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Sometimes, the best way to grieve is to slow down for a second
06/18/2026

Sometimes, the best way to grieve is to slow down for a second

06/17/2026

Grief can get complicated when the person you lost was also someone you had unfinished pain with.

In this clip from Enduring Grief, Aurena shares what it was like to grieve her mom while also realizing there were parts of their relationship that still hurt.

After her mom died, she thought maybe it was time to put the painful parts behind her. But as she started building a future with her partner, old comments and old wounds started coming back up.

And then her sister offered something that stayed with her:
You do not have unfinished business with your mom as an evolved soul.
You have unfinished business with your mom as a human being.

Because grief does not erase the full truth of a relationship.

You can love someone deeply and still need to tend to the parts of you that were hurt by them.
You can miss someone and still be honest about what was painful.
You can carry love, grief, anger, tenderness, and healing all at once.

This conversation with Aurena is a gentle reminder that grief is not always simple, and we do not have to make someone perfect in order to keep loving them.

Listen to the full episode of Enduring Grief with Sarah Peterson and Aurena, co-creator of the Planet Grief deck.

One of the hardest things about losing someone is realizing that the love does not just stop.Their physical presence is ...
06/15/2026

One of the hardest things about losing someone is realizing that the love does not just stop.

Their physical presence is gone, and everything feels different.

- The routines are different.
- The conversations are different.
- The little moments you shared are different.

But the love is still there.

It shows up in a memory.
In a story you still tell.
In a song, a place, a date, or some ordinary moment that suddenly brings them back to you.

Sometimes it feels comforting.
Sometimes it hurts so much you do not know what to do with it.

That is part of what makes grief so painful.

The love still has somewhere it wants to go.

Maybe healing is not about letting that love go.

Maybe it is learning how to carry it differently.

Grief can feel incredibly lonely sometimes.Even when people care about you.Even when you are surrounded by others.Becaus...
06/11/2026

Grief can feel incredibly lonely sometimes.

Even when people care about you.

Even when you are surrounded by others.

Because loss can create a kind of distance that is hard to explain to people who have not lived it.

Sometimes you may feel like nobody fully understands what this version of your life feels like now.

And that can make the weight of grief feel even heavier.

But you do not have to carry it all by yourself.

You deserve spaces where you can be honest about what hurts.

Spaces where you do not have to pretend you are okay.

Spaces where your grief does not feel rushed, minimized, or uncomfortable for other people.

Because being supported will never take away the love you have for the person you lost.

And you were never meant to walk through pain completely alone.

06/10/2026

In this clip from Enduring Grief, I share what it was like to be supported by my friend Katie Hartley after the death of my daughter, Marley. Katie is a hospice nurse and someone who naturally wants to bring comfort and healing, but together we learned that some suffering is beyond anything anyone can solve.
Instead of trying to fix my grief, she stayed.

She showed up.
She helped with what was practical.
She offered love without expectations.
She reminded me that being present, even when it feels like it is not enough, can matter more than we realize.

One of the greatest gifts I received during my grief was having people who were willing to stay close, even when there were no words to make things better.

Listen to the full episode of Enduring Grief with me and Katie Hartley, a heartfelt conversation about friendship, practical support, and the quiet power of simply being present.

Here is the truth...Some days grief feels louder than others.Even ordinary things can feel exhausting.Answering messages...
06/08/2026

Here is the truth...

Some days grief feels louder than others.

Even ordinary things can feel exhausting.

Answering messages.

Getting through work.

Making decisions.

Trying to be present while carrying something heavy inside of you.

And on days like that, it can be easy to feel frustrated with yourself for not having more energy, more focus, or more capacity.

But grief asks a lot from the body and the heart.

Even when nobody else can see it.

So if today feels hard, that does not mean you are failing.

It may simply mean you are carrying a lot right now.

And the fact that you are still here, still trying, still moving through the day the best you can…

That matters. Maybe more than you could imagine.

One of the most painful parts of grief can be realizing that life does not go back to the way it was before.There is bef...
06/06/2026

One of the most painful parts of grief can be realizing that life does not go back to the way it was before.

There is before.

And there is after.

And learning how to live in the “after” can take time.

A lot of time.

People sometimes talk about grief like it is something you finish.

Something you move past.

But many people are not trying to “get over” the person they lost.

They are learning how to carry the love, the memories, the absence, and the reality of what changed.

And some days that feels manageable.

Some days it does not.

Both are part of grief.

Both are human.

Healing after loss does not usually mean forgetting.It does not mean the grief disappears.And it does not mean the past ...
06/05/2026

Healing after loss does not usually mean forgetting.

It does not mean the grief disappears.

And it does not mean the past suddenly stops hurting.

Sometimes healing looks quieter than people expect.

Sometimes it is simply being able to breathe again inside a life that once felt impossible to carry.

It is learning how to hold both joy and sadness at the same time.

It is finding small moments of steadiness without feeling like you are leaving your person behind.

Because healing is not about erasing what happened.

It is about learning how to carry it differently.

More gently.

More honestly.

At the pace you can.

06/03/2026

Grief changes more than your emotions.

It changes your heart.
It changes your body.
It changes your capacity.
It changes the way you move through the world.

In this powerful moment from Enduring Grief, Pixie Lighthorse reminds us that grief is an inside job. When we stop fighting it and allow ourselves to feel what is real, it may feel harder before it feels healing.

Your productivity may change.
Your relationships may change.
Your sense of self may change.
Your expectations of who you are supposed to be may have to soften.

But that transformation is not failure.

It is part of what grief asks of us.

This conversation is a gentle reminder that grief is not something to rush, fix, or carry alone. It is something that needs care, witness, patience, and community.

Listen to the full episode of Enduring Grief with Pixie Lighthorse, author, poet, teacher, and grief tender whose work helps people build honest relationships with grief, healing, nature, and community.

Sometimes grief feels so overwhelming because love does not just disappear when someone dies.The relationship changes.Li...
06/02/2026

Sometimes grief feels so overwhelming because love does not just disappear when someone dies.

The relationship changes.

Life changes.

Your world changes.

But the love is still there.

Still wanting somewhere to land.

Still looking for the person you used to call.

Still showing up in memories, habits, routines, and ordinary moments.

And that can feel incredibly painful.

Because grief is not only sadness.

It is love continuing after loss.

Love with nowhere familiar to go.

Love learning how to exist in a different way now.

And that kind of love can feel very heavy sometimes.

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