NZ Families Fed up with the Family Court

13/09/2026

Who would really want to have kids and build a family if they knew that, if the relationship ever broke down, it could end like this?

Years of conflict. Court proceedings. Legal bills. Stress. Trauma. Parents exhausted. Children caught in the middle.

And then we wonder why people are becoming more hesitant about marriage, relationships and having children.

A family justice system should help families resolve conflict — not deepen it.

We need to get far more serious about resolution, de-escalation and helping parents close their disputes rather than allowing conflict to become a way of life.

12/09/2026

Just try to be a parent who is dragged through the court - then you will understand ... 😒

10/09/2026

Meanwhile in UK ................. Since when did the best interests of the child mean suspending a child’s relationship with a parent so the other parent can heal?”

https://todaysfamilylawyer.co.uk/family-court-suspends-contact-between-father-and-child-to-allow-mother-to-recover-from-complex-ptsd/

10/09/2026

That is a pretty extraordinary admission from the Women’s Refuge CEO.

So the on-notice process is too big, too complicated and too bloody slow, therefore mums are left with “no other choice” but to go without notice?

That is exactly the problem.

The without-notice pathway is supposed to be for genuine urgency and risk, not a shortcut around a crap system.

Because once the faster pathway gives someone an immediate tactical advantage, you create an obvious incentive to overstate risk, exaggerate allegations or manufacture urgency.

And no, this is not just women. Plenty of dads can play the same game.

Fix the bloody system.

NZ Women's Refuge Chief Executive Ang Jury revealing how vengful to...

09/09/2026

Politics 👎

1️⃣ Create vague, complex laws and a system only lawyers can understand.
2️⃣ Pretend you provide access to justice.
3️⃣ Force ordinary people to pay thousands just to navigate it.
4️⃣ Then blame them when they cannot understand the system, follow the process, or afford to keep going.

09/09/2026

We came across a company financing family-law legal fees.

We are not naming them. They do not need the free advertising.

Since when did debt become “access to justice”?
- Calling this “access to justice” is rubbish.

Families already get financially smashed by separation. Now the answer is apparently to give them more debt so the legal fight can keep going.

That risks creating an open tab for litigation:

More letters. More applications. More arguments. More fees and Family Court lawyer will LOVE it !!

Access to credit is not access to justice.

If the system is so expensive that ordinary Kiwi families need finance just to participate in it, then the problem is the system — not their credit limit.

09/09/2026

- Another failure by the ministry of justice and their minister. Guess why not many people want to do FDR? Because "Angry vindictive ex's find it easier to get revenge through the court ........

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07/09/2026

Yes 💯.. too many in the Family Court given this label "victim" and they stay stuck with this label. Go to women refuge and many other organisations doing the same sh*t

07/09/2026

“Would you be defending them based on psychosis?”

To the crazy ones supporting those murders / babies killers - Funny how they go straight to blame “psychosis” and suddenly the poor kids who were killed barely get a mention.

Mental illness matters, sure. But so do the innocent, vulnerable children who lost their lives.

Maybe spare a thought for them too.

07/09/2026

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You cannot expect an adversarial system to solve family problems, when it is built to fuel it & profit from it.