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12/08/2022

Roundtable Talk Show for the month of August. Let's do this sisters

During my Industrial Trainee program in 2004, I was posted to work in a department and the second in line was a woman. S...
10/08/2022

During my Industrial Trainee program in 2004, I was posted to work in a department and the second in line was a woman. She was beautiful and her smile captivating.

Fast forward to the next day, things took a new turn as I saw her maltreat and humiliate some ladies most especially one of them who was yet to conceive. This lady dreaded coming to the office because this woman didn't hide her insensitivity. She will always insult the said lady at any given opportunity.

In the same organisation, there was another woman, she was amazing to other women and was loved by all.

I have been opportune to meet different women, from different walks of life and I have seen that what forms all of us, is our mindset and intentionality in our choices.

The mindset comes from a combination of our background, education, tribe, religion and race. All of these are the foundation upon which we stand.

Whatever seed that has been sown, germinates to form the person we become.

In life, the good and the bad are non-negotiable but what you choose to do with the life you have been blessed with, is what you become day in, day out.

When you hate other people, consider asking this question, where does it stem from?

🖌️ A place of emptiness?
🖌️ A place of unhealthy jealousy?
🖌️ A place of bitterness?
🖌️ A place of revenge?

Something you should not forget is this, if you live your life hating others, your life will be empty, miserable and unfulfilled.

Join us as we talk about this saying 'Women are each other's Enemies'.

I also have an Ebook on this common saying titled - Our Common Enemy. Get your copy for free on our website www.shemboldenshub.com

Taiwo Bankole is a woman who loves to dish it out from real women and real life experiences.

See you on the inside.

Thank you Chinaemerem Ogbuaku, Cindy Ejirika, Edith Adebanwa for accepting to do this with us.

What changed in my life?The lessons that the universe taught and still keeps teaching. These lessons come via personal e...
19/07/2022

What changed in my life?

The lessons that the universe taught and still keeps teaching.

These lessons come via personal experiences, people who opened up about their struggles and also what I have learnt, from the society at large.

Unconsciously, I had picked some life lessons which later helped me to take my decision without allowing 'being pressured' push me to fade into oblivion.

Let me digress a bit....

Teaching a child and modelling good behavior will help them to always stand the test of time.

No matter what comes their way, they will definitely pick "self" over what "someone think is right for them".

Do you get that

I come from a lineage of teachers.

The discipline tight 🤣

It is amazing how I really didn't see it as wickedness, I saw love.

One of the lessons that my dad (God rest his soul) never stopped hammering on was 'owning up to your truth'.

This singular principle has helped birth the new me.

I remember hearing those words clearly, I am going to shame you. I told myself that I have nothing to be ashamed of rather I have every reason to live again.

Yes, life just happened to me (at that time), but I told myself that, it wasn't the end of the road.

Truthfully, I had no idea whatsoever, how I was going to navigate through it.

If you didn't remember anything from this post, please don't forget this 👇

It might look gloomy, you might be thinking of giving up, take a moment to ponder on something important.

How are you connecting with God? What is your relationship with Him?

No, I am not overly religious but I sure know God got me and I put Him as my All in All.

No prepared speech is needed, just go to Him as You are. Know more about Him and develop a personal relationship with Him.

Forget the smirks on those faces, forget the hurtful words. They can talk all they want but one truth remains.

They are not your GOD.

So, no matter what goes on, God has positioned you in a place to make something beautiful out of you.

Accept His leading. He loves to use the perceived weak to shame the 'srrong'.

To Him, You matter.

Keep winning.

Let's go win this Tuesday.

12/07/2022

Our journey in life might seem smooth at a point. At other times it might look challenging. Other times, we just flow with the tide.

One thing I have observed over times is, whenever we are faced with difficult situations that doesn't look like going away anytime soon, giving up becomes the best option we consider.

I am here to remind you that, looking at that situation using another approach might be the lucky charm you need.

Giving up should not be an option rather, trying again in a different way might be your magic wand.

Cheers to a winning Tuesday.

Don't forget to join our Roundtable Talk Show on our Facebook Group. Details will be in the comment section.

Do connect with Taiwo Bankole for more life-transforming contents.




I was moved to tears at the level of lack of this woman. She came to court so that her husband can come back home and ca...
05/07/2022

I was moved to tears at the level of lack of this woman. She came to court so that her husband can come back home and care for her and their two kids. She was in tears when she talked about her kids, who no longer attend school.

She does menial jobs and the people she serve most times, end up not paying her. It was a painful thing to see, as regards the level of wickedness of some people. This Yoruba proverb readily comes to mind - 'when you are knocked down by a big suffering, the little ones will turn you to a staircase'.

Upon integration, the husband responded that he could not afford the need of his growing family, and the wife was always asking for money. He therefore decided to abandon them. He affirmed he left the house two years ago.

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No, I am not here to judge, who made me judge, but I want to point out something from all of these.

How do you treat people that you see as 'downtrodden or at your mercy'? Are you alleviating or aggravating their situations?

I have seen that taking advantage of other people and hitting them below the belt, due to the situation they find themselves at a certain point in life, is what some take glory in.

