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29/08/2026

🔥 3 HARD TRUTHS ABOUT STAYING SEXUALLY PURE TILL MARRIAGE

Waiting until marriage is beautiful and biblical—but let's be honest: sexual purity is deeper than simply being able to say, “I’m still a virgin.”

Here are 3 truths every young Christian needs to understand:

1. 🔥 VIRGINITY ALONE DOESN'T BUILD A GREAT MARRIAGE

Yes, waiting until marriage matters. But being a virgin is not a marriage preparation certificate.

You can be sexually inexperienced and still be:

- Emotionally immature
- Poor at communication
- Selfish
- Unable to manage conflict
- Financially irresponsible
- Spiritually shallow

The Bible speaks about the wise and foolish virgins in Matthew 25:1–13. Notice that they were all virgins, but not all were wise and prepared.

The lesson? Purity and wisdom must go together.

«Proverbs 24:3–4 — “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established.”»

A successful marriage requires more than sexual purity. It requires wisdom, understanding, maturity, patience, communication and godly character.

And let's be realistic: after the wedding night, virginity is no longer the issue—but character remains.

So while you're keeping your body, don't neglect building your mind, emotions, spiritual life and character.

Don't just prepare for a wedding. Prepare to be a good husband or wife.

2. 🙌 YOUR BODY ISN'T A WEDDING GIFT—IT BELONGS TO GOD

Many young people say:

“I'm keeping myself as a gift for my future husband/wife.”

That may sound romantic, but biblically, we need to understand something deeper:

You are not keeping yourself primarily for your future spouse. You are keeping yourself to honour God.

«1 Corinthians 6:19–20 — “Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost... therefore glorify God in your body.”»

Your body belongs to God. Your sexuality is not something you preserve merely so that one day you can present it to a spouse as a trophy or gift.

Sexual purity is first an act of worship and obedience to God.

You don't say:

❌ “I won't sin because I want to impress my future spouse.”

You say:

✅ “I won't sin because I belong to God.”

And this matters because even if marriage seems far away, delayed, or doesn't happen according to your personal timeline, God's standard for purity does not change.

«1 Thessalonians 4:3–4 — “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour.”»

Keep yourself because you honour God—not because you're trying to package a gift for somebody.

3. ⚠️ BEING A VIRGIN IS NOT ALWAYS THE SAME AS BEING SEXUALLY PURE

This is where we need to be honest.

Virginity is about whether a particular sexual act has taken place. Sexual purity is about honouring God with your entire body, mind, desires and conduct.

Jesus made this even deeper:

«Matthew 5:28 — “Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”»

Sexual purity is therefore not just about pe*******on or the absence of it.

Someone may proudly say:

“I'm still a virgin.”

But at the same time, they may be:

- Consuming po*******hy
- Engaging in sexual conversations and fantasies
- Participating in inappropriate sexual touching
- Exploring sexual activities while avoiding in*******se
- Constantly feeding lustful desires

That is what some people call being “technically virgin” but practically sexually compromised.”

Don't look for loopholes around God's standard.

The question should not be:

“How far can we go without having sex?”

The better question is:

“Does what we're doing honour God and help us remain sexually pure?”

«1 Corinthians 6:18 — “Flee fornication.”»

Notice the Bible says flee—not manage it, negotiate with it, or see how close you can get without falling.

🔥 THE BOTTOM LINE

Don't reduce sexual purity to a physical status.

Virginity may be something you have protected physically, but purity is a lifestyle of honouring God with your body, mind, desires and relationships.

And while you're waiting for marriage:

👉 Build character.
👉 Grow in wisdom.
👉 Develop emotional maturity.
👉 Learn healthy relationship skills.
👉 Honour God with your body.
👉 Don't search for loopholes—pursue holiness.

«2 Timothy 2:22 — “Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace...”»

Don't just aim to reach the altar as a virgin. Aim to reach marriage as a whole, healthy, wise, mature and God-honouring person.

27/08/2026

Your Workplace May Say “Call Me Tony”—But Common Sense Still Matters
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‎Not every first name should be called simply because someone says, “We are all equal here.” Sometimes, respect requires you to read the room.
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‎I refer to the recent conversation surrounding Mr. Tony Elumelu and the lady who addressed him simply as “Tony” as it has opened a bigger discussion about respect, workplace culture and social intelligence.
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‎Let me make something clear: calling someone by their first name is not automatically disrespectful. In many modern workplaces, especially multinational organisations, colleagues are deliberately encouraged to use first names. It can promote approachability, equality and teamwork.
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‎But there is something called common sense and contextual intelligence.
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‎Your workplace may mandate you to call your boss by his first name. Your organisation may even discourage “Sir” and “Ma.” That is perfectly understandable within that professional environment.
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‎But does that rule automatically follow you everywhere?
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Not necessarily.
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There are people whose age, experience, qualifications, social position or personal preference should make you pause before addressing them casually.
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If someone is significantly older than you, calling them Mr., Mrs., Ma or Sir may simply be your way of acknowledging their age and experience.
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If someone has earned a professional or academic title and prefers to be addressed by it, respecting that preference costs you nothing.
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If a person has explicitly told you, “Please address me as Mr. Elumelu,” there is really no wisdom in arguing, “But we are all equal.”
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Equality does not eliminate courtesy.
‎And there is an important distinction between being bold and being disrespectful.
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You can disagree with an elder without insulting them.
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You can challenge someone's opinion without humiliating them.
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You can be confident without becoming unnecessarily familiar.
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You can embrace modern culture without throwing away timeless values.
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Context Matters.

