08/05/2026
Grief has a way of changing what matters. I relate to this wholeheartedly. I have to choose every single day, even nearly 13 years later, how I survive my son Richard’s death. That is my reality. Learning how to care for myself and protect my peace is different now, and I am 100% unapologetic about how I do it.
After experiencing a significant loss, you may find that surface-level conversations leave you feeling empty, small talk feels draining, and shallow connections become unbearable in a way you can no longer tolerate.
You start becoming more intentional about where you spend your time, who you spend it with, and how you protect your energy. And no, this is not selfish. It is a healthy response to survival after something that has permanently changed you.
It’s okay if your circle becomes smaller. It’s okay to only make space for deeper, more meaningful connections.
It’s even okay if you choose peace over obligation.
Sometimes that means changing careers. Sometimes it means approaching your current profession differently, creating healthier boundaries, or simply working in a way that better protects your well-being.
Sometimes it means taking a break from “peopling.” 😉 You may find your way back to it someday… or you may discover that your life feels healthier with fewer demands on your emotional energy. Either way, that’s okay.
Grief changes us. It teaches us to listen more closely to our minds, bodies, and hearts. Only you know what helps prevent emotional overload and what allows you to navigate this lifelong journey in a way that feels sustainable.
You are allowed to give yourself permission and to honor what you need and NOT what others expect from you!
If this resonates with you, know you’re not alone. ❤️🩹