ToughLove New Zealand

20/03/2026

Me: trying my best.
Them: acting like mornings are a brand new concept
🤨😂

19/03/2026

Hands up if your child has ever pulled the old mystery stomach ache right before school 🙋‍♀️

You know the one. They’re absolutely fine until it’s time to get dressed, find their shoes, and head out the door. Then suddenly they feel sick, tired, sore, or completely unable to go.

Sometimes kids really are unwell.
But sometimes those physical complaints are the only way they know how to show stress, anxiety, overwhelm, or that something at school just isn’t sitting right.

If this feels familiar, it can help to pause and wonder what might be sitting underneath it. Often there are little patterns or clues that are easy to miss in the rush of the morning.

And if you need support, that’s exactly the kind of conversations we have at ToughLove.
Send me a message if you want to chat. ❤️

27/01/2026

The holidays are coming to an end, but parenting never really takes a break.

Toughlove Parents Support Group is back for our first online meeting of the year — this Thursday.

A safe, welcoming space to share, listen, and find support with other parents who understand the ups, downs, and everything in between.

New and returning parents are welcome — come as you are.

📅 This Thursday
💻 Online via Google Meet
✉️ Message us for more info for to join in

Let’s start the year knowing you don’t have to do it alone. ❤️

19/09/2025

I’m not *just* tired. I’m “mentally argued with a 6-year-old about socks, survived 3 meltdowns before 9am, Googled rashes at lunchtime, and answered 47 ‘why’ questions” tired.

ToughLove isn’t about perfect parenting. It’s about real parenting.

💻 Real connection
😮‍💨 Brain dumps
🤗 People who get it

Join our online group. Drop the mask. Take a breath. ❤️

18/02/2025

💛 Some days, you’ve got it all together. Other days, it feels like everything is falling apart. That’s normal. That’s parenting.

ToughLove is here for all of it—the wins, the struggles, the moments where you just need to vent. No judgment, no pressure—just a space where you’re not alone in this.

If you ever need advice, support, or just a place to talk, we’re here. 💬

📢 If you know another parent who needs a safe space, invite them in. The more support, the better.

11/02/2025

We all had big ideas about what kind of parents we’d be... and then, well, reality hit. 🤦‍♀️
Back when my kids were little, I had so many ideas about the kind of parent I’d be. I swore I’d never yell, that my kids would always eat proper meals at the table, and that their 'screen time' would be monitored. Guess how that turned out? 🤦‍♀️😂

Now, looking back, I can’t even count how many of my "I would never" rules went straight out the window.

👉 What’s something you SWORE you’d never do as a parent… but now you totally do? No shame, no judgment—just real talk!

16/01/2025

🌟 Mid-Holiday Magic 🌟

We’re about halfway through the school holidays, and while the days might feel long, the years are flying by. These little moments—whether it’s sticky ice cream fingers, late-night giggles, or endless "Why?" questions—are the ones we’ll look back on.

So let’s embrace the chaos, the noise, and even the mess. These are the memories we’re making together. 💛

What’s one fun thing you’ve done so far these holidays? Share below—it might just inspire someone else!

06/01/2025

Parenting is:
• 10% knowing what you’re doing.
• 90% guessing and hoping for the best. 😂

And you know what? That’s enough. Kids don’t come with manuals—they come with messy love and endless hugs, and that’s what matters most.

24/12/2024

🎄 Merry Christmas! 🎄

Wishing you all a day filled with love, laughter, and the little moments that make this season so special. Whether it’s a quiet day at home or a busy gathering, take time to enjoy the magic of the season.

Just remember - you are the best gift your kids could ever receive. ❤️

Merry Christmas, from our family to yours.

18/12/2024

Christmas can be a mix of magic and mayhem, and we get it—parenting at this time of year can feel like juggling chaos. 🎄✨
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone. Take a breath, let go of perfection, and remember: what your kids will remember most is the love 💝

Our 2024 meetings might be done, but we’re still here. Whether it’s a question, a tough day, or just needing someone to listen, we’re just a message away over the holidays.

Our first meeting of 2025 will be on 30th January, and we can’t wait to see you there! ⛄

12/12/2024