06/03/2026
What Love Looks Like: A Tribute to My Heart Holder, Madelyn Patterson.
In the work we do at Saffron Trust, we talk a lot about mission and metrics, but the truth is, I can’t do any of this without "Heart Holders." These are the rare friends who act as moral and spiritual incubators—people who don’t just sit with me in the light, but who keep my soul warm when the world feels cold. Madilyn Patterson is exactly that. She is my Heart Holder.
I will never forget the conversation that sealed our bond "always and in all ways." I called Madelyn Patterson to thank her for her incredible support of one of Saffron’s Breaking Bread events, where she volunteered. She picked up the phone with such radiant joy, such a "glass-filled-to-the-brim" energy, that I was caught off guard. It wasn't until we were deep into the call that I learned she was actually on her way to the hospital to address some serious medical concerns.
I was floored. I told her, "Madelyn, I am shocked. With everything you have on your plate, you took the time to help little old me with my event?" I pushed her for an answer—I needed to know what kind of fuel she was running on. She didn't hesitate. She simply replied, "I’m a servant of God!" In that moment, I knew. I told her right then and there: "I want you in my life always." And we have been in each other’s lives ever since, in every way possible.
Madelyn has shown me the profound architecture of a life where "everything belongs." She has taught me what "Sadness in the Joy" and "Joy in the Sadness" actually look like. She is a warrior. She is a breast cancer survivor who navigates the world with a tracheotomy, yet her voice—whether spoken or felt—is louder and more influential than anyone I know. She has reached a level of spiritual maturity that most of us only dream of; she can look at a mountain of a problem and, if need be, surrender, say, "I can’t solve this, but in time, I can outgrow it." And then, in her powerful silence, she looks at me as if to say, "Now, let me show you how it’s done."
Let’s be real: Madelyn is a total badass.
For anyone who is a baby boomer, you may recall that in 1974, there was a movie called Foxy Brown. It featured Pam Grier as a fearless, stylish, and determined woman taking down a criminal network to protect what she loved. It was grit, it was style, and it was raw power. Madilyn is my modern-day Foxy Brown, but she’s running the opposite of a criminal network. She is infiltrating the media landscape to take down every barrier in her way, using her platforms to uplift Black women and restore dignity to the community. She does all of this while operating with the grace of a Wife, Mom, First Lady, Musical Director and the heart of a servant. She is the "avenger" for our sisters, but her weapons are love, media, and an unmatched commitment to God.
Madelyn, this photo of you and me truly captures "What Love Looks Like". It isn't a greeting card; it’s a glass filled to the brim, even when the world tries to crack it. You’ve taught me that true love is always a leap into the unknown, and I am so glad I took that leap with you.
Thank you for being my spiritual incubator, my media powerhouse, and my dear friend. You are a servant of God whose heart is unmatched, and I am in absolute awe of you.
Always, in all ways, Love you