‎The person you casually call “Tony” in an informal setting may be the same person you should respectfully address as “Mr. Tony Elumelu” in another setting—particularly if that is how he has asked to be addressed.
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This is not about worshipping people because they are wealthy or famous.
‎It is about understanding social boundaries.
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A billionaire is still a human being.
‎But so is an ordinary elderly man who may not have millions in his bank account.
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Respect should not be reserved only for the rich and powerful.
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The real lesson from this controversy should therefore not be:
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“Everybody must call elders Sir and Ma.”
‎Neither should it be:
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“Everybody should be addressed by their first name because we are in the modern generation.”
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The wiser lesson is:
‎Learn to read the room.
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Know the culture of your workplace.
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Know the culture of the environment you are in.
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Know the person you are speaking to.
‎And when someone tells you their preferred form of address, respect it.
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Modernity should make us more enlightened, not less courteous.
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Being bold should not make us socially insensitive. And being respectful should not mean surrendering your voice or confidence.
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Respect and boldness can coexist.
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The question is not simply, “What am I allowed to call you?”
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Sometimes the better question is:
‎“What is the respectful way to address you in this particular context?”
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What is your view about this? Please drop it in the comment, thanks.

More articles on this coming .

Kindly share so someone can learn.

©️ Abiodun Aremo

27/08/2026

Single Ladies, Don’t Build Your Survival Around a Man

Your singleness is not a waiting room. It is a season to build, grow, and become.

I was speaking with a single lady recently, and I told her, “While single, don’t build your survival around a man.”

Being single does not mean your life is on hold. Don’t spend your days waiting for a man to rescue you financially, emotionally, or socially.

Be enterprising. Learn a skill. Build something. Work. Create. Serve. Start small if you must, but start.

The Bible describes the virtuous woman as a woman who is productive, industrious, and enterprising. “She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard.” — Proverbs 31:16

I remember the story of a young woman who kept saying, “When I get married, everything will change.” She waited for the husband she believed would solve her problems.

But one day, she decided to stop waiting. She learned a skill, started a small business, and began building her life.

Years later, when marriage came, she wasn't entering marriage looking for a rescuer. She was entering as a partner.

That is the difference.

Dear single lady, marriage is beautiful, but marriage should not be your survival strategy.

Build yourself. Build your character. Build your relationship with God. Build your skills. Discover your purpose. Build your capacity. All these will make you a woman of value, substance, attractive and irresistible to the right man.

And when the right man comes, you won't be saying, “Please save me.”

You will be saying, “Let us build together.”

Reflection

A good marriage is not two people looking for someone to complete their survival. It is two people who are growing individually and choose to build a life together.

What are you building in your single season?

Please share your views on the questions below:

1. Do you think some single ladies depend too much on the hope of marriage for financial or emotional security?

2. What would you tell a single lady who is waiting for a man to “change her life”?

©️ Abiodun Aremo

28/07/2026

19/05/2026

I almost lost my wife to a strange man.

It was actually my fault but I got sense quickly.

When our daughter just started schooling, my wife needed me to take our daughter to school to start activities but because of my kind of schedule, being my pattern before I got married; i always pray and study at night, then sleep from 5:00AM in the morning till like 9:00AM.

I told my wife that i won't be able to take her and our daughter to school because of my activities. At that time, we had a car but she had refused to learn how to drive. I told her to find a way around it.

The first time she complained she went to school, she was angry, she complained angrily the second and third time; I didn't care.

At a time, I realize she was doing it sweatlessly and she was beginning to enjoy it. She comes back many times and says “Sweetheart, I just took our daughter to school. Mehn, I enjoyed it, guess what?there's this guy, anytime we come out of the compound, he just picks me and our daughter, car with good A.C, he drops us back”

She came again and said the guy picked her, the second day she said again, “Honey, this guy picked me”🙄

The next morning, I woke up, took my car keys and said to her “sweetheart enter the car, I'll like to take you to school”

Ladies and gentlemen, I know some of you will say that is jealousy, but alot of men have lost their homes because they are not responsible. There's a difference between jealousy and responsibility. Alot of us have lost our home because we are not responding to the ability that we have.

Everyone of us have a unique ability God has given to us to make our home work but we are not responsible to that ability, so we just act the “I don't care attitude” and we loose out to that which God has given us as a spouse.

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You'll think it's nothing much till your wife starts liking someone else because of the good things he's been doing for her. When you have issues at home, she'll go somewhere to find ventilation and before you know it, people will start blaming the devil. Meanwhile, if you take responsibility on time and shut every door, Satan's power and vices will not be felt.

It's not always easy, but the consequences of irresponsibility aren't always smooth.

Learn from me!

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During an interview session with the winlos

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