20/04/2026
Female 24
I have been in a long-distance relationship for the past few months. In the beginning, he treated me with respect, care, and support, which made me feel secure and loved. However, whenever I asked to meet him, he would make excuses, saying he was busy. Most of the time, I had to beg him and even cry just to convince him to meet me. After four months, we finally met, but only because I forced it. Even then, we couldnāt spend proper time together due to travel issues, and I had to return home.ialso noticed that whenever I commented on his posts with affection, he would hide my comments. When I asked him to post about me, he refused. In the past, when I asked to see his phone, he didnāt show me, and I stayed quiet because I trusted him. Despite all this, he would talk about our future together, which made me believe he was serious about us.
At one point, another girl messaged me asking about our relationship. When I told her we had been together for three months, she said she had met him four months ago and warned me not to trust him blindly. I ignored her and didnāt confront him because I believed everyone has a past, and I didnāt want to interfere.
Later, I found out that he had been in a relationship with another new girl for 11month. He would sometimes ask me what I would do if he cheated, and I always said I would leave quietly. I asked him many times if he had someone else, and he always denied it.
I started noticing strange behavior. He would block me when he went out and unblock me when he came home. He deleted chats and avoided showing proof when I asked. Still, I stayed calm and understanding because I didnāt want to argue. I respected his space, never disturbed him when he said he was busy or with friends, and trusted him completely. Sometimes, I would jokingly ask if he was meeting other girls, and he would say yes jokingly. I didnāt take it seriously at that time. But later, I realized that whenever he said he was out, busy, or sleeping, he was actually meeting that girl. While I thought he was working or resting, he was giving his time to her.Even after I found out, he told me he would leave her and stay with me. I trusted him again, but then I discovered they were still meeting. He even chose her at one point, saying he wanted to āfixā things with her, and then came back to me later. He also suggested taking a break and said he would be with me later, but I refused.Now, he says I can come meet him anytime I want, but I still feel like he is cheating. He says he doesnāt talk to her anymore, but I cannot trust his words. I keep questioning why he still met her even after I gave him another chance. If he truly doesnāt want her, why canāt he completely leave her?What hurt me deeply was when I was hospitalized early in our relationshipāhe didnāt even check on me or ask what happened. I was the one who had to call and explain everything.i did my best to understand him, trust him, and support him. I gave him space, avoided arguments, and stayed loyal. But now, I feel mentally exhausted. Even though he still talks to me with care and love, I canāt trust him anymore like before . Whenever he says he is busy, sleeping, or going out, I feel like he is with someone else. I donāt know if Iām overthinking or if my feelings are valid, but I feel constantly anxious and confused.
And he saya u r behaving in different way like think alot and he also says this is not good in relationship and i said its just because u break my trust and i was like this possessive before and nowdays he goes out everday without any informing me idk where he goes he when i ask him he says he is just out for walk or to eat food and when i ask him he feel like i m being over possessive he also says he loves me plans together future to be with me support me but his i cant see his effort he know i think alot but he would have informed me
He says he always need to convince u eveyrday and he feel disturbed because of my behavior and he says he is trying making effort but i dont understand him this all situation was created by him and when i think about this and try to be posessive feel hurt he dont like that he says i am not satisfied with him. I stopped reaching out and calling him, and he told me that my tone and the way I speak have changed. He also said that Iāve been causing him stress.
Now Iām stuck wondering what should i do? Even though I love him and we both planned a future together, I feel lost and emotionally drained, and I donāt know what to do anymore. Am i really being over possessive?
