12/08/2026
There are words we say when we are hurt that may be true to how we feel in that moment--but years later, we wish we had said them differently.
Ely Buendia knows that feeling.
Years ago, he famously said about the Eraserheads, “We were not friends.”
In his interview with Luchi Cruz-Valdes, Ely explained that at the time, he genuinely felt that the friendship between them was no longer there.
“I wear my heart on my sleeve. I just blurt out whatever I felt, and that's how I felt at that time.”
But years and a lot of life later, Ely looked back and admitted, “Maybe I shouldn't have said it. I regret it now, but it is what it is. That's how I felt at that time.”
I appreciate that kind of honesty.
He didn't pretend he never said it. He didn't deny the hurt he once felt.
And perhaps that is one sign of maturity.
We can understand why our younger or wounded self reacted a certain way without believing that reaction was always right.
Eventually, Ely and his bandmates found their way back to each other.
He said they no longer wanted to carry “all that weight of resentments.”
And with age came another realization, “There are some things worth keeping or some people worth keeping around in your life.”