Remember that the universe never forget your act of kindness or otherwise. They are being stored up, so you can reap them at a time you least expect.

Meanwhile, at our Roundtable Talk Show this month of July, we shall be looking at 'Our Realities as Mums in this Time'.

We are looking at this from the single mom and the married woman's perspective.

I love real life experiences shared with others to enable us know how to paddle the canoe of life. Details will be in the comment section.

Thank you Amina Grace Japhlet and Folasayo Adefemi for accepting to share with us.

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Back to my story, the court supported the couple with some money to get accommodation and start again.

Please follow Taiwo Bankole for more life teachings.

Have a winning Tuesday.


It was a Sunday evening and it was their playtime. I was working on a notice of meeting. My son asked his sister if she ...
28/06/2022

It was a Sunday evening and it was their playtime. I was working on a notice of meeting.

My son asked his sister if she remembers a particular boy in his class and went ahead to mention the boy's name. She didn't allow her brother complete that sentence when she cut in and replied, he lies too much. All he has told you are lies. I don't want to hear.

I couldn't help but pause when I heard what my daughter said.

It took me back memory lane.............

Flashback to when I was working in an organization.

Lady: good afternoon ma.

Me: Good afternoon and how may I be of help.

Lady: I am here to apply for industrial training program.

Me: oh, that's great. Please drop your documents and we shall get back to you. It was a sealed envelope addressed to my boss in person.

My boss came in much later and I was excited to tell him because we actually needed someone. After reading the content of the letter, he said, this is an ex-staff's daughter.

He looked at me and said, Taiwo (I realized he was serious about whatever he wanted to say), this lady's mother was the architect of some young staff members that lost their jobs when she was the head of this unit. That woman was plain wicked. I am not going to take her daughter!

That was the end of that conversation.

Many times in our lives we think that our actions go unnoticed but the truth is, people are watching.

Whatever you do today, becomes a point of reference tomorrow. Most of the times, it comes back to pave way or haunt.

A quick question? 👇

What is that character flaw that you have?
Do you know you can work on it?

It doesn't matter how long you have been working on it, it only takes a decision backed up by action.

It takes constant and consistent check on yourself.

Nobody can help you if you do not take that first step. You are the only person that can bring about the desired change in your life.

You know what?

📌 Nobody is free of one weakness or the other, the game changer is acknowledging it and working on it.

📌 Don't allow it become a clog in the wheel of that breakthrough coming your way.

You can win it, if you commit to it.

Have a winning Tuesday.

08/06/2022

Kindness to Self

I woke up early on that Tuesday morning, to prepare the children for school. I didn't realize that nature was getting set to teach me another lesson of life.

Immediately it happened, my thoughts ran wild. The first thing that came to my mind was you've got to be strong. If anybody I told me that I will be able to do what I did that morning, I will say no.

I fought for myself first, then, the thought of my children flashed through my heart and I told myself, Taiwo, you have to be strong. I did what ordinarily, I wouldn't have thought possible in my wildest dreams. Thank God for His grace. I still managed to prepare them for school despite my pain.

Then this came to mind👇

Kindness to self, is an important attribute which is dished onto others but alas most times, we don't give ourselves. We become so intolerant and demand too much from ourselves 😢.

Don't ever forget that,

📌 You are human.
📌 You are bound to make mistakes.
📌 You can't have it all rosy all of the time.
📌 Life happens and that is what it is.

Please be more gentle, a bit more understanding, more calm and reassuring to yourself.

Watch your thoughts about yourself lest they bring you down.

Watch what that inner voice says about you and if it isn't palatable, strike it out.

Replace those negative words with positive words of affirmation.

Be intentional about being kind to yourself.📌

If you can be nice to other people, why can't you extend the same courtesy to yourself?

Decide to do something beautiful for yourself daily.

📍Be open to learning to become better.

📍 Be intentional about gratitude. (It opens your mind up to appreciating what you have and not on what you wish to have).

📍 Tell yourself how amazing you are and please, believe every word.

I am going to be here but not all of the times in order for me, to be more kind to myself.

I shall be popping in, on this blue space that I have grown to love. Don't forget that our monthly program of Roundtable Talk Show still holds on our Facebook Group. Please, do join us monthly.

This month, we shall be talking about Keeping the Home Environment safe for our Children. Akingbade, thank you for accepting to do this with us. You sure don't want to miss it.

At Shemboldens Hub, we are committed to helping each other grow to be the best we can be.

Taiwo Bankole

04/05/2022

These past few weeks were a struggle for me. I was almost knocked down emotionally.

I avoided talking about her. I can't recollect exactly where I learnt about her death but it brought back some memories and I couldn't help but relive.

Yes, I was broken. I didn't know and can't explain till now, why her death shook me up that much.

During this same period, I had some ladies who reached out to me about the same trend of enduring domestic violence. They sounded so helpless and because of what the society had fed women about who they are supposed to be and not be, they feel walking away is a failure on their part.

It has been a series of back and forth, counselling, encouraging and opening their eyes to the option of 'choosing self which doesn't translate to selfishness'.

