“I don’t know how to be without them.”
“I used to be creative. Now I just survive.”
“I don’t feel like a person—just a shadow.”

Rebuilding Identity After Abuse

Reconnection: Journaling, therapy, and exploring preferences can restore autonomy—one small choice at a time.

Therapy: Trauma-informed professionals can help survivors unlearn distorted beliefs and rebuild self-trust.

Support: Safe, validating relationships counter years of gaslighting.

Expression: Art, movement, and storytelling help survivors reclaim their voice.

Healing takes time—but identity can be rebuilt. And it begins with believing: you were never the problem.