03/24/2026
At age 5, my uncle started s*xually abusing me.
After my parents separated when I was 18 months old, I lived with my mother and grandparents. I was a happy child who loved singing, dancing, and performing. But when I was 5, everything changed. My mum remarried, and I started splitting my time between my grandparents’, my mum’s, and my aunt’s house. One day at my aunt’s, my uncle began s*xually abusing me. I will never forget that day, marking the start of a nightmare that lasted for 10 years. The abuse affected me both mentally, and physically. I often went to the doctor with sores and blisters, but the doctor ignored the signs and did nothing to help. This made me feel like what was happening, was normal. My stepdad was an alcoholic and his drinking led to violent outbursts, and mental abuse. For 10 years, I lived with constant anxiety, never knowing what each day would bring. Carrying all the secrets, lies, shame, blame, and guilt was exhausting! I left home when I was 16, and became a mother at 18. I knew I had to break free from my past to build a better future for us. I moved away from where I grew up, found a job, and met people from many different backgrounds. Slowly, I started to see a better life ahead. This gave me a new sense of purpose, and I made the brave choice to face my trauma.
I focused on building self-compassion, trust, self-awareness, and acceptance. Healing wasn’t about forgiving or forgetting, but about accepting what happened. I learned that trauma does not define you; it’s your response that shapes your life. Now, at 55, I have built a life I am proud of. My career has taken me across Europe and America. I met my soulmate, and we have been married for 27 years, raising three wonderful children together. I learned that I am not defined by what happened to me, but by who I choose to become. Two years ago, I published my story, “Sacrificial Girl,” hoping it would help others in similar situations find the strength and courage to heal and live the life they deserve. Since then, I started the “What Life Throws at You” website and movement, creating workbooks, guided journals, and healing resources. I am now launching a new project called Survivor Stories – Turning Pain into Purpose, a collection of books on different types of abuse, each featuring survivors sharing their stories of strength and survival. The proceeds from sales of these books on Amazon, will go to charities related to each theme. For support, resources, or more information on the project, see www.whatlifethrowsatyou.co.uk.
You are what you learn, until you learn not to be!
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Child abusers, please stop and seek therapy and God.
Parents, talk with and believe your children. ❤️
Survivors, seek therapy. 💪🏽
(To share your story of abuse, message me)
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