07/07/2024
Being a man's first wife is something beautiful
Being a man's 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife is also very beautiful & eminent
What is shameful, blameworthy and stupid is to become a man's side chick, concubine or mistress
Being a first wife is just as good as being a 2nd, 3rd or 4th. What matters most in marriage are happiness and serenity, not position. Some first wives are not enjoying their marriage as much as some 2nd, 3rd or 4th wives
A woman (be it a spinster, a widow, a divorcee, or single mother) has an absolute right to marry whoever she wish (be it a widower, a bachelor, polygamist, rich or poor man). But what is not right is for a woman to think that being a 2nd or 3rd or 4th wife is way below them, or see such position as crappy. By Allah, It's better to be happy as a fourth wife than to be in a regretful marriage as a first wife. Always pray for the best my dear sisters, go for your choice without rubbishing the choice of others
If Allah bless me with daughters, I will not mind marrying all of them out as second, third or fourth wife to good men. I will rather marry my daughters out a million times to pious old polygamists than to give them to young irresponsible bachelors. But in a situation where my daughters' suitors are pious young men & old men, then I will prefer the young men over the old. No shaking!
Finally, as a man, know that you are not doing a woman a favor by marrying her, rather she is doing you a favor by accepting to marry you despite the intricacies involved in marriage. Women carrying our babies in their bellies for months, going through pains of labor, breastfeeding, nurturing our kids, remaining chaste and maintaining our homes are doing us big favors that can never be repaid by us except Allah.
-Suleiman Ayuba