Dear Effie Charitable Trust

Dear Effie Charitable Trust ✨We are here to help support our young people & Families through Grief✨

Grief lives in our bodies too. Sometimes gently moving your body can help support your nervous system, lift your mood, r...
29/09/2026

Grief lives in our bodies too.
Sometimes gently moving your body can help support your nervous system, lift your mood, release some of that built-up stress and even help with sleep.
But please don't feel like you have to exercise your way through grief.
Some days it's a workout.
Some days it's a walk around the block.
Some days it's stretching.
And some days, getting out of bed is enough.
There is no right way to move through grief.
Move when it feels good. Rest when you need to. Be gentle with the body that's carrying you through it.
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Round TWO & THREE of our Grief & Sip are here! No speeches.No awkward icebreakers.No pressure to talk about your grief i...
25/09/2026

Round TWO & THREE of our Grief & Sip are here!
No speeches.
No awkward icebreakers.
No pressure to talk about your grief if you don’t want to.
Just coffee, connection and a bunch of people who understand that grief doesn’t always look the way you expect it to.

📍 ASHBURTON - ROUND TWO
Wednesday 28th October | 11am
Cleavers Corner
159 West Street, Ashburton

📍 CHRISTCHURCH - ROUND THREE
Tuesday 3rd November | 11am
C1 Espresso
Corner of High & Tuam Street

Come for a coffee.
Come for a chat.
Come because you’re having a rough day.
Come because you’re having a great day and suddenly miss someone.
Or just come because you don’t want to feel quite so alone in it all.
You don’t need to “do” grief perfectly. Just come as you are - everyone is welcome.

Flick us a DM if you would like to come along and tag someone who might like to join you or better yet, send them this post and say “fancy a coffee?”
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Grief can be weird.And if you’ve never experienced it, some of the things grief can make you feel might be really hard t...
23/09/2026

Grief can be weird.
And if you’ve never experienced it, some of the things grief can make you feel might be really hard to understand.
You can feel completely fine one minute and completely broken the next.
You can feel jealous of people who still have what you’ve lost.
You can laugh, feel guilty for laughing and then suddenly be overwhelmed by sadness.
You can miss the person who died, while also missing the person you were when they were here.
None of it makes you selfish, dramatic or “not coping”.
Grief is complicated.
It doesn’t always make sense and until you’ve experienced it, some parts of it can be almost impossible to understand.
So if someone you love is grieving, you don’t need to understand every part of it.
Just be gentle with them.
Give them space.
Listen without trying to fix it.
And remember that grief can look very
different from one day to the next.
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09/09/2026

Just a little reminder of Dear Effie’s first Grief and Sip coffee group happening next week!
•Tuesday 15th Sept
•11am
•c4 Espresso, Christchurch

Flick ya a DM if you would like to come along

Fathers Day can be full of love but, also longing. If you are missing your Dad or if you are a Dad who is missing your c...
06/09/2026

Fathers Day can be full of love but, also longing. If you are missing your Dad or if you are a Dad who is missing your child, please know your grief and love both matter.
We are sending love to every story of fatherhood. The joys, the aches and the love that never fades.
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We’re proud to support Grief Education in Schools Aotearoa (GESA) and this incredibly important petition. At Dear Effie,...
31/08/2026

We’re proud to support Grief Education in Schools Aotearoa (GESA) and this incredibly important petition.

At Dear Effie, we know firsthand how important it is for children to have the understanding, language and support they need when grief enters their lives.
Grief is a part of life. We believe our tamariki deserve to be prepared for it.

Please take a minute to sign and share the petition. Together, we can help make grief education part of every child’s education in Aotearoa.

https://our.actionstation.org.nz/petitions/no-child-should-face-grief-unprepared-grief-education-belongs-in-every-school

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When a child is grieving, their questions can sometimes leave us searching for the right words.But there doesn't always ...
26/08/2026

When a child is grieving, their questions can sometimes leave us searching for the right words.
But there doesn't always need to be a perfect answer. Sometimes, what they need most is for us to stay, listen, be honest and help them through whatever they're feeling.
Their understanding of grief will change as they grow and they may ask the same questions many times.
We can't take away their grief, but we can make sure they never have to carry it alone.
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You’ve asked and we’ve listened. 🤍☕️We’ve had so many conversations with people who are grieving who have said they’d lo...
19/08/2026

You’ve asked and we’ve listened. 🤍☕️
We’ve had so many conversations with people who are grieving who have said they’d love a space to simply come together, have a coffee and be around people who get it.
So… Grief & Sip is here.
A casual coffee catch-up for people navigating life after loss. No formal support group, no pressure to talk, no expectation to share your story and definitely no fixing.
Just coffee, connection and a space where you can come exactly as you are.
Because grief can feel incredibly lonely and sometimes you don’t need advice or answers. Sometimes you just need a coffee, a chat and to know you’re not the only one carrying this.
Come for the coffee.
Stay for the connection.
Or just come and sit quietly - that’s okay too.
🤍 A coffee. A chat. A little less alone.
📍 C1 Espresso - Corner of High and Tuam Streets, Christchurch.
📅 Tuesday 15th September.
⏰ 11am.
Spaces will be limited, so send us a DM if you’d like to join us.
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All the things that are “Kind of Chic” 💕🌈🧘🏼‍♀️🎉Grief isn’t something that needs to be overcome. It’s something we learn ...
13/08/2026

All the things that are “Kind of Chic”
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Grief isn’t something that needs to be overcome. It’s something we learn to live alongside - while still laughing, celebrating, resting, growing, feeling deeply and finding the beauty in the little things.
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Grief doesn't just change how we feel.It changes how we show up.We overthink our answers.We say, "I'm fine."We avoid cer...
22/07/2026

Grief doesn't just change how we feel.
It changes how we show up.
We overthink our answers.
We say, "I'm fine."
We avoid certain places.
We use dark humour.
We tell our story in a way that protects others from the full weight of our pain.
Not because we're okay. Because we've learnt it's often easier than making someone else feel uncomfortable.

If you've found yourself doing any of these, you're not alone.
And if you love someone who is grieving, remember this: you don't need to have the perfect words. You don't need to fix us. The greatest gift you can give is creating a space where we don't feel like we have to protect you from our grief.
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