Now, I feel there is a need to talk about these words that is fed 'the woman to keep her glued to unhealthy relationships'. I am talking about 'love and submission'.

How far is too far when we talk about these two words?

It is another session of learning, unlearning and improving to become the best we can be, as women.

Thank you most sincerely, Nihinlola Latona and Oluwafunmilola OTOLORIN for accepting to honor us with your presence where we shall be looking at the woman as regards matters of the heart.

Will you do me the honor of joining us at the May Edition of the Roundtable Talk Show by ShEmboldens Hub on our Facebook Group?

The link will be in the comment.

Do follow Taiwo Bankole and for more educative contents about the journey of the woman.

Looking for a daddy's girl? Here she is.Let me give you a gist.Hey Taiwo, I want to talk to you, this guy casually strol...
04/04/2022

Looking for a daddy's girl? Here she is.

Let me give you a gist.

Hey Taiwo, I want to talk to you, this guy casually strolled to where I was and looked me in the face while he uttered those words. In my mind I was wondering why he was talking to me in the first place. The truth is, we hardly talk.

Fine, we have been in the same class for the past two years (the senior secondary), I had my own circle and he was not a part of it.

I have this habit of choosing the people I want to move with. I prefer to look at you, have a clear understanding of who you are and if it is okay by me, before I move close to you as a friend.

So you will understand that coming from this guy I actually didn't find it funny when he asked to see me.

This guy realized I wasn't in for any form of conversation and just handed me an envelope and requested that I should please open it when I get home. I casually took it and didn't utter a word.

I was excited to share this gist with my dad. So in my excitement, I went to his room told him there was a gist. He smiled and said I give him some minutes.

I brought out a sealed envelope and asked him to open it. He wanted to know where it came from but I insisted he opened it first. The content made him look at me again and he brought out cash and a letter.

Taitai, where did you get this letter? I told him it was from my classmate (I even mentioned his name). He smiled and I could see a proud father of a girl becoming a woman and the fact that he could share this moment with me.

Your guess is as good as mine, we had daddy and daughter conversation afterwards.

Right now, I am happy, I had this beautiful bond with my dad for it prepared me for moments when my children will be able to talk to me too. May his soul continue to rest in peace.

I am an advocate of building healthy relationships with children. Bonding with them to the point that they are eager to discuss with us about everything that relates to them.

Join us as we talk more about Building Healthy Relationships with Children this month at our Roundtable Talk Show with ShEmboldens Hub.

Link will be in the comment section.

I appreciate Onyeakwu Victory and Peace Eniola Odedele for accepting to be a part of this important discussion.

For more educative contents, do connect with Taiwo Bankole.

29/03/2022

Connection to Life

Friendship is important.
Friendship determines the altitude you will get to in life.

Who do you listen to?
Who is your confidant?
Who are the people in your inner chamber?
Who are those you constantly share your dreams with?

Do you remember that handsome guy - Joseph, in the old testament? He relayed his dreams to his brothers and what did it earn him? He was almost killed but for grace.

Your inner caucus is one important area in your life that you should not joke with.

True friends are light in the darkest tunnel while bad friends can become tormentors or a continuous pain in the heart.

"A good friend is a connection to life — a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.” — Lois Wyse.

A good friend helps to connect the dots in your life.

I am grateful for the gift of wonderful people in my life.

Thank God for people who believes in me.
Thank God for people who saw what I had not conceived.
Thank God for people who gave me their shoulders to cry on.
Thank God for the gift of pain turned into Positive Impact.

Thank God that I learnt from the best that, positive impact is the best gift one can give the universe.

Thank you Omobabinrin Adeola Osideko Tope|Online Media Consultant Bukola Oyetade Tiamiyu Tofunmi Idowu

You sure remember I talked about ShEmboldens Hub Sisters Connect?

Please enjoy snippets of the program, held in great city of Ibadan.

We are a group of women, committed to helping each other grow.

Do connect with Taiwo Bankole for more inspiring and educative contents.




08/03/2022

Join me to celebrate every girl child and woman.

ShEmboldens Hub is excited about today.

I am happy to be a voice speaking in support of the woman.

Let us stop all bias against the female gender.

Women are blessed. We nurture, we increase, we are wonderfully created.

Join us today at ShEmboldens Hub Facebook Group for our Roundtable Talk Show celebrating this awesome day.

Details in the comment section.

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Celebrate the Women in your LifeIt's a beautiful day filled with hope for a secured and beautiful tomorrow.International...
07/03/2022

Celebrate the Women in your Life

It's a beautiful day filled with hope for a secured and beautiful tomorrow.

International Women's Day is knocking on the door. Every 8th of March.

We are celebrating with this 'Gender Equality Today for a Sustainable Tomorrow'.

Will you join us to support the girl child, the woman around or in your life, the woman that you come in contact with everyday.

Please celebrate with us at ShEmboldens Hub. Get your Personalized DP here - ( https://getdp.co/coo) to support the move to ending the bias against the female gender.

I am excited to be a part of this, are you?



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