Ally Remembered Foundation

06/06/2026

Here are some conversation‑starting questions parents can use to open meaningful, non‑judgmental discussions with their teens about dating violence. Each question is designed to feel natural, not accusatory, and to help teens reflect on what healthy and unhealthy relationships look like.

Q: How do you feel when you’re around your partner?
Helps teens reflect on emotional safety and comfort.

Q: What does a healthy relationship look like to you?
Opens the door to discussing respect, boundaries, and communication.

Q: Have you ever seen a relationship—online, at school, or in media that didn’t seem healthy?
Allows teens to talk about red flags without focusing on themselves.

Q: How do you and your partner handle disagreements?
Reveals whether conflict is respectful or harmful.

For more useful questions and perspectives on communicating with your teen, visit: www.allyremembered.org/teen-dating-violence

06/06/2026

Stop by our booth and say hello at this year's Aurora Fest!

Aurora’s signature, family-friendly summer festival celebrating the many international cultures represented in the city is back with a new name, new start time and a special headlining attraction in 2026.

Aurora Fest will celebrate “The World in a City” on the Aurora Municipal Center Great Lawn, 15151 E. Alameda Parkway, from 3 to 10 p.m. Saturday, June 13.

The event will feature many of the same great traditions and fun that have brought laughter and energy to the Great Lawn for over a decade. There will be dance, musical and other cultural performances, an international market featuring clothing, crafts and more from countries around the world and, of course, food trucks and stalls offering a variety of international cuisine.

Festivities will start with the Parade of Nations featuring delegations carrying flags from countries all over the world.

This year, the festival will transition to an afternoon start time and end after dark. This sets the stage for a special festival-capping drone show!

Aurora Fest attendees will be invited to feast their eyes on a performance orchestrated by Brightflight Drone Shows. The show is being made possible by the America 250 - Colorado 150 Commission, the Colorado Tourism Office, and sponsors including UCHealth, Tallgrass, and Chevron and will be part of the year-long America 250 — Colorado 150 series of events commemorating the 250th anniversary of the founding of the United States and the 150th anniversary of Colorado’s statehood.

Aurora Fest is being organized by the city’s Office of International and Immigrant Affairs with the help of many other city departments.

Keep an eye on the official festival website, AuroraFest.org, for more information including entertainment lineups and schedules, food and craft vendor applications and more.

06/03/2026

Think you’ve got the best JT Autism build at the upcoming 2026 Charities Game? 🛠️🫟

Bring your mask, sign up, and place it on the judging table to be entered into the Battle of the Builds for a chance to win a unique prize!

🏆 Community-Voted Winner
😮 Featuring the New JT Autism Skirt
🎟️ One Vote Per Player (tickets given at check in)
🎁 Winner Receives a Unique Prize
⏰ Voting will take place throughout the morning, with the winner announced midday.

Need a JT Paintball Autism skirt for your build? Pick one up at our field or order yours from JT before the event! 💸

06/02/2026

Our 8th Annual "Charities Game", supporting Ally Remembered and Dynamic Paintball's Autism program is coming fast on July 12th.

We are pleased to announce for this years event we'll be conducting a Hormesis Paintball Joust. If your a NXL player, you've probably seen Oliver "Ollie" Lang - San Diego Dynasty, the creator, conducting the Joust at an event.

The Joust is a 1 on 1 style competition played with 2 teams, known as Magnificent and Glorious consisting of random players led by a General. There will be 3 Jousts total, 30 minutes each. Winning teams from the 1st two Jousts will play each other to determine the winning General.

Joust Rules:
~Each team sends out a player to play a one versus one point.
~There are 20 seconds between points.
~The winning player of the point stays on the field, the loser must be substituted for the next player in the rotation.
~A player stays on the field playing points until they lose a point or the opposing General plays a Trump card.
~The Joust starts with each team captain and a coin flip. The winner of the coin flip chooses to be the “Initiator” or the “Reactor”.
~The Initiator must send their player out to the start box first. The Reactor can wait to see who is sent out and choose their player accordingly.
~Captains for each team get one “Trump Card” for each match. The Trump card can be used to immediately eliminate any opposing player on the field and can be strategically used to eliminate the teams best player during a point or halt a hot-streak
and force a substitution.
~General must play all players then can choose to play who he desires.
~Switch sides after 5 confirms.

The rest of the rules will be provided at the event.

05/16/2026

Constantly monitoring a partner's whereabouts, whether through demanding frequent check-ins, tracking their phone's GPS, or scrutinizing their social media activity, constitutes a significant form of teen dating violence because it is fundamentally used to exert power, control, and intimidation over them.

This intrusive behavior systematically erodes a partner's autonomy and privacy, creating an environment where they feel perpetually scrutinized and obligated to report their movements, rather than acting out of genuine care. Such actions are not expressions of love or concern but rather calculated attempts to dictate a partner's life, limiting their independence and fostering a pervasive sense of fear or anxiety about potential repercussions for non-compliance.

The constant surveillance communicates a profound lack of trust and respect, serving as a coercive tactic designed to isolate the victim and reinforce the abuser's dominance within the relationship, stripping the monitored individual of their personal space and freedom. Recognizing this pattern of behavior as a clear indicator of abuse is crucial for both young people and adults, as it underscores the importance of fostering relationships built on mutual respect, trust, and individual freedom rather than surveillance and control.

