givingHer another chance

25/04/2024

Have you ever thought about the young mom? Her Struggles? Her Future! We have!

03/04/2024

Their Story
A Poem by: Mphendvulo Dlamini

In a world where love seems to flee,
A young girl's life takes an unexpected spree.
Pregnant and alone, she carries a seed,
With a future that's filled with uncertainty and need.

Rejected by family, she wanders in pain,
Seeking solace in jobs, but in vain.
Her spirit unbroken, she tries again,
Yet, each rejection only adds to her strain.

In the shadows, she finds a new way,
To provide for her child, though it tears her heart away.
Tears stream down her cheeks, as she cries,
For every moment that she must sacrifice, in the eyes of passersby.

Through the darkness, she finds a glimmer of hope,
A proposal from the bartender, a chance to cope.
She yearns for stability, for a life less bleak,
Yet, in her heart, she knows this choice is cheap.

The bartender's charm fades like the morning dew,
As he becomes a monster, cruel and abusive, too.
She's trapped in a prison, with no key,
Bound by his control, her spirit starts to flee.

One fateful day, she fights for her child's honor,
But the bartender's rage only grows stronger.
Her body, bruised and battered, falls to the ground,
As her son watches, fear and confusion abound.

He runs, not knowing where to go,
Into a future that's dark, cold, and woe.
A leader, a lord, a murderer, a ra**st,
He becomes your country's worst nightmare, a twisted twist of fate.

In this tale of sorrow, pain, and despair,
We see the consequences of a life not fair.
Let this story serve as a wake-up call,
For every soul to rise and break the chains that enthrall.

30/03/2024

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22/03/2024

Giving Her Another Chance doesn't just empower young mothers in programme but we also aim to support the young women and girls in Eswatini who haven't gotten pregnant yet by promoting abstinence until marriage as mandated by God and empowering them to live a life in line with Christian values. Through the GHAC program, our young mothers will have the opportunity to share their experiences and offer guidance and counsel to the next generation to uphold their dignity and lead a pure- fulfilling life. By focusing on prevention rather than just intervention, we strive to not only mend broken situations but also prevent individuals from encountering such challenges in the first place, making prevention a key priority for our GHAC family.

17/03/2024

The word we just received from another young person,as givingHer another chance is:
Ezra 10:4, "It is your responsibility to act. We are behind you, so go ahead and get it done."

We are truely encouraged, thank you A.Mkhonta! And everyone else who sees the vision and believes in our work despite the oppositions and odds which we're bound to face.

Mphendvulo Dlamini,
(Founder of gHac)

17/03/2024

As this is Women's History Month we thought to shine the spotlight on Dora Moono Nyambe by sharing an article about her written by, Samantha Bradley, Features Editor.

Dora Moono Nyambe is a 29-year-old woman who was working as a teacher in China teaching English as a second language. She left her job and traveled as a missionary to Mapapa, Zambia, a rural, landlocked country in southeast Africa. During her trip, she was shocked by the extreme poverty and heartbreaking stories that were shared with her while spending time there. Her breaking point was hearing about parents who decided to marry off their teenage daughters in exchange for money. As a result, she decided to quit her job and move to the village of Mapapa to do everything she could to help them. She adopted her first child after a young thirteen year old girl asked her if she could do her laundry to receive money. The girl had been orphaned and was living with her aunt, along with her younger sister. Nyambe adopted the two girls and has since adopted a total of twelve children over the years. After moving to Zambia, she immediately got to work so she could save up money to buy land to build a school for the children. Within one week of living there, she began her primary school.

The school started out with a few kids learning under a tree, but then developed into a mud hut and has now grown to several brick classrooms including desks, books, and chairs. She teaches math, reading, hygiene, and other life skills things they can use throughout their lives that they wouldn’t have learned at home. Nyambe started a TikTok account to share some stories of the children in her village and spread awareness about what is happening in Zambia. Most of her videos are light-hearted and feature the students dancing and playing. In one video she shares, “This is Grantson, he is twelve, he likes to write, and his favorite thing to do is go to school.” She also posts simple videos about the food she cooks for the kids, the students trying ice cream and lollipops for the first time, and the borehole she is building to provide them clean water. Sometimes she posts emotional videos about the unfortunate circumstances that are faced there and how she tries to help: “From an early age girls here are taught that being light-skinned is beautiful, so we have a girl club where we teach them that we are all beautiful regardless of our different shades.” And in another video she shares, “Starving children are a reality, instead of trying to cover the topic up by showing all these nice places we live, let’s be real. Let’s say we know this is happening and how we can stop it from happening.”

