22/09/2026
I came across this today and thought it was such an interesting read to share.
It gave me a really helpful perspective on how children learn skills like patience, listening, self-control, turn-taking and coping with big feelings. Sometimes it is easy to keep reminding children what they need to do, but this is a great reminder that they often learn best through play, practice and seeing us model these skills too.
Hopefully it offers something useful for other parents and caregivers as well. 💛
We tell kids to “be patient.”
“Wait your turn.”
“Stop interrupting.”
“Use a quieter voice.”
“Think before you do something.”
“Be a good sport.”
And then we wonder why saying it a hundred times isn’t actually teaching the skill.
Because telling a child what to do and teaching their brain how to do it are two different things.
And one of the best ways to teach little kids?
Speak their language.
PLAY.
Want to build impulse control?
Play Red Light, Green Light.
Want them to practice stopping their body?
Freeze Dance.
Want to work on listening and following directions?
Simon Says.
Want to practice volume control?
Play a game where you switch between silly loud voices, regular voices, and whispers.
Want to build problem-solving skills?
Give them puzzles, building challenges, and little pretend-play problems to solve.
Want them to get better at losing?
Play games. Let them lose sometimes. Let them watch YOU lose and model what you do with the disappointment.
Want to build patience?
Give them lots of tiny, manageable opportunities to wait, take turns, and anticipate what comes next.
Because kids don’t learn these skills because we explained them really well. Over and over.
They learn through practice.
And practice doesn’t have to look like a lesson.
It can look like running around the kitchen yelling RED LIGHT.
There is almost always a way to turn the skill your child is struggling with into something they can actually experience and practice.
Less lecturing.
More doing.
More playing.
More opportunities for their brain to actually build the skill.
(Ray of sunshine patenting)