You & Your Counsellor

26/08/2026

You & Your Counsellor is a platform where young minds come together to discover their purpose and potential in life through professional human Counsellors and Holy Spirit as a Counselor

26/08/2026

pray everyday, pray every single Day, always teach your children to pray every Day

26/08/2026

26/08/2026

know Yourself and self discovery

19/08/2026

Day 2 — Confidence: Understanding the 5 Signs Your Confidence Is Getting Low
Confidence means believing in yourself, your abilities, your decisions, and your worth. It does not mean thinking you are better than everyone else. A confident person knows they have strengths and weaknesses, but they do not allow their weaknesses to define them.
Here is what each point means:
1. You constantly compare yourself with others
When you always look at other people's achievements, appearance, relationships, money, or lifestyle and feel that you are not good enough, your confidence can gradually decrease.
Remember: Everyone has a different journey. Instead of asking, “Why am I not like them?” ask, “What can I learn from them, and how can I improve myself?”
2. You are afraid of making mistakes
Low confidence can make you afraid to try new things because you think making a mistake means you are a failure.
But mistakes are part of learning. Making a mistake does not make you a failure; refusing to learn from it is the real problem.
3. You find it difficult to speak up
You may have good ideas or opinions but remain silent because you are afraid people will criticize, reject, or laugh at you.
Learn to express yourself respectfully. Your voice matters. You don't have to agree with everyone, and everyone doesn't have to agree with you.
4. You always need people's approval
If you constantly need people to tell you that you are good, beautiful, intelligent, or doing the right thing before you can feel okay about yourself, your confidence may be dependent on others.
Learn to appreciate encouragement, but don't make other people's opinions the foundation of your self-worth.
5. You focus more on your weaknesses than your strengths
Everyone has weaknesses. However, when you spend all your time thinking about what you cannot do while ignoring what you can do, you begin to see yourself negatively.
Recognize your weaknesses, but also celebrate your strengths. Your weaknesses are areas for growth

18/08/2026

Day 1: Know Yourself

Self-discovery means taking time to understand who you are your abilities, interests, weaknesses, values, dreams, and the kind of person you want to become.
Many people know what they want from life, but they have never taken time to understand themselves. When you understand yourself, it becomes easier to make good decisions, choose the right career, build healthy relationships, and work toward your purpose.
Let's look at the five questions:

1. What am I good at?
Everyone has something they can do well. It could be teaching, singing, writing, communicating, solving problems, caring for others, drawing, sports, or leadership. Discovering your strengths helps you know where you can grow and contribute.

2. What do I enjoy doing?
Pay attention to activities that make you feel happy and fulfilled. Sometimes, your interests can give you clues about your talents and possible future career.

3. What are my weaknesses?
Knowing your weaknesses does not mean you are a failure. It means you understand the areas where you need improvement. For example, you may struggle with procrastination, anger, poor communication, or lack of confidence. Once you identify a weakness, you can begin working on it.

4. What kind of person do I want to become?
Don't only think about the job you want. Think about your character. Do you want to become a responsible, confident, honest, kind, disciplined, successful, and dependable person?

5. What am I doing today to become that person?
Having a dream is not enough. You must take action. If you want to become successful, what are you doing today? If you want to become confident, are you challenging yourself to speak up? If you want to become knowledgeable, are you learning every day?

💡 Key Lesson
You cannot change what you don't understand. Take time to know yourself, accept your strengths, work on your weaknesses, and deliberately become the person you want to be.
Remember: Self-discovery is not a one-day journey.

17/06/2026

Happy birthday many more years ahead of you

02/05/2026

You & Your counsellor Bible Club

26/04/2026

Theme :PEER PRESSURE
subtopics :Counselling builds confidence to say NO

Introduction

Every day, we interact with friends, classmates, colleagues, and even family members who may try to influence our decisions. Sometimes, these influences can push us to do things we are not comfortable with. This is where counselling becomes important—it helps individuals stay true to themselves and make wise choices.

Definition of Terms

Peer Pressure: This is the influence people of the same age group or social circle have on one another, often encouraging certain behaviors, attitudes, or decisions—whether good or bad.
Counselling: This is a supportive process where a trained professional or trusted guide helps an individual understand themselves better, make informed decisions, and handle life challenges effectively.
Confidence: This is the belief in one’s ability to make the right choices and stand by them, even when others disagree.

Many people struggle to say “NO” because they fear rejection, ridicule, or losing friendships. You may know something is wrong, yet feel pressured to go along just to fit in. Over time, this can lead to regret, stress, and even damage to your values.
Counselling helps you build inner strength and self-awareness. It teaches you that saying “NO” is not a sign of weakness but a sign of self-respect. Through counselling, you learn how to communicate your decisions clearly, set healthy boundaries, and stand firm without feeling guilty.
Imagine a student who is constantly pressured by friends to skip classes. Without confidence, the student may give in. But with proper counselling, that same student can boldly say, “No, I have my goals,” and walk away without fear. That is the power of counselling—it equips you with the courage to choose what is right over what is popular.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, your life is shaped by the choices you make. Counselling empowers you to take control of those choices by building the confidence to say “NO”