08/22/2020
WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT
MARRIAGE
1. My son, if you keep spending on a
woman and she never asked you if you’re
saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying
the attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to
you, some could be a good mother to your
children but if you’ve found a woman like a
mother to you, your children and your
family, please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of
your wife to the kitchen, where did you get
that from? Even in our days, we had farm-
lands where they worked every morning . . .
that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head
of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look
if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let
your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will
be difficult for her to spend it when she’s
aware of the home needs and bills to pay
but if it’s in your care, she will keep you
asking even when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the
pain in her body is nothing to be compared
to the wound on her heart and that means
you may be in trouble living with a
wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you
live a bachelor kind of life with your wife,
you will soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives
and many children because of our large
farm-lands and many harvests, there are
hardly any land for farming anymore, so
embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did
meet your mother could be your eateries
and restaurants of nowadays, but
remember, the closet thing we did there
was to embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when
you start making more money, instead of
spending on those tiny legs that never
knew how hard you worked to get it, spend
it on that woman that stood by you all
along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or
whistled at the window of your mother
father’s house, to call her out, it was not for
s*x, it was because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your
wife has changed, there could be something
you’ve stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the
bicycle with me before I bought that
tortoise car outside there, any woman that
won’t endure with you in your little
beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any
woman, there are ways she’s enduring you
too and has she ever compared you to any
man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people
call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have
equal right with you in the house, divide all
the bills into two equal parts, take one part
and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I
took more yams to her father, if you don’t
meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her,
what I didn’t tell you is that our women had
prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to
school because I was foolish like many to
think a female child won’t extend my family
name, please don’t make that mistake, the
kind of female achievers I see nowadays
has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked
up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore
it because she was angry, I did not raise my
hand to beat her because of a day like this,
so that I can be proud to tell you that I
never for once beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had
more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t
lie to you, some had minor painting of their
appellation mostly on their arms, the ones
you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget
that they didn’t expose any part of their
body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not
interested in what happens in your
marriage, try to handle issues without
always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your
mother’s first sewing machine for her, help
your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re
pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and
your mother, it’s a secret of growing old
and having children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a
tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that
knows everything, everyday.