On her TikTok, she also shares the stories of teenage girls who are facing being married off by their families: “My stepdad wants me to move out and get married because he doesn’t want to feed me,” and, “My Dad was given money for me to marry the old bad man. He is fifty years old,” and many more stories. Dora pays the family the amount of money they would have received for giving away their daughters and enrolls the girls into the school for protection. Dora strives to break the generational cycle in eastern Africa surrounding child marriage. The cultural belief that marriage is the highest honor in society leads to most families finding it easier to marry off their daughters. By doing this, they can receive money that they can use to barely get by. Since these values have been ingrained into the kids throughout their lives, some who have the opportunity to go to the school decide not to.

Through sharing the kids’ lives and stories, Dora has gained attention about her school on TikTok and has a current total of 3.2 million followers, and has received 103.7 million likes on her videos. She has single-handedly saved more than fifteen girls from forced marriages and provides for starving children. She uses her platform on TikTok to spread awareness about serious issues taking place in the world and is providing a life-changing experience for the children in the village of Mapapa. She does this while also keeping it fun and creating dance videos with her students. She has shown them compassion and has given them the opportunity to have food and education. There are several fundraisers on “gofundme.com” to help fund her work and improve the conditions in the school. Currently, there is a fund to build a high school for her students who are about to graduate from primary school. Without a high school education, she is worried many of her students will fall back where they came from and the cycle will continue. If you would like to help Dora’s efforts without spending any money, simply liking or sharing her TikToks will help her get verified and make more money from her videos while also spreading awareness for the children in Zambia.

16/03/2024

Swazi's Journey (PART 2)

As promised, this is an update on the developments in Swazi's situation. Following a lack of progress from her previous caseworkers after the initial period spent with her sister Busiswa, Swazi found herself in a difficult position. With no support or assistance forthcoming during the four weeks she spent between her sister's place and her own home, Swazi ultimately returned to Antonio, the abusive father of her newborn child, out of desperation for some form of stability and care. This heartbreaking decision has left those at GivingHer Another Chance feeling a sense of sorrow and reflection on their limitations in providing the necessary resources for Swazi's situation. It is a stark reminder of the importance of organizations like GivingHer Another Chance in supporting women facing similar circumstances and advocating for the resources needed to prevent such tragic outcomes in the future."

Our grief has also compelled us to reflect on the individuals who possessed and still possess the means to aid Swazi and had pledged to support her. That moment of contemplation has reminded us that they are the very same people who were the driving force behind the establishment of GivingHer Another Chance and consistently illustrate the indispensable role it will play in Eswatini as many narratives inspiring the foundation of GHAC involve young women nurtured by those same Caseworkers. However, our goal and focus isn't to disparage them, we acknowledge their contribution in highlighting the significant demand for GHAC in our world. We can only thank them for opening our eyes to a new need in society and, learn from all their past mistakes.

15/03/2024

This is a non-profit organization established by the youth for the youth's betterment. Acknowledging the concerns of many adults in the religious community, there may be apprehensions that such initiatives could potentially encourage risky behavior among the youth, leading to increased rates of teen pregnancies. While we understand these reservations, we urge contemplation on whether it is preferable for young mothers to resort to s*x work or unhealthy relationships for survival, rather than supporting them in a constructive manner. Young mothers should not face abandonment and neglect from their families, foster homes, or orphanages which previously cared for them. If these support systems fail, who can these young mothers turn to, especially considering that approximately 80% of young fathers abscond their responsibilities? In such dire circumstances, who will provide the necessary aid and guidance? These young women, though they may have stumbled in the past, still possess potential and aspirations that could contribute positively to society. Shouldn't the focus be on nurturing their abilities rather than condemning their mistakes? By extending compassion and assistance to these young mothers, we can empower them to become catalysts of change within their communities and beyond.

