08/12/2026
IF YOU CAN’T BE CORRECTED WITHOUT BECOMING OFFENDED, YOU’LL NEVER GROW IN LIFE
OH HOW THIS USED TO BE ME! You couldn’t tell me that I did ANYTHING  wrong. It became character assassination. I felt like I failed if I made a mistakes that were noticed by others. I was taught other peoples opinions of me mattered.
(Spoiler alert THEY DONT!)
I grew up in a home where mistakes were not owned. They were dismissed or swept under the carpet. Where admitting you were wrong meant there was something wrong with you.
I was never given tools to work through the hard stuff. I was led by my emotions and when they said RUN, I ran. When they said deflect, I deflected. I refused to take accountability  for my own actions. It was everyone else’s fault before it ever was mine. As if admitting my flaws meant I was less than.
As I grew no one could correct me without me feeling attacked. I spent a good portion of my adulthood blame shifting and refusing accountability. The slightest attack would send me off the rails and put YOU on my 💩 list. And boy could I hold a GRUDGE!!
UNTIL THE COWS CAME HOME AND PIGS FLY.
THAT behavior is TOXIC and unhealthy. 🤢🤮
The thing about emotions is they’re unstable. And if you allow them to lead you through life. You will be as unstable as your emotions. 
I’m not like that anymore. 😌
So what happened ? Glad you asked….
Jesus extended His hand of grace to me. 👑
He showed me my flaws weren’t my identity. That past wounds, old pain and unresolved trauma drove my behavior. Much of it was not even my fault. But the residual was.
I had a choice. I could either allow Him into those dark places to heal what life had assigned me or I could keep going down the same path and become EVEN MORE BITTER than I already was.
The pride in me fought the process for MANY MANY years. Lots of hardship in my life because of my refusal to let go. But AAHH He NEVER stopped pursuing me……. and eventually, I let Him in. And with perfect precision He healed every wound that kept me bound to that toxic behavior.
He freed me! Jesus freed me! 🙌🏼💥🤛🏼
I’m not proud of who I was. I hurt a lot of people along the way. I lived from a place of pain…..and hurt people, hurt people. However this is just part of my testimony and THAT, I AM proud of. I’ll gladly share my struggles if it helps someone else be set free.
I’m not perfect. I STILL have to watch my thoughts so I never go back to what I was before Jesus saved me from myself. But I love the freedom I now have.
I’m happy to report I rescinded ALL of those grudges. There are NONE left out there. I’ll NEVER hold another one again..
To some Jesus is a myth, a  fairytale. But to me He’s LIFE. My life. I know first hand what His love can do in a surrendered heart . He saved me and changed me.
Maybe you’re ready to break free… if you are let this be your hope.

