Mothers of Murdered Sons

04/04/2017

Good morning Sisters, one thing that helped me during my grieving is Faith. As a matter of fact that is all that I had, because I couldn't trust nothing else but what God told me and that was to have faith that He would and could bring me through this nightmare. So I will share with you this month words of faith and I hope these words will help you. These words come from Iyanla Vanzant book "Until Today" receive these words to build you up in spirit and health. I will continue to pray for all of us that have lost our sons and daughters.
Psalm 138 in the scripture of the Holy Bible reminds us that,"God's promises are backed up by the honor of God's name. " This means, "God's got your back!" This means that God is with you and for you. It also means that you can depend on God. It can be very reassuring to know that there is Someone everywhere who you can rely on. Still, hearing the words may not be enough. You must understand what they mean. When you understand exactly what it means that God, the creator of all, is standing with you, for you and behind you, a new realm of possibilities and opportunities opens up before you. When you understand that what God has promise to do, God will do, it takes a load from your shoulders. God has promised us many things, the most important of all being, "I will never leave you nor forsake you" Boy what a relief. Until today, you may have forgotten, or perhaps you were not aware of all the promises your Creator has make to you. Just for today , take a moment to remember and reflect on the good things that God has promised to do for you and in your life. "Today I Am devoted to remembering the things that God has Promised Me!

03/07/2017

Faith is the evidence of things hope for.

03/07/2017

Acceptance is the last stage of grief, have you accepted the death of your son or daughter, and what helped you to reach this stage. For some it takes a long time and then for some it is the first stage
of grief that helped them move on. I knew when my son heart stop beating and the nurses stop CPR that my son was dead and he was not coming back. That is the worst part about losing a child, is the real fact that they are not coming back to you. I hope you are getting better, I hope you have had some good days, and nights. I hope you family has not abandon you, I hope you have a close friend you can talk to, I hope you have made special time for yourself, I hope you have release your pain and have asked God to comfort you. I hope you believe in HOPE! Take care of yourself and know that you are not alone! MOMS/Phyllis Duncan founder.

02/20/2017

Hey sisters and brother, thank you for coming to this page. I am a mother of a murdered son, it has been twelve years for me, and he was my only son. Some of you have more years than I do, some just have a month, some just a week. It is all the same, and the bottom line is "Our children are dead, not by being sick, but by someone else who felt that our children should not be here, and some were killed in places where they should been, not where some people say "At the wrong places at the wrong time." We have lived through it, we have cried, we have been sick to our core, we have lost days, and minuets, we have lost relationship, family, and friends. So What! We are the ones that lost our sons and daughters, we are the ones who had to get money together to send our children to the grave, we are the ones who had to walked away, never to see them again. In Illinois we have murders everyday, we have seven hundred mothers who lost their children in one year! So the mental trauma continues, and it will continue to go on even when we have had years of recovery, until we seek some help. Many of the parent of murdered children do not seek help, they rant about it and cuss about it but never go to a support group for help. In order for us to realize our purpose through this we have to heal, we have to accept the worst, we have to seek God, we have to accept our children are not going to walk through our doors. We have to take care of our other children, our husband, our homes and jobs. We have to not be angry, we have to stop pointing fingers, we have to forgive ourselves, and our family for not understanding our pain. This is a journey we must take alone, no one can heal us but God and our abilities to want to get better, and you will. I do not want to go back to feeling like I did when my son was killed, I don't want to feel suicidal, I don't want to not trust people, I don't want to hate my family anymore, I don't want to not be able to go to work, I want to continue to help those who are where I have been. Don't get me wrong I still have days, but I know how to get through them. Don't live the rest of your days grieving the death of your child, because God has promise you better days, beauty for your ashes, the oil of joy for your mourn and a double portion for your pain. I am now resting in the arms of God who has blessed me and shown me His grace, mercy and love. Don't miss out on enjoying a life more abundantly ! SHALOM . Phyllis "Yafah" Duncan/ Founder of Mothers of Murdered Sons MOMS

02/03/2017

No one is addressing the trauma that is effecting the many mothers and their family of murdered victims. MOMS will be traveling this year to areas to discuss this issues. "Healing Hurt Communities"

02/03/2017

MOMS will be meeting for our monthly Grief and Wellness Support Group at the Bellwood Library in Bellwood IL. From 1;30PM-3:30PM. We will be recognizing those who were born in February. Please join us. February 11,2017. Thank You.

Mothers of Murdered Sons are mothers advocating and supporting women that have lost their children t

01/05/2017

IT IS OUR TIME!

01/05/2017

Good morning family. I know I have not written on this page for a while and it is because i want to find other ways in reaching out to you without bring up the same thing.....Death. Even though it has been eleven years since my son's death for some it has only been a day and i want to continue to encourage those who have recently lost their loved one. But what I have notice is that people are and can be still in the mind set of death, and celebrating them by monthly vigils and marchers which do not bring our children back or move us forward as parents of murdered children. Our children are gone and never coming back, we can't go visit them at their grave site and get a response, we must move on , not looking at what once was but to what can be. I must say it took me a long while to get myself together but in the mean time I tried , and prayed, and I did the things I know that I had to do to move on , that is why I say that it is so important for women to join a support group it allow you to open up, express your feelings, your fears, your doubts, and weakness. As the months go by we will continue to see murders and more mothers will be looking for way to get through their grief, and no one can do it for them but themselves, this is a personal journey yet having the support of others make it a lot lighter. Twelve years has gone by for me and eleven of them have been with me being the founder of MOMS and Women Community Leadership Council. It has been a long journey, and many times I wanted to give up, all the support I thought I would get didn't happen but the ones that God sent me, those who really cared are still the ones that call me or mention me still today. I am so happy that I started MOMS and have had the opportunity to meet so many people especially women and their families. As I venture into new grounds and new beginnings for my organization my focus will be on healing hurt communities by visiting areas in Chicago and do workshop and speaking meetings for those who are grieving the death of their loved ones. I will invite speaker such as doctors,coaches, and women who can and will inspire women to be the best that they can be. So as we break this cycle of death in our spirit we will seek God for His counsel and move on to a life more abundantly! I will see you as you move into your greatness....pray for me. Phyllis "Yafah" Duncan founder and executive director.

12/15/2016

TO MOMS.

12/15/2016

PEACE.