05/10/2026

What a great day for a paintball birthday party to support a very special 10 year old girl who asked to play as her party request. She lost her mother to DV violence so we made sure she was queen of the field for the day. Happy Birthday again Nessie!

And another round of applause to our very close supporter Dynamic Paintball & Airsoft for assisting and helping us host this event today.

05/07/2026

Get ready for this years Charity Game! See post for more

The countdown to the 2026 Charities Game officially starts now!🎗️

Join us and The Ally Remembered Foundation on Sunday, July 12th, 2026 at Dynamic Paintball & Airsoft for a full day centered around paintball, community, and giving back. 💚

This year’s event will feature:
⛳️ Massive recball games on our 5.5-acre field with 100+ players
🏆 Our 3-Man & A Champion speedball tournament
👧 Gellyball for the kids
🎟️ Online auction & day-of raffle
🏅 Contests and giveaways throughout the day
😋 Food trucks and local vendors
⭐ Special guests, teams, and industry names joining us throughout the day

Most importantly, this event helps raise money for and bring awareness to domestic violence & autism. 💚💜

More details, registration info, and pricing will be announced as we get closer to the event, but for now, save the date and get ready for one of the biggest events of the summer!

Defy Sports
Kore Outdoor
JT Paintball
Planet Eclipse
Ugly Paintball
DYE Paintball
HK Army

05/02/2026

Dating abuse, especially Teen Dating Violence, frequently involves a range of controlling behaviors, prominently featuring the tactic of constantly monitoring a partner's social media activities, calls or physical location. This invasive surveillance can manifest in various ways, such as demanding access to social media accounts, scrutinizing posts, comments, and direct messages, or insisting on real-time location tracking through apps and frequent check-ins.

The underlying intent of these actions is to exert power and control over the partner, often leading to their isolation from friends and family, and a significant erosion of their personal privacy and autonomy. Victims may experience heightened anxiety, feel compelled to self-censor their online presence, or restrict their movements out of fear of repercussions or conflict. Ultimately, these patterns of persistent digital and physical monitoring are not expressions of care but rather clear indicators of an abusive relationship dynamic that undermines trust and personal freedom.

Learn more about TDV at: https://www.allyremembered.org/teen-dating-violence

03/14/2026

Understanding Abuse Beyond Physical Harm

When we think about abuse, physical violence often comes to mind first. However, abuse is a complex and multifaceted issue that extends far beyond just physical acts. It can involve subtle and insidious tactics such as manipulation, guilt, and emotional pressure that deeply affect a person's well-being and autonomy.

Emotional abuse, for instance, uses psychological tactics to control or harm another person without leaving visible scars. Manipulation might involve twisting facts or exploiting someone's vulnerabilities to get them to act against their best interest. Guilt can be weaponized to make someone feel responsible for things beyond their control, fostering dependence or compliance. Emotional pressure, including constant criticism, intimidation, or isolation, erodes self-esteem and creates fear or confusion.

These forms of abuse are often harder to recognize because they leave no physical marks, yet their impact can be equally, if not more, damaging over time. Victims may feel trapped, doubting themselves or their perceptions of reality. Understanding that abuse encompasses these non-physical tactics is essential to identifying unhealthy relationships and seeking help.

In summary, abuse is not limited to physical violence; it includes a range of behaviors aimed at controlling, hurting, or undermining another person emotionally and psychologically. Recognizing these patterns empowers individuals to protect themselves and support others who might be suffering in silence. Awareness and education are vital steps toward breaking the cycle of abuse in all its forms.

02/28/2026

As Teen Dating Violence Month comes to close, keep these thoughts in mind about your relationship...

A heart that constantly feels the sting of belittling remarks, designed to chip away at self-worth until nothing remains, is a a soul in peril. The chilling grip of possessiveness, where every interaction, every thought, every breath is scrutinized and controlled, transforms love into a cage, isolating you from the very people who could offer solace.

When your reality is twisted and denied, your feelings dismissed as "crazy" or "too sensitive," you are experiencing the insidious poison of gaslighting, designed to make you doubt your own sanity and judgment. And the looming shadow of unpredictable anger, the constant fear of setting off an explosive reaction, forces you to walk on eggshells, losing your authentic self in the desperate struggle for peace.

These aren't trivial flaws; they are the heavy chains of a relationship that drains the very essence of who you are, signaling a profound urgency to recognize and reclaim your right to peace and respect.

And watch out for Red Flags in your relationship as knowing the signs can keep you out of danger.

Excessive jealousy or insecurity;
Invasions of your privacy;
Unexpected bouts of anger or rage;
Unusual moodiness;
Pressuring a partner into unwanted sexual activity;
Blaming you for problems in the relationship and not taking any responsibility for the same;
Controlling tendencies;
Explosive temper;
Preventing you from going out with or talking to other people;
Constantly monitoring your whereabouts and checking in to see what you are doing and who you are with;
Falsely accusing you of things;
Vandalizing or ruining your personal property;
Taunting or bullying; or
Threatening or causing physical violence.