Feminism in Nigeria Environment- FINE., Agbor (2026)

23/08/2023

Courageous Unity: Female Law Students Rally Against Harassment"

A group of female law students from the University of Calabar came together to hold a big protest. They were upset about a serious problem: s*xual harassment. The person they were concerned about was their own Faculty Dean, Professor Ndifon. They believed he did something wrong that made people feel uncomfortable and worried at school.

These brave students organized a huge protest to show they were determined to make a change. They shouted and held signs to demand that the bad atmosphere of fear and discomfort stops. They really wanted fairness and people to take responsibility.

Their main request was for Professor Ndifon to be taken out of his important job right away. They thought that having him stay would go against the good things a school should stand for, like trust and honesty. They strongly felt that his removal was needed not just for them, but for the whole university's reputation.

The news about the protest spread, and many people talked about it on social media. People praised these strong students for speaking up against something that was wrong for a long time. The protest became a sign of a bigger movement to make powerful people answer for their actions and to make sure everyone, no matter their gender, can study without fear of harassment.

In the end, the protest by these female law students showed how powerful it is when people work together. They proved that wanting justice and fairness is part of learning, and that when people who are treated unfairly speak up, they can create important changes.

16/08/2023

YOUNG WOMEN IN THE SOCIETY SHOULD REJECT THE IDEA OF LIKEABILITY

The society( religion and culture) has tempered the idea of likeability of young girls depriving them as a full human.

The society( religion and culture) has deprived young girls as a full woman and making them to accept likeability as a way of life.

Any time I raise these topic of likeability, the eyes of people on me look strange. They seems not to get it,

“why must you say a girl should reject likeability”.

As I carry my readers through these opinion of mine you will understand my stand on the rejection of likeability on the female part thereby rejecting the society integration of such mentality on the young girls in the society.

OPINION 1

SOCIETY PORTRAY A WOMAN SHOULD NOT BE ANGRY BUT PORTRAY AN ATTITUDE OF BEEN LIKED.( wrong ideology)

This ideology is totally wrong because the women are human and we have different temperament so judging by it is totally bad. So a young girl should not express her feelings on something bordering her because she have to present likeability ideology.

Again the society( religion and culture) feel women should not get angry or aggressive so they can be likable by their counterpart in church, organizations and place of work.

A women who is angry or aggressive has the tendency of not getting a good husband. So she has to control her angry so she can be likable in the society.

The society( religion and culture) over the years has made the females to accept likeability as a way of life.

OPINION 2

SOCIETY PORTRAY OF A WOMAN AS A WIFE MATERIAL USING THE IDEOLOGY OF LIKEABILITY (wrong ideology)

Here the society promote the idea of likeability in respect to the females in the society there by telling them to portray the attitude of likeability appearances so they can become a tagged will usually call “WIFE MATERIAL’’

A women who is angry or aggressive has the tendency of not getting a good husband. So she has to control her angry so she can be likable in the society.

With this she started portraying WIFE MATERIAL attitude among individuals so she can be LIKEABLE.

OPINION 3

SOCIETY CHANNELING OF LIKEABILITY TO MODESTY(wrong ideology)

If you notice very well, for her to be likeable she have to be modest in what she does in the society.

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Here is what most evangelical preacher talks about Modesty- ””” A WOMAN SHOULD NOT TALK MORE ABOUT ACHIEVEMENT, SHE SHOULD NOT ACHIEVE MUCH, OR SHOULD NOT OWN MUCH PROPERTY BECAUSE OF THE IDEA OF MODESTY “””

What I understand from the above statement is the fact that woman should be modest in her achievement, anger, appearance, intelligent, career/job pursuit and her establishment as a female.

Again the notion of “LIKEABILITY ” feel women should have modesty so not to get angry or aggressive so they can be likable by their counterpart in church, organizations and place of work.

Achievement, anger, appearance, intelligent, career/job pursuit and establishment as a female should fall under moderate level so she can be liked by individual in the society.

Most individuals advice women to be submissive, not pursue leadership roles and not speak out too much in mixed company.

Here the society in connection with "LIKEABILITY" is narrowing modesty to femininity. Modesty goes to both gender. I guess the society is been biased here.

CONSEQUENCES OF LIKEABILITY ON A YOUNG WOMEN

The society( religion and culture) deprive a young girl as a full human, all she know is about her likeability from the opposite s*x.

1. This likeability concept is a cage most s*xual abusers use to put women in a position not to call out such abusers, so the women will like to have her likeability stand in the society.

