08/12/2026
𝗢𝗵 𝗕𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗟𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝗧𝗼𝗻𝗴𝘂𝗲 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗦𝗮𝘆
“For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.”
Matthew 12:34 NLT
Have you ever had the Lord teach you a lesson through an insult? 😳
Well, here’s proof He can and will use just about anything to teach you a lesson.
Recently, somebody at church insulted me on how I was handling one of my responsibilities.
Let me start by saying I don’t have hard feelings toward this person at all. I love them dearly. This writing isn’t about pointing fingers or rehashing what was said. It’s about what the Lord taught ME through that interaction.
The week before, part of the sermon had been on James chapter 3. Between that sermon and this ordeal, the Lord had plenty of material to remind me just how powerful our words can be.
I’m not writing this as a “woe is me, my poor feelings were hurt” story. Along with my constant battle of tongue bridling, I was also blessed with thick skin. My feelings are not easily hurt.
BUT it did bring to mind the importance of controlling our tongue. You never know what battle someone is fighting. You don’t know if they’re already circling the drain of exhaustion, and then your words flush them right on down.
You just never know how your words can affect somebody, whether kind or hurtful.
Because I’m gonna be 100% honest, it was one of THOSE weeks. You know, where everything that could go wrong did? Yep…
I felt like I was being drug across rock bottom by the struggle bus. Most days I didn’t even know what day it was, but I was pretty sure I was already behind.
I was running on caffeine, Adderall, and Jesus, held together by sheer stubbornness, praying it all held while hoping nobody noticed.
My feelings weren’t hurt, but those words landed on an already weary heart. And that’s exactly the point I’m trying to make.
The person speaking to me had no idea what I was carrying. But before I point a finger at them, I had to ask myself: How many times have I opened my big mouth and my words landed on a weary heart barely holding it together?
We don’t know what burden someone is carrying.
Maybe they just lost a family member. Maybe their marriage is on the rocks. Maybe they’re holding everything together by themselves.
Maybe they’re raising a difficult child and wondering if they’re getting any of it right.
Maybe their bank account is in the negative.
Maybe they are struggling with addiction.
Maybe they’re one fake smile away from falling to their knees.
We just don’t know. And that’s why our words matter!
This is something I’ve been convicted of time and time again. So many times before I say something, I hear the Holy Spirit telling me to zip it! “That’s not glorifying Me, nor is it bringing them to Me.”
It’s an ongoing battle, and I don’t always win.
Jesus said, “For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.”
What you’re full of is gonna spew out of you like a shaken up Dr Pepper.
If you’re full of bitterness, hate, and resentment, guess what? That’s what’s gonna spew out when you get shaken up.
But if our hearts are full of Christ, His grace and mercy should be spilling out of us.
Our words don’t just reveal our hearts. They affect our witness. We are image bearers of God and followers of Christ. We can tell people about Jesus all day long, but they’re watching how we speak to and about folks too.
Are our words reflecting the Savior we claim to follow?
Because if we’re supposed to look like Jesus, our words should sound like Him too.
Thankfully, the same Savior who convicts us about our words is also faithful to change our hearts. Because ultimately, bridling our tongue isn’t just about learning when to keep our mouth shut. It’s about allowing Christ to change what’s inside of us. When He changes our hearts, what spills out of us begins to change too.
I don’t always get this right. But I want the words that come out of my mouth to point people toward Jesus, not make their load heavier.
❤️🙏