28/11/2025
Selfâ-harm is when sâomâeone intentiâonally hurts their body, often by cutting, burniâng, or hittingâ thâemsâelvâes. It's aâ sign of deep emotionaâ l pain anâd a desâ peraâte attempt to câopâ e. Undâerstanding it without judgment is crucial.
WâHY DO TEENS SELF-HARM?
Self-harm isn't about seeâ king atâtention or attempting su***deâ (though it does increase su***de risk). Tâeenâs who self-haârm are usâuallâ y tryâ ing to release ovâ erâwhelmingâ eâmotioâns they can't expresâs in words, feel somethingâ phyâsical when they're emotioânally numb, punish themselveâs when thâey feel worthless, or gaiân a sense of control whâen life feels chaotic. It can provide tâemporâary relief,â which is why it beâ comes a patteârn.
WARâ NING SIGNS
âLook for unexplained cuts, burns, or bruises, usually on arms, legs, or torso.
âWearing lâonâ g slâ eeves or pants eâ ven in hot weather can hide injuries.
âFinding sharp objects, razors, or lighters in their room is concerning.
âSpending loâng perioâds alone in the bathâroâ om or bedroom.
âIsolation from family anâd friends, and expressing fâ eâelings ofâ hoâ pelessnesâs or self-hatred are warning sâigns. Some teens becomâ e very interestâeâd in themes of pain orâ death.
THE RISK FACTORS
â˘Teens who self-â harm often struggle with depressioâ n, anxiety, trauma, orâ eating disorderâ s
â˘Those who've eâxperienâ ced aâ buse, neglect,â or loss are at higher risk.
â˘Perâ fecâtionistsâ , teens who have difficuâ lty expreâ sâsing emotions, and those facing iâ ntense pressuâ reâ may also self-harm.
â˘Also, seeing self-harm normalized online or among frâiends can iânfluencâe vulnerable teâ ens.
HOW TO RESPOND
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If you discover your teen is sâ elfâ-â harmâing, stay calm.â Your reactioân matters enormâously. Show concern and love, not anger or disgust.
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Avoid phrasâ es like "just stop" or "â thâ at'âs crazy.â" They increase sâ hame. Sâ ay somâeâ thing like, "I can see you're hurâ tiâng, and I want to help. Let's figure tâhâ is out togethâ er."
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Don'â t demand proâ miseâs tâhatâ they'll stop immediatelây, asâ this rarely works and may drivâe the bâehavior undergâround.
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GETTING PROFâESSIONAL HEâ LP
Self-harm requires professiâ onalâ iâ ntervention. A therapist experienced iâ n working with teens can help identify underlâyinâg issuâes and teach healthier coping strategies.â Dialectical beâhavior tâ herapy (DBT) is paârticularly efâ fective, teaching emotion regulation skills. Sâometimes medâiâcation forâ depresâsiâ on oâr anâ xietây helps. Do well to remove easy access to self-harm toolâs atâ home whâ ile they'reâ learning new copâinâg skills.
BUILDING RESILâIENCE
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Help yoâur teen developâ healthy ways to manâage iântense eâmâotions, such as physical exeâ rcise, journaling,â art, music, or talking tâo trusted peoplâ e.
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Create a safety pâlan together forâ when uârges arise.
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Encourâage connectioân with supportive frâienâds and activitâ ies thaât build self-worth.
FOR TEENS
If you're huârting yourself, pleaseâ know that you dâeâserveâ help and healing. The paâin you're feeling is real, and there are better ways to cope. Talk to a paârent, schoolâ counselor, therapiâ sât, or call a criâsis helpliâne. Yoâu doân't haâve to face this alone. Sâ elâf-harm is a symptom of dâ eeper pain, not a charaâ cter flaâ w. With proper support, you can learn healthier ways to cope and heal.