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Helping those who have been affected by someone else's drinking in the state of New Mexico and in El-Paso, Texas.

10/18/2026

“I have been thinking about the difference between expectation and hope. My son is a very intelligent man with three college degrees, but his life experiences have not been what I expected. In Al-Anon, I am encouraged to have few or no expectations, but plenty of hope. Expectation is a strong belief that something will happen in the future or that someone should achieve something. I have been in [Al-Anon] long enough to know that the word ‘should’ raises red flags for me. It is a rigid clinging to an unreal belief—demanding exactly what I want to happen. Expectations are inflexible. When I expect, I think I can control a situation that I can’t. For me, expectations are the breeding ground for anger and resentment and the potential for suffering when my expectations are not met. I can poison my relationships when I continually try to change others to meet my expectations.”

“Hope, Not Expectations,” The Forum March 2020

Sometimes, it’s not clear how we have been affected by the family disease of alcoholism. In Al-Anon, members learn to recognize behaviors that are no longer helpful for them and learn new healthy ones.

Learn more about Al-Anon at:

🔹 https://bit.ly/3jDPexb

10/16/2026

Many people do not realize that living with the family disease of alcoholism – past or present – affects them too. In Al-Anon, members learn about the family disease and its effects and how to recognize behaviors and/or survival skills they may have developed in the past that are no longer useful. Once they can identify what’s no longer working, they can make healthier choices.

Learn more about Al-Anon at:

🔹 https://bit.ly/3jDPexb

10/04/2026

“My father is an alcoholic and is prone to mood swings. As a child, I developed a keen ability to sense other people’s moods and to adjust my actions to accommodate them. While this ability helped me to survive my childhood, I did not know how to turn it on or off, which in turn made it hard for me to recognize my own feelings and take care of myself.

“I was a people-pleaser. I put other people’s feelings above my own. In relationships, I would exhaust myself trying to help the people I care about, and then I would get unreasonable, overreact to insults, and blame other people for how I felt, often hurting the very people I most loved and wanted to help.

“There was a pattern in most of my relationships, but I could not see it for a long time. Many people had tried to point it out—my first ex-wife, my second ex-wife, my estranged daughters, and others—but I could not see it until my Al-Anon Sponsor put it in kind words that I could understand. My Sponsor pointed out that my blowups came from not taking care of myself, not because I was a bad person. It hit me like a train. I immediately felt like I could see that the world was round for the first time. So much of my life made sense. And the best part was that I knew that I could change it—for the people that I love and for myself.”

“The Pattern I Couldn’t See,” “The Forum,” September 2026

If your life has been affected by someone else’s drinking, maybe Al-Anon Family Groups can help. Meeting info:

🔹 https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/

09/29/2026

“I was a great one for dragging yesterday into today. I worried about all the mistakes I’d made. It didn’t matter that those days were gone forever; I had to hang on to them until I’d made up for all the problems I’d caused. What a mess! My brain was so overloaded with thoughts of the past that I couldn’t find a moments’ peace to enjoy the present. That’s why it was so good to come to a fellowship that deals in today. With the help of [Alateen] slogans like ‘One Day at a Time’ and ‘Just For Today,’ I’m slowly but surely learning that today is a valuable gift. If I can put yesterday behind me and make the most of this day, I know I won’t be disappointed.”

“Alateen – a day at a time,” p. 52

Read about other Alateen members’ experiences at:

https://bit.ly/2GoqASj

09/27/2026

Read “Why I Stayed,” from Al-Anon Family Groups’ recovery magazine at:
🔹 https://al-anon.org/for-members/members-resources/literature/magazines/forum-magazine-stories/

09/22/2026

“Although it took me a long time to admit I was powerless over alcohol, it was obvious that my life had become completely unmanageable. However, I wasn’t about to admit that. Even when I had a serious nervous breakdown and considered su***de, I refused to acknowledge that my husband’s drinking had a profound effect on me… In time, I realized the hard lesson that I wasn’t going to learn the magic words to make him stop drinking. Instead, I was going to have to learn how to change my own behavior in order to save myself, since I alone didn’t have the power to save him. [Al-Anon’s] Step One was a giant Step to undertake, and I did not learn it right away. I was going to have to be patient, keep returning to meetings, do my daily reading, and follow the Steps. But I was on my path.”

