Stop the Silence Foundation

10/17/2026

💜 Tonight is still about the survivors! 💜

While we weren't able to move forward with the Stop the Silence Charity Ball this year, we are SO incredibly grateful to our amazing partners, the Shoshone-Bannock Victim's Assistance Program and Fort Hall Recreation Center, for continuing to make tonight possible!

Being able to still come together as a community, raise awareness, and show our support for survivors means more to us than we can express.

To everyone who planned on attending the Stop the Silence Charity Ball, we would LOVE for you to come out tonight and support this event ! 💜

Our plans may have changed, but our mission hasn't. And we're so thankful to have community partners who believe in that mission just as much as we do.

We hope to see you tonight! 💜

10/12/2026

10/05/2026

I seen someone post "would’ve left after the dress.” But dude that’s literally the point. It was never just the dress.There’s this scene where he asks if she found a babysitter. She says her sister can watch the kid and he just looks at her.
That’s it.
To somebody else, he rolled his eyes.
watching it as someone who has been in it
I knew exactly what that look meant.
I knew she did it wrong, knew somehow she should’ve known how he wanted it done without him having to tell her.
And I knew there was going to be a thing about why she can’t do one simple f'n thing right.
All from a look.
THAT is the part of domestic violence that is so hard to explain Because everybody else sees an eye roll. You see the warning.
Everybody else sees him squeeze your leg under the table.
You know it means shut the fudge up.
Everybody else sees the dress they don’t see everything that taught her what would happen if she wore it anyway.
And then you watch this incredibly successful woman accept an award for HER accomplishment and she immediately starts making herself smaller and giving the credit back to him.
People look at women like her and think, How could someone so smart and successful let a man control her like that?
But after doing Stop the Silence and having so many survivors trust me with their stories, this is the part that genuinely burns my biscuits:
Most times I know what their abuser is about to say in their story before they even finish telling me.
Different women.Different men. Different lives.Same accusations. Same humiliation.Same impossible rules. Same moving goalposts. Same slow process of teaching a person to question their self.
These people aren't stupid. Some of the survivors I've met are some of the smartest, kindest, most accomplished people I know and sometimes I think that's part of the appeal because what bigger ego boost could there for someone obsessed with pretending to be better than they actually are, than to break down someone who naturally has characteristics they fake.
That is evil.
So when somebody says, "I would've left after the dress.”Maybe you would have. But she didn't get to the dress in one day.You saw the dress. You saw the eye roll. She saw everything that came after it. 💜
Death saved my life watch it its good
Also, even though i'm not doing the ball this year, our Forthall partners are doing a karaoke dance October 17th to raise awareness for domestic violence

10/03/2026

We ask why she didn’t tell anyone.

Sometimes she did.

It just didn’t sound like:
“I’m being abused. Please help me.”

Sometimes it sounded like:

“I’m scared.”
“He checks where I am.”
“I’m not allowed to talk to them anymore.”
“I’m miserable.”
“I can’t leave.”

And sometimes, when she finally said those things, she heard:

“Well, if you’re not going to leave, it must not be that bad.”

Maybe we need to spend less time asking why survivors don’t speak up—and more time learning how to hear them when they do.

💜 Your Voice Matters.

10/02/2026

Interested? Send us an email with your name, phone number, and a quick note letting us know you’d like more information. We’ll send you our Board Member Information & Interest Form! 💜

[email protected]

09/23/2026

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09/19/2026

In “I Am Not Forgotten” by Carter Guthrie, the author shares their experiences with suicidal thoughts, a su***de attempt, and ongoing professional care. Carter knows pain and heaviness, and they want you to know that they sees yours, too, and that we are capable of staying and focusing on “the next right thing.”

We invite you to read Carter’s words in honor of Su***de Prevention Month at https://twloha.com/blog/i-am-not-forgotten/.

09/13/2026

This is what community is all about.

Although we weren’t able to make the Stop the Silence Charity Ball happen this year, we’re so grateful to these incredible programs for keeping October 17th meaningful and including Stop the Silence in what they’re creating.

This is exactly why bringing programs together has always been so important to us. When we work together, we reach more people, share more resources, and create a stronger community for survivors. 💜

We’re excited to sponsor the decorations for this event and even more excited about what’s ahead as we rebuild our board and prepare for the future of Stop the Silence.

If you were planning to attend the Ball, come spend October 17th with us here instead! Wear your purple, show your support, and help us recognize Domestic Violence Awareness Month. 💜

08/25/2026

This was not an easy decision, but it is the right one.

The reality is that an event of this size takes an incredible amount of time, funding, sponsorship, and support to do it the way it deserves to be done. Based on where we currently are, moving forward with the ball simply doesn’t make sense financially—and I’m not willing to host an event just for the sake of saying we did it.

The entire purpose of Stop the Silence has always been to make an impact. If the cost of putting on the event outweighs what we are able to give back to domestic violence programs, then we need to be willing to change the plan.

But I want to make one thing VERY clear:

Canceling the ball does not mean I am giving up on Stop the Silence. 💜

Instead, I’m choosing to use the remainder of this year to restructure, rebuild our board, strengthen the relationships we’ve made, and figure out what Stop the Silence needs to look like moving forward.

Sometimes protecting something you believe in means being willing to change the way you’re doing it.

To every sponsor, beneficiary, business, volunteer, community member, and person who has supported this event—thank you. Truly. Your support has meant more than I can put into words, and I will be reaching out directly to those impacted by this change.

This isn't the ending I originally thought we were headed toward.

It's a pivot.

And I genuinely believe it gives Stop the Silence the opportunity to come back stronger, more sustainable, and capable of making the kind of impact this mission was created for. 💜

The 2026 Charity Ball is canceled.
The mission isn't.

— Sydnee
Stop the Silence

08/14/2026