Every young person, especially women, holds the key to unlocking transformative possibilities in our society. Women possess the strength and determination to either strengthen or weaken the fabric of our communities. Their children, born out of challenging circumstances, are not errors but rather future contributors to our society. If a distressed, homeless, or abused woman raises her child in adverse conditions, what kind of future is being paved for the next generation? The impact of young mothers extends beyond themselves to influence their offspring, perpetuating a cycle of challenges within our society. What will be the consequence for our community if these young mothers and their children are denied acceptance and support?

GivingHer Another Chance is not just an organization; it represents the story of a young woman who was granted a second opportunity and recognized the untapped potential in the multitude of young mothers in Eswatini. If the world hesitates to uplift these marginalized young, single, and vulnerable mothers, we will step forward to provide the necessary support. True transformation does not originate on a global scale but stems from the initiative of individuals or small groups.

I, Mphendvulo Dlamini, hold steadfast beliefs in numerous ideals, yet my faith in young women and young mothers surpasses all. I uphold the principle of Ubuntu – I am because you are.

Wishing a Blessed Morning to All,
Mphendvulo Dlamini

05/03/2024

Chapter One: Telling Swazi's Tale
Swazi Mamba is a young mother to Lizwi, aged three, with another baby on the way. Swazi was born in Eswatini, a small country in southern Africa. Raised alongside her younger sister Busiswa, she lost her parents by age six and was placed in a home. Thriving in their new environment, the siblings flourished as they were well taken care of and loved. In 2011, they were relocated to another home, and despite it being very different and unhomely, Swazi adjusted well and even made it her business to devote herself to her academics. After completing her secondary education, Swazi became pregnant after a single s*xual encounter. The directors of her new home are somehow to be blamed because they allegedly refused, on many occasions to provide s*x education to the youth under their care. The Directors believed that keeping youth ignorant of s*xual health would discourage premarital relationships, but this backfired as many girls in the program became pregnant. One may even conclude that they prioritized creating holy virgins over protecting their youth from s*xually transmitted infections and pregnancy. Once Swazi was found pregnant, she was sent back home, to her remaining relatives. But was home really home for Swazi? Was there a consideration for her true sense of home?

Did the Directors care about that? Obviously not! As long as there was a building or two and people loitering around the premises, it was satisfactory to them…it was good enough for it to be home for ‘you’. Relationship building and settling in well, that’s all on you. The most important thing for the case-workers in this story was to simply remove the stain from their religious legacy quickly before others were ‘contaminated’. I wonder - was home truly home for Swazi? I think not, as this is where her real story started: at home, where she was left and no real follow ups were ever made on her adjustment. Swazi has mentioned that her grandmother was in charge of their extended family. However, the grandmother was unhappy about Swazi's return with an additional mouth to feed, given the family's hardships. Only a small number of Granny’s children and grandchildren were in stable employment. Most were facing financial difficulties and struggling to contribute financially. The actions of the Social Workers in leaving a pregnant girl in a struggling household without adequate support are criticized. It is suggested that with the financial security and resources Swazi’s case-workers had already in place, more help could have been offered to her to ensure she could provide for herself and her child independently without burdening her grandmother.
Back to the story…When Swazi returned home the first few months were ok but, the situation became difficult for the grandmother when the child's father stopped providing child support. Swazi's grandmother would start off by complaining about feeding Swazi and her baby, gradually cutting off meals until they had none. Swazi had no one to ask for help but managed each passing day with water, sometimes receiving food from other relatives who would sneak it out of the main house. One day Swazi receives job offer from a childhood friend and she happily packs her belongings and her child and leaves home. This new job calls for her to relocate to distant town and she does so without having second thoughts. But, within just three weeks everything turns sour for Swazi when she realizes that she is just being exploited by the friend. This realisation created tension and endless conflicts between Swazi and her boss-friend until they were forced to part ways. Fearing being labelled a failure and being deprived of food again, Swazi sought shelter with Aphiwe, another single mother.

