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16/06/2026

When Tears Don’t Stop: Understanding Men Who Can’t Let Go

We’ve all seen him. The man who, years after separation with his ex-wife Judy, still speaks of her in the present tense. He replays arguments in his head, stalks social media pages and carries the scent of rejection like a heavy cologne. Society tells him to "man up," but his heart refuses to comply.

When Judy left him to marry Nollywood actor Yul Edochie, the world moved on. Yul and Judy built a new family, made headlines, and faced their own controversies. But Judy’s ex-husband? He remained trapped in the amber of that single event.

For years, his social media became a diary of grief. Every post was a passive-aggressive swipe at Yul, a mournful tribute to Judy, or a bitter reflection on betrayal. While Judy was living her new life, he was living the breakup over and over, as if the divorce had happened yesterday.

Why do some men cry forever?

1. Unresolved Identity: For many men, marriage isn't just a partnership; it’s a cornerstone of their identity. When it crumbles, they don't just lose a wife—they lose the definition of who they are.

2. The Ego Wound: When a woman leaves for another man, especially a high-profile one, it triggers a primal humiliation. It’s not just heartbreak; it's a public defeat. The crying becomes a protest against that loss of status.

3. The "One That Got Away" Syndrome: They romanticize the past, forgetting the cracks in the foundation. They mourn the potential of the marriage, not the reality.

The Cost of Perpetual Grief

There is a fine line between processing pain and being imprisoned by it. When a man makes his ex-wife’s new relationship his entire personality, he doesn't hurt her, he destroys himself. He blocks his own blessings, repels new love and confuses his children.

Judy’s ex-husband serves as a cautionary tale. Holding onto a woman who has clearly moved on is not loyalty; it is self-harm. Real strength isn't about not crying. It's about crying, wiping your face and realizing that her new beginning is not the end of your story.

The Way Forward

To the men still crying over the one who left, your tears are valid, your pain is real. But your life is not a sequel to her romance. The most powerful "revenge" is not bitterness, it is indifference. It is waking up one day and realizing that her chapter ended, but your book is still being written. Let the tears dry. Turn the page. Your next act is waiting.

12/06/2026

With the kind of drama that goes on in the Senate daily, I wonder if they are ever worried about whether Nigerians still take them seriously.

So yesterday, the Nigerian Senate formally nullified and withdrew the threat of an arrest warrant against the immediate past Group Chief Executive Officer (GCEO) of the Nigerian National Petroleum Company Limited (NNPCL), Mele Kyari.

According to the Senate, the reason it withdrew the warrant was because its own Committee on Public Accounts, which earlier issued the warrant, bypassed constitutional procedures and acted beyond its powers by unilaterally ordering his arrest.

Recall that on Wednesday, June 10, 2026, the Senate Committee on Public Accounts (S**C), chaired by Senator Ibrahim Dankwambo, ordered the arrest of Mele Kyari.

Their reason for ordering the arrest was that Kyari had failed to appear before the panel for the ninth consecutive time to answer 19 audit queries raised by the Office of the Auditor-General for the Federation. These queries involved the alleged misappropriation of ₦210 trillion in NNPCL's audited accounts between 2017 and 2023.

Those who watched the argument that led to the issuance of the arrest warrant must have seen lawmakers like Senator Victor Umeh and Senator Adams Oshiomhole openly venting their frustration.

To them, Kyari's prolonged absence was a clear sign of disrespect to the legislative process and an insult to the institution of the Senate.

But when the Senate met yesterday, it practically disowned Oshiomhole and others. It rebuked the committee for issuing the arrest warrant and cautioned members against referring to officials of the NNPCL as a bunch of thieves and criminals before the conclusion of investigations.

The Senate argued that while Sections 88 and 89 of the 1999 Constitution of Nigeria grant the National Assembly the power to summon individuals and issue warrants for the purpose of investigations, only the Senate President presiding over the chamber can authorize and exercise such powers on behalf of the Senate. On that basis, the warrant was nullified.

What unsettles me in this particular matter is that the question of how over ₦210 trillion could be missing within a space of six years does not seem to bother the Senate as much as the procedural errors committed by its own committee.

A staggering ₦210 trillion is at the centre of a national conversation, yet the energy appears to be focused on who signed a warrant and who had the authority to issue it.

