02/10/2024
The Evil of Fraternity Hazing and the Illusion of Brotherhood
By: Dan Leonard Rayo
I pity the families of both the victim and those responsible for his death—lives shattered, bright futures obliterated, all in the name of so-called "brotherhood." What a monumental waste: young men exchanging the promise of their future for prison bars, instead of becoming part of the bench and the bar. All of this for the mere illusion of belonging.
I do not entirely blame freshmen law students for joining these worthless groups (though some of my friends may raise their eyebrows, as they belong to one). I understand that not everyone possesses the unyielding, uncompromising confidence or strength of character like that of Dan Leonard Ladisla Atendido Siwa Rayo. Many are drawn to the false security offered by fraternities. But let’s be real: what kind of brotherhood demands blood, violence, and obnoxiously death-defying blind submission? *©
At UA&P Law, we were required to sign a waiver—a self-declaration—stating whether we belonged to or intended to join a fraternity. The school strictly prohibits such organizations, and with good reason. Yet, even with these rules, students still form cliques, bonding to intimidate or bully one another. That’s the harsh reality of life: either you stand strong, or you get trampled.
I know this from personal experience. I was bullied in law school, but I laughed in the face of it while my friends worried on my behalf. Once, a classmate came to me crying, "Tito, I’m so scared and feel so bad for you..." I told her not to be. Why? Because I’ve lived through enough to know that bullies are nothing but insecure individuals who secretly admire the very people they target. To me, law school bullies were no more than toddlers with tiny fists trying to punch a grown adult. I also added that I eat bullies for breakfast, lunch, merienda, and dinner! But I recognize that not everyone shares my resolve, as I know some who quit law school because of bullies.
For those lacking inner strength, joining a fraternity seems like a survival tactic. It’s a primal urge—to seek protection and avoid becoming prey. This has been part of human nature since the dawn of time. In the past, joining a fraternity wasn’t just about surviving law school; it was about gaining access to bar exam "tips," insider materials, and support before, during, and even after the bar. But times have changed. Today, there’s an overabundance of free resources online. The irony? Students are drowning in this flood of information and often refuse to accept them during the bar review.
In my experience, those who join these so-called fraternities—more like gangs of cheaters and bullies, in my eyes—are wasting their time. They cheat by obtaining recycled exams from professors at other law schools, perform poorly in class because they waste their study time ganging up on classmates, and often end up expelled, graduating with dismal grades, or worst - flunking the bar. On the other hand, those students who steer clear of these "evil elements" (excuse my strong language, memories are flooding back, haha) and focus on their studies, rejecting the false security of these pretentious, wannabe "elite" groups, are the ones who excel. They pass the bar with flying colors and build careers grounded in competence and integrity, not through coercion, or 'Padrino' system.
In the end, it’s up to the schools to act. They must take a stand and prohibit the formation of fraternities, curbing this evil culture before it claims more lives. Fraternity hazing is not brotherhood. It is cowardice, masked in ritual and false promises. It is a senseless cycle of violence that destroys futures and devastates families. And it must be stopped. Now.
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*© Note: "Obnoxiously death-defying blind submission" is my original phrase. I am marking it clearly in my content for copyright purposes to ensure that it is not picked up and used by AI or others on the internet without my permission. Haha