Swazi and Aphiwe shared a tiny house for a few weeks but, it soon became obvious that they couldn't coexist. Aphiwe was a bully and Swazi was unhygienic. After two or three months of living together, Aphiwe decided she couldn’t stand their conflicts any longer and started implying that she wanted Swazi to leave. Life with Aphiwe soon leads Swazi to meeting Antonio, a Zambian immigrant in Eswatini. Antonio appears kind and good, but in truth, he has been observing the new girl and the living situation with her friend. He approaches her and starts expressing his love for her. Despite her initial reluctance, Swazi agrees to date Antonio and move in with him to escape the toxic situation with Aphiwe.
Antonio lives off random piece-jobs and Swazi tolerates him and their intimacy for the shelter and food he provides. After three months of living with Antonio Swazi discovers that pregnant with Antonio’s child. She is very unhappy about it this but Antonio is overjoyed. This is when things take a turn. Antonio's behaviour changes drastically towards Lizwi, Swazi’s three year old. He starts showing signs of resentment and abuse towards Swazi’s daughter. He even insults the little girl’s appearance. When Lizwi cries, he dismisses her emotions as annoying noise. Swazi like any other mother stands up for her child and this makes her an enemy to Antonio. Antonio begins verbally and physically abuse Swazi as well. He transforms into a tyrant, restricting Swazi's freedom, not allowing her to leave the house or contact friends or family.
Swazi decides to escape to her friend Ayanda's place, confiding in her about the ongoing abuse. They find solace in each other's company before Swazi returns to Antonio's control. The next evening, Ayanda receives a distressing call from Swazi, who had fled the house seeking help. Swazi asks to stay over at Ayanda's due to her distress. Although Ayanda agrees, Swazi never arrives, prompting Ayanda to confide in her friend Theodor about the situation. Theodor becomes invested in Swazi's plight, devising a plan to rescue her with Ayanda's help. The next day, they visit Antonio's house, finding Swazi and Lizwi there while Antonio is absent.

The two friends swiftly move Swazi and her daughter's things to a friend's place temporarily until they find a place for her at a nearby rehab facility. Swazi insists on going back to Antonio after two days of being rescued and it is unclear why. Ayanda and Theodor are upset with Swazi's decision and decide to leave her to deal with the consequences of her decision. When Swazi returns to Antonio he continues to beat Swazi and gets stricter with isolating her from everyone else. He forces her to return to Zambia with him, threatening to not help raise their baby if she refuses. With no choice, Swazi packs her belongings and Lizwi and goes with Antonio. They all enter Zambia illegally due to a lack of travel documents. Life in Zambia deteriorates for Swazi as she faces even more abuse and lack of support. She is not allowed to contact anyone back home nor is she allowed to go for monthly prenatal check-ups. Reporting to the police is useless due to language barriers. Finally, Swazi manages to secretly call a relative twice, alerting her of the dire situation in Zambia. Her younger sister, Busiswa who is still in school receives the news and feels overwhelmed, unsure of how to help bring Swazi back. However, the news also reach Ayanda and Theodor. They devise a plan along with Busiswa which successfully brings Swazi home, but when Antonio finds out, he angrily confronts Ayanda as he knows where she lives and starts making threats. He even vows that he will do everything within his power to bring back Swazi and his unborn child. Ayanda is calm and unbothered by Antonio’s visit. He leaves and never returns.
Busiswa is relieved that Swazi is safe with her but worries about her upcoming delivery due to her landlord's rules about children on the property. She also worries about the lack of resources needed by Swazi which, they both cannot afford because Swazi is unemployed and heavily pregnant while Busiswa is a full time student with a very small allowance. She reaches out to Swazi's previous case-workers for help but the one lady who is the senior Social Worker seems uninterested in Swazi’s story but promises that she would make her superiors aware of the case. Keep in mind, this one is notorious for making empty promises or just taking her sweet time to assist, even when there is a very serious and desperate situation at hand. Will she really do it? And how urgently will she treat Swazi's case? Three weeks have gone by and no response from her or her superiors. What are your thoughts on the Directors in this story, the case- workers as well as the senior social worker? Do you think Swazi will receive help before desperate circumstances force her back to Antonio's household for food and baby support? This is a true story that has been complied by different, witnesses as well as Busiswa and, Swazi herself. This story as unbelievable as it is aims to make many people aware that lots of assistance has gone out to different needs and disasters over the years but not many people have considered the young mother who is struggling in every way and is in need of our help.

Giving Her another Chance aims to help the young, vulnerable, homeless, single, and disowned moms like Swazi. If you come across us on YouTube please be sure to subscribe and Like plus follow us on Facebook for updates on Swazi’s journey and other stories from our gHac moms. Stay with us to see how Swazi's story unfolds.
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