I can only imagine how Kyari will be laughing at them from Germany, seeing a group of supposedly serious and experienced men struggling to properly summon him even in the face of an urgent national discussion involving trillions of naira.

It's indeed a pity.

I am Ekene Aninze Esq.

11/06/2026

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28/05/2026

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28/05/2026

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25/05/2026

The Art of Loving Lightly: Enjoy People Without Depending on Them

One of the most liberating skills in life is learning to enjoy people without clinging to them. We often confuse deep connection with dependency. Believing that if we truly care for someone, we must need them. But the healthiest love, friendship or partnership leaves room for impermanence.

Nothing truly lasts forever. People change, circumstances shift, and paths naturally diverge. This isn’t cynicism; it’s reality. When we accept that all relationships have a natural ebb and flow, we stop gripping so tightly. We begin to appreciate moments for what they are; gifts, not guarantees.

Enjoying without depending means showing up fully while holding expectations lightly. Laugh together, support each other, share vulnerability but don’t make someone your sole source of stability, identity or happiness. That’s a weight no relationship was designed to carry.

The beauty of this approach?

Paradoxically, it deepens connection. When you’re not desperate to keep someone, you’re free to actually see them. You celebrate their presence without resenting their absence. And when a season ends as all seasons, you grieve without falling apart.

Practice this: next time you’re with someone you love, notice your attachment. Then gently remind yourself; I am whole with or without them and right now, I choose to enjoy this exactly as it is.

That’s not detachment. That’s wisdom.

24/05/2026

TRENDING: I Dropped Out of UNILAG to Sponsor My Girlfriend to the UK, She Dumped Me, Married a White Man, and Blocked Me Everywhere 😭💔🥹

"My girlfriend and I were together for five years. We shared dreams, made promises, and built plans for a future side by side.

I loved her with everything I had. I truly believed we would grow old together. Because I wanted her to succeed, I made one of the biggest sacrifices of my life.

I dropped out of UNILAG to support her education and sponsor her move to the UK. I believed her success was our success. I was willing to bury my own dreams just to see her happy.

At first, we stayed in touch after she moved. I held onto hope that distance wouldn’t change what we had. I worked hard and kept supporting her emotionally and financially.

But after a few months in the UK, she slowly became distant. The calls reduced. Her messages turned cold. Then one day, I found out from her younger sister that she had gotten married to a white man without even telling me.

My whole world collapsed in a single moment.

The pain got worse when she blocked my number completely. No explanation. No closure. No way to reach her.

After everything we shared, every sacrifice I made, and every dream I buried for her sake. I was left heartbroken and empty.

Sometimes I still sit and wonder: how can someone you gave your all to suddenly treat you like you never existed?"

A man shares his painful story of sacrificing his university education and personal ambitions for his girlfriend’s future abroad, only to be abandoned and blocked after she married someone else.

23/05/2026

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20/05/2026

*The 22-Year Lesson in Patience*

For over two decades, Arsenal fans endured a specific kind of torture. They watched rivals lift trophy after trophy. They suffered the jokes about "4th place trophies" and spring collapses. They watched their best players leave for immediate glory elsewhere.

Twenty-two years.

That’s long enough for a child born during the Invincibles' season to graduate college. Long enough for a fan to go from high school to middle age.

But then it happened. The whistle blew. The title returned.

And in that moment, a universal truth was proven: If Arsenal can wait 22 years to win the Premier League, nothing you are waiting for is impossible.

Think about that. If a football club with all its pressure, ridicule, and near-misses can refuse to break, what’s your excuse?

That career change you’re scared to start at 40? That business you abandoned after one bad quarter? That relationship you think is beyond repair? That skill you gave up on because you weren't "naturally talented"?

Arsenal didn't win because they were lucky. They won because they stayed at the table long after the game seemed rigged. They rebuilt when it was embarrassing. They believed when belief was foolish.

Patience isn't sitting around doing nothing. It's doing the work while the world laughs, trusting that twenty-two rounds of effort will eventually outlast twenty-two years of bad luck.

So whatever your mountain looks like climb it slowly. Fall down if you must. Just don't leave the stadium before the final whistle.

Because if Arsenal can do it after 22 years, your breakthrough is closer than you think.

19/05/2026