“Instant Meeting,” “The Forum” January 2019

Many people see how alcohol affects their loved ones. They know that long-term use will destroy their loved one’s physical as well as their mental well-being. They easily assess how alcoholism leads to financial insecurity and a breakdown in familial relationships, among other things. But they often share that they did not realize how it affected their own behavior, their health, and their mental well-being. It’s often not until they make it into Al-Anon Family Groups that they start to put those pieces together.

Find out how Al-Anon Family Groups helps anyone affected by the family disease of alcoholism at:

🔹 https://al-anon.org/newcomers/

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09/13/2026

Many think that the only person who can benefit from a recovery program are the people struggling with an alcohol addiction. They don’t realize that those surrounding the alcoholic also need support. That is where Al-Anon Family Groups come in.

In local and virtual groups, members come together to support each other and recover from the family disease of alcoholism. These weekly meetings provide them with a safe, anonymous place to be heard, feel supported, and learn new ways to deal with their problems.

If you have been affected by someone else’s drinking, consider visiting a meeting once a week for the next six weeks. If you feel better when the meeting is over, maybe you will decide to stay and begin your own journey to a happier, more serene life.

Meeting information is available at:

🔹 https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/

09/06/2026

“One of my worst fears when I was raising my children was that I was a bad mom. So, it was painful to hear my adult daughter’s angry words on the phone… She took the occasion to blame me for her recent episode and her unhappy life. She expressed complete rejection of me as a mother. Thanks to Al-Anon, I had the detachment to know it was the disease talking. After ending the call as civilly as I could, I decided to look more closely at this fear. I remembered hearing in an Al-Anon meeting that fear stands for ‘False Evidence Appearing Real.’ So, what is the truth? What are the facts?

“The first fact is that I love my daughter—deeply—and I still do. As a mother, I did the best I could and continue to do so with the help of Al-Anon and God. The second fact is that my daughter has a mental health issue, and she abuses alcohol. She is not in a recovery program. I learned a third fact in Al-Anon literature: Alcoholics tend to distract and blame others to justify their continued drinking… I will never be the perfect mom. But I am—with the help of Al-Anon…better able to love my daughter through this crisis. And I believe this is what moms do.”

“Not a Perfect Mom,” “The Forum,” May 2026

You can read articles by members who are parents concerned about their children at:

🔹 https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-child/

09/04/2026

“It was heartbreaking to see the way alcoholism stripped away the person I loved dearly, until there seemed no vestige of communication between us that wasn’t steeped in denial or misunderstanding. I came to see how I was suffering bereavement, even though no one had actually died.”

“Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships,” p. 47

Al-Anon members come together every week for support and to find ways to deal with living with an alcoholic family member or friend.

Meeting info:

🔹 US/Puerto Rico/Bermuda/Canada: goo.gl/DcR3qn

🔹 Other areas: goo.gl/V4319R

🔹 Online/phone: https://bit.ly/3j10N09

08/23/2026

“When my son was in a rehabilitation center, I felt such relief to hear that he had a disease. Once I heard that, my mind and my heart opened to the possibility of hope and a brighter future. It was joyous news to hear that I didn’t cause his alcoholism, I can’t cure it, and I can’t control it. Someone gave me … a meeting schedule, and encouraged me to attend more meetings. That is exactly what I did, and it’s what I continue to do.”

“Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism,” p. 4

Find out how Al-Anon members have used the principles of the program to improve their lives by reading their personal stories:

🔹 https://bit.ly/3jXuPDq

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