Nevaeh's Hugs

05/12/2024

What grieving parents need but don't always have the strength to say~

* We need you to mention our child's name. Not just on their birthday, but other times too.

* We need you to know that just because we may hide it well, doesn't mean we're not struggling inside.

*We need you to know that we don't always want to have to remind you about our child. We secretly wish you would remember on your own.

*We need you to know that every day is a challenge no matter how much time has passed.

*We need to you acknowledge our pain.

*We need you to know that the memories flood our thoughts.

*We need you to know that all those things other kids their age are doing hurts to see sometimes.

*We need you to know that crying helps us.

*We need you to know that sometimes we don't want to talk, we just want to be held and sit in silence.

*We need you to know it only takes one second to go back to that horrific day.

*We need you to know that the flashbacks can be relentless.

*We need you to know that we're not the same person we used to be.

*We need you to check on us because we probably won't reach out to you.

*We need you to know that it's not only twice a year we feel intense sadness, but everyday we're aware of their absence.

*We need you to invite us places even though we may not go.

*We need you to know that we crave being around others who have experienced the same heartbreak.

*We need you to know why we still have their belongings everywhere.

*We need you to know that we need your friendship and love, but we may not be the best friend in return.

*We need you to know that the guilt we carry sometimes gets too heavy.

*We need you to know that we live in two worlds; half of our heart is here and the other with our child in heaven.

*We need you to know that there's no way you could possibly understand unless you've had a child die too.

-Daphne Bach Greer. 💜

03/20/2024

Happy 8th birthday to my sweet, silly, little angel. It's hard to believe this is your 7th birthday in Heaven. What I wouldn't give to have you back, but I know you are in the best place that exists and happier than ever. I'm sure you and PopPop celebrated big today. I just wish I could see what you'd look and sound like at 8 years old. 😢

I'm so very grateful that you are still touching the lives of so many, including my middle school students. The love, hugs, artwork, gifts, flowers, and mere mention of your name from them, family, friends and colleagues made today a bit more bearable. I miss you baby girl, more than any words could ever come close to describing.

03/10/2024

03/04/2024

My daughter, Nevaeh, loved to give hugs. She was a sweet, sensitive, loving soul. After she transitioned back "home" from a tragic choking event, my life flipped upside down. Losing a child is the most unnatural thing, and no parent deserves this kind of pain. Yet, here we are. I know how difficult of a journey this is and I know how lonely it can be. People who have not experienced it will never understand and that's ok; I'm thankful they don't and I pray they never will. However, I do and that's why I've created this page.

They say "time heals all wounds", well it doesn't. Nevaeh's earthly presence ended in October 2017. I say it that way because she never "left", she's here in spirit instead of physical form. Every birthday, every holiday, every special event leaves me feeling sad, lonely and empty. I know that whenever someone thinks of her, mentions her, shares a story about her, remembers her birthday, etc, it brings me so much joy and peace. I'd like to do the same for my fellow bereaved parents and bring a little glimpse of those positive emotions on your child's special days or holidays.

If you are interested, fill out the form that's linked in my bio or dm me with child's name and any special days you'd like me to know about. I will send you a "hug" in some way, whether it's a card or small gift making sure you know that your child is being thought of and their legacy is still living on. In essence, I'll be sending "Nevaeh's hugs" from one bereaved parent to another.

Please fill out this form with the details about your child. You will be receiving Nevaeh's (Heaven's) hugs soon!