04/07/2022
Dear Women....
Don't let social media deceive you please.
If you are in a serious relationship (marital or not), there's absolutely nothing wrong with helping your partner out if he's passing through a tough phase.
There's no rule that says a man must be the sole provider or he must be the one taking care of your needs, especially when you're earning good income.
There's no gender role in a relationship in which you both love and respect each other. You both are supposed to help each other out and work as a team.
I'm saying this because I just got off the phone with a lady who needed my advice.
She's been in a one year relationship with a guy who has been there for her in every single way. When she lost her father early this year, he provided up to 60% of her financial commitment. According to her, he has always been supportive, financially and emotionally.
In March, he started to have business troubles. He's not been the same since then. Few days ago, he asked her for a loan and she mentioned it to her sister she stays with. Her sister advised her not to give it to him as they are not married and he may not pay back. She admitted to me that even if he doesn't pay back, it's an amount that she can forfeit but she feels a certain way about 'giving a man money'. She doesn't want it to become a habit.
I asked her how many times the same man had given her money in the past, and she said so many times that she's lost count!
I told her that she knows what's the fair thing to do and she really didn't need my advice as she's an adult capable of making her own decisions.
Dear Women...
In your dealings with men, it's okay to be very smart... But be fair too. It's okay to be cautious, but be humane too. It's okay to have your guard up, but be rational too.
Again...
When two people love and respect each other, they spend time creating pleasant memories... they don't waste precious moments arguing about who is supposed to cook while the other person is at work, or who is supposed to buy electricity units.
But this is just my opinion sha, but I'm just a single pringle... what do I know?🤷🏽♀️
Written by Adaobi Amadi