2. Some persons who no longer identify with their religious pasts and belief—are organizing to expose the ways this manner of likeability creates a toxic environment that enables abuser and ra**st to thread on.

Even the cultures has integrated the ideas that women should accept likeability in the society, if they need to be liked by people (especially the assaulted) they have to keep quiet about such things.

For example,

A. using the aspect of marriage, a women who is s*xually abuse has no say based on the likeability approach used by the society( religion and culture) , so she has to be pure all through so she can get a husband who will marry her as a virgin and she pretends and act likeable and she got in to emotional and psychological thoughts about the s*xual assaults and the family of the girl keep it away from her future husband or her husband.

B. keeping her virginity also, here since she is a virgin she uphold that with her life, she have been told by the society( religion and culture) that if she keep it she will find a good HUSBAND. she does every thing to remain in that notion of being LIKEABLE by her opposite s*x or same s*x. Or she is been tagged as a WIFE MATERIAL.

CONCLUSION

The purpose of this write-up/articles was to let my readers know that preaching or educating a girl child about LIKEABILITY influences her life style in complex ways in terms of their physical, emotion and social behaviour. It is my hope that the society can create a positive paradigm shift of of this concept of LIKEABILITY about women. It’s time to move away from the conventional approach about female likeability and embrace a more appropriate and holistic way toward it.

I have to end this write up with one of my favourite mentor FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi

According to a popular literature book “”” DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS “””

FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

From the eight Suggestion

""""""""'''' Teach her to reject likeability. Her job is not to make herself likeable, her job is to be her fullself, a self that is honest and aware of the equal humanity of other people.

Please do not ever put this pressure on your daughter. We teach girls to be likeable, to benice, to be false. And we do not teach boys the same. This is dangerous. Many s*xual predatorshave capitalized on this. Many girls remain silent when abused because they want to be nice.

Many girls spend too much time trying to be ‘nice’ to people who do them harm. Many girlsthink of the ‘feelings’ of those who are hurting them. This is the catastrophic consequence oflikeability. We have a world full of women who are unable to exhale fully because they havefor so long been conditioned to fold themselves into shapes to make themselves likeable. So instead of teaching Chizalum to be likeable, teach her to be honest. And kind.

Tell her that if anything ever makes her uncomfortable, tospeak up, to say it, to shout.Show her that she does not need to be liked by everyone. Tell her that if someone does notlike her, there will be someone else who will. Teach her that she is not merely an object to beliked or disliked, she is also a subject who can like or dislike. """""""""

COMPETING INTERESTS

I declare that I have no financial or personal relationships that may have inappropriately influenced me in writing this article. I write this articles based on my experience with those who have kept that notion that “ A WOMEN MUST HAVE THE IDEA OF LIKEABILITY IN THE SOCIETY "

Readers are free to err their view and to go against my idea, am open for opposition of such ideas.

Written by:

Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka

Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor

16/08/2023

BREAKING DOWN GENDER STEREOTYPES: Challenging Biased Assumptions

Recently I had a discussion with someone who always feels women have bad characteristics in all areas of their life. I have to let him know that is a stereotypical way of reasoning.

Actually, I know there are these double standards and stereotypes that exist in society when it comes to discussions about successful, single women versus successful, single men. It is crucial to recognize that character traits, both positive and negative, can be found in individuals of any gender, and generalizing based on gender is not fair or accurate as the previous point I made early.

Stereotypes and societal expectations can play a significant role in shaping people's perceptions and responses to such questions. Historically, there have been traditional gender roles that have influenced the way people view men and women, which may lead to biased assumptions and judgments.

It is essential to challenge these stereotypes and promote the idea that both men and women should be held to the same standards when it comes to character. Good character, including kindness, respect, and empathy, is essential for everyone, regardless of their gender.

Promoting gender equality also means breaking down harmful stereotypes that put pressure on women to have certain character traits while excusing negative behaviour in men. Men should be encouraged to be compassionate, respectful, and understanding, just as women are often encouraged to be.

CONCLUSION

As a society, we must continue to work towards recognizing individuality and not making sweeping assumptions or hasty generalizations about people based on their gender. Encouraging and valuing good character in all individuals, regardless of their gender, will lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships for everyone involved.

09/08/2023

Child s*xual abuse is not about s*x. A survivor “didn’t have s*x, they were assaulted”.

Educating a child(ren) early on developmental changes in their bodies and inappropriate touching and contact by others, even family members, makes it easier for a child to recognize and report cases of abuse.

