19/03/2025
Coach: What might be the real reason you want to hold on to this anger towards your boss?
Client: It’s my way of justifying that she’s treating me unfairly.
Coach: How true is that – that she’s treating you unfairly by giving you more work because she doesn’t like you?
Client: Well, what else could it be?
Coach: What else COULD it be?
Client: Hmm… (long pause). Perhaps she trusts me more than my peers? Or maybe she thinks I’m more capable? I don’t know… but I’ve never thought about it from this angle before.
What’s the you have always been telling yourself about things? Is it true? What other are you willing to consider?
the problem. the narrative. It’s not about positive thinking or lying to yourself, but being willing to be open to different other than the one you have a vested interest in.