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10/05/2023

AN OVERVIEW OF FEMALE GE***AL MUTILATION : Introduction, A Human Rights Violation, Health Risks, Strategies for Eradication and personal credits.

INTRODUCTION -

Female ge***al mutilation (FGM) is a practice that involves the partial or complete removal of the external female ge***alia.

It is usually carried out on girls before they reach puberty and can cause both physical and psychological harm.

FGM is a violation of the human rights of girls and women and has no health benefits.

Despite efforts to eradicate the practice, FGM continues to be prevalent in many parts of the world, especially in Africa and the Middle East. It is often linked to cultural and religious beliefs that view it as a rite of passage or a way to control female s*xuality.

Efforts to end FGM require a comprehensive approach that involves

➡education

➡community engagement and

➡ the promotion of women's rights.

It is crucial to work with communities and leaders to change attitudes and beliefs around FGM and to provide support to those who have experienced it.

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Girls may be subjected to FGM when they are a few days old, or during childhood, at the time of puberty, before wedding, during first pregnancy or after the birth of first child.

The usual range is between 0 and 15 years. Yes, subjected to this practice at that tender an age, and that, too, in a gruesome manner, with their bodies held down by others.

Needless to say, such a procedure can cause various short-term and long-term repercussions, all of which are harmful and there is no benefit.

‘I screamed so hard I lost my voice for days’, says a FGM victim.

Immediate effects include

1. severe pain

2. shock

3. bleeding

4. wound infections (like tetanus and gangrene)

5. inability to urinate damage to vulval tissues and nearby organs.

6. It has also been known to cause death.

In the long run this practice can leave the girl with

1. Chronic va**nal infections, abnormal periods,

2. Urine infections,

3. Possible kidney failure

4. Damage to reproductive system

5. Infertility

6. cysts

7. scar tissue

8. complications in pregnancy

9. neonatal mortality

10. pain during s*x

11. Psychological damage

In addition, the girl is exposed to increased risk of HIV transfer since the same instruments may be used on multiple girls.

Here are the ways you can help in the fight against FGM

➡ Challenge the discriminatory reasons fgm is practised

➡ Change traditions with the support of older generations.

➡ Educate girls on their right to decide what happens to their body. ...

➡ Speak out about the risks and realities of FGM.

➡ Spread understanding that religion does not demand FGM.

CONCLUSION

In conclusion, female ge***al mutilation is a harmful practice that has no health benefits and violates the human rights of girls and women.

Despite efforts to eradicate the practice, it continues to be prevalent in many parts of the world, often linked to cultural and religious beliefs.

It is crucial to continue working towards ending FGM through a comprehensive approach that involves education, community engagement, and the promotion of women's rights. By working together to change attitudes and beliefs around FGM, we can ensure a brighter and healthier future for girls and women around the world.

QUESTIONS FOR MY FOLLOWERS

1. What did you think about the prevalence of FGM in certain countries and cultures?

2. Were you surprised to learn about the associated health risks?

3. What are your thoughts on the cultural and religious beliefs that are often used to justify the practice of FGM?

4. Have you encountered any successful strategies that have been used to combat FGM, and if so, what were they?

5. How do you think we can raise awareness about the harmful effects of FGM and change attitudes and beliefs around the practice?

6. What steps do you think governments and international organizations should take to help end FGM?

7. Do you think education and community engagement are effective ways to end FGM, and if so, what approaches have been successful?

PERSONAL CREDITS -

1. To those who have fought against FGM in incredible courage in standing up against a deeply entrenched cultural and social practice that has been normalized for generations.

2. To those who have persevered and remained committed to ending the practice have demonstrated remarkable persistence and dedication.

3. To individuals and organizations that have worked to end FGM and have shown empathy and compassion for the girls and women who have been affected by the practice, recognizing the physical and psychological harm it causes.

4. To those individuals, organizations, and communities that collaborated and partnered to play a great role and show some willingness to work together towards a common goal.

5. To those who made impact whether through advocacy, education, or support services or made a significant impact on the lives of girls and women. Their efforts have helped to raise awareness of the harms of the practice and to promote a future where FGM no longer exists.

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03/05/2023

A LAUGHABLE THING

CASE STUDY - " A female body "

The laughable thing about a woman’s body is that, When you pull these women naked,

You are most likely going to discover series of imperfections hidden under their dresses.

From the dark campala shades on their thighs to the rashes and skin shading off on their behind.

You are also going to find waves or stretch-marks on their waist and butt. You may find scars too.

And when that Bra goes off, whatever used to appear firm and succulent might just fall off like a sack of potatoes.

These dresses actually hide a lot of imperfections and that tommy may not be as flat as it looked inside a designer.

This will take us to the natural smell in the va**na. It doesn’t make her a dirty person, It’s probably hormones secreting.

Also prepare yourself for the fact that a woman’s period can come unexpectedly,

That doesn’t mean she’s dumb or childish not to have carried extra pads in her bag. Dates change and it can just happen.

She could stain your bed, hell, she could even stain herself in public, - Embarrassing, as it may seem, you could learn to clean up after her.

A pack of Virony Sanitary pad costs between 1,200-1,500 and it contains 30 pieces with extra pant liners that can be used during non-period days when she may experience va**nal discharge or spotting.

Having Sanitary care package on standby and in your drawls can save the women in your life alot of stress and embarrassment.

Finally, infection is common amongst women and it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s a dirty person.

Learn to clean up after her, discuss these things, find lasting solutions and help her self esteem.

Know that you are not marrying or married to a goddess so snap out of your fairytales.

She’s human also and these things do not make her any less beautiful or worthy of respect.

The laughable thing about a woman’s body is that there is nothing laughable,

Only something to admire. 🍷

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01/05/2023

Happy New Month of May! Let this month bring you all the joy, success, and blessings you deserve😇😇.

STAY SAFE AND ENJOY THE MONTH ⛑️🦺

Design: Joel Destiny

18/04/2023

Dear Singles, s*x no dey finish.

From the day we met for the first time to the day we got married was 8 months.

And there was no s*x.

We were together almost every single day for 8 months. Still, there was no s*x.

I remember one of our meetings with the pastor while preparing for the wedding.

He asked me if I have slept with her because in his church, when intending couples have been involved s*xually, the lady does not use the wedding veil.

Personally, I don't think it is the business of pastors to ask that question. Your job is to join the couple together irrespective of their past.

But it felt good looking at him straight in the face as I answered that question.

I was proud to tell him we have never had s*x.

A no-s*x relationship makes it easy to see each other clearly.

While a man may be sleeping with a lady without any love for her and no intention to marry her, ladies on the other hand, usually give you their heart before they open their legs. Most of the time.

So, as a lady, the moment you have started sleeping with him, it becomes difficult to see him in his true colour.

That is why you find ladies being abused by their boyfriends and they still find it difficult to leave the relationship.

But for us, instead of spending time exploring our bodies, we took the time preparing for the marriage.

Before I met her I had already created a document that contained a list of issues that intending couples should discuss before getting married.

From the seemingly irrelevant like if she wants to keep her surname after getting married to me to more challenging issues like what will happen if one of us becomes medically incapacitated for life.

The document was initially called the Get Naked Questionnaire. The idea was for intending couples to get naked with each other about their future before they get naked in bed.

So, we took our time to discuss the issues in the document so we can really know each other and what we really wanted in a marriage.

That document is what is now known as the 27 Most Ignored Questions by Singles. And it has helped thousands of other singles prepare for their marriage.

Discussing those issues during the relationship while maintaining a no-s*x relationship built a level of trust between us that is difficult to crush.

Dear Singles, listen to me. S*x no dey finish. It does not have a meter that tells you how much s*x is left. You will do until you cannot do anymore.

But it can blind you from reality. It can blind you from red flags. It can blind you from character flaws when you are into it before you get married.

It is better to focus on the more important things like the kind of marriage you want or what will be your responses if certain things happen in the future. The kind of issues highlighted in the 27 Most Ignored Questions by Singles.

Spending time discussing those issues will do you greater good in the long term than exploring each other's bodies.

Oya, share this post if you like am.

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13/04/2023

WHY NOT TAKE THEM AND LEAVE ME ALONE ?

I just woke up and saw this image, it's kinda heartbreaking but instead i took a deep thought about her feelings at that moment in relationship to what occur in the society.

Looking at the picture/art work below, it depicts how the young woman have lamented about men taking what entice them when they want to do awful things or pleasurable things with a woman. She gave then an idea about them cutting her va**na and breast and leaves her alone or she could cut it for them so they can carry it home and use for there s*xual pleasure.

Am not here to talk about the dress code that caused such men to do such act.

As i thought deeply about it i just concluded that she will be thinking " JUST TAKE THEM AND LEAVE ME ALONE ". This is Sad. Mere looking at the picture, I think about all the women who are r***d and abused for their body parts.

These females(women,young girsl, ladies) are not seen for who they are and what they truly are. They are seen as a s*xual object for pleasure.

I think people reading these post will probably have a thinking about the picture/image and probably the word she will utter " JUST TAKE THEM AND LEAVE ME ALONE ". As a good thinker or writer those words are written over the picture/image below.

Sometimes our females are even the cause of why these males use them and even dump them after achieving their aim.

Let reason together now. Some ladies use these statements

1. Yeah...."he's too nice."

2. "He treats me like queen but the connection wasn't there."

3. "He has his own life.

4. " Alot going with him, he said he need a break.

5. I got bored with random excuse.

After all this ,they give themselves to the same men who make them feel like this.

That is why sometimes i preach PURITY CULTURE. It actually means keeping your self ready for the right person.

Look at the image below, they are many depictions am going to make. The image have several depictions :

PICTURE DEPICTS 1
" A woman that don't believe in love "

A broken woman who stopped believing in love cause she's been hurt too many times,even when you are serious all she sees in you is s*x. The sadness in this is beyond imagination, if you are just after s*x make sure you make it clear before someone catches feelings. It hurts.

She has not only given her intimate parts away but most importantly her heart she is left with logic and reason even making her literally dead. Powerful art but she is emotionally down with life on this picture she is dead with no hope in life.

PICTURE DEPICTS 2

" A woman who lost her self worth "

It's sad that some men want only b***s, kitty, and ass. I can tell you, this is further from the truth. Every single woman has these things but yet not all attention is equal. It's when the man starts seeing other things that gets his attention and the man know her self worth things like

a. eyes

b. types of skin

c. dimples

d. Cheek and jaw structure

e. attitude

f. sense of humor

g. Teeth

h. Hips

I. Mentality about life

J. Belly button

k. Hair

L. Education

M. Funny smile

O. Natural body makeup and many many more.

This is when he will start showing interest. All these things are meant to happen to create attraction and with attraction comes intimacy and passion its normal. If you have a lot of men after you who think about your self worth I promise it's not your b***s and kitty there's something else he is attracted to.

PICTURE DEPICTS 3

"A woman who feel she deserves more than just "va**na and breast "

Yes this is deep if life could have allowed them to cut them off without resulting in death they could have done that already, it's stressing painful how people value people for their body parts it's not everyone but 90 percent are, they put food on table,they reproduce, they take care of the family, they are not appreciated, , they are abused, they are not allowed to voice out, they leave the marriage because of abuse they are called disrespectful, they decide to be single they are called prostitutes ,all because they are women.

If only they can cut those parts give them away at least they can be free from all that living life without being judged, they feel it and its real but they can't say it they keep a smiley face but their heart are in pieces.

Most questions i usually ask myself are always like this-

👉 Is it only because they are beautiful and attractive to men's that they visualise her and have their way?

👉Are they trying to satisfy that urge at that moment?

👉Why are men easily distracted by the opposite s*x whether dressed decently or recently ?

CONCLUSION

A woman who feel she don't have what to give except the two parts have no self worth.

Girls, if these body parts are everything men want from you. That means these are all you have to offer and nothing else. There are many females who has great personality, skill, career for which men desire them.

With the current review on the happening or trending of s*xual assault in our society, females (girls, women, ladies ) should focus on her self worth as a human, disciplined in public appearance and show confidence about your stand for if you are in a relationship already so you don't feel used and dumped.

NOTE: Readers are free to err their view and to go against my idea, am open for opposition of such ideas.

QUESTIONS FOR MY FELLOW READERS AND VIEWERS

1. What is your contribution to this post?

2. Do you believe men are easily aroused by mere look at a women shape?

3. As a young woman, what are the things that your partner or boyfriend like about you ?

4. Do you partner or boyfriend always think of s*x as a love ?

Please leave your answers/comment in the comment section below.

Written by

Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka

Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor

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05/04/2023

PATRICK PERSONAL RESEARCH:

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie IDEOLOGIES ON LOVE AND ROMANCE

The first time I heard about her I was in Benin doing my masters at UNIBEN. I heard it from a girl who was able to explain in details her novel (purple hibiscus). And I was unhappy for that because I felt she was a misandrist by her attitude towards the characters of the man at the end of the novel.

After that I made a detail research about her. I did a detail analysis of some of her novel and watch more of her feminist tour and talk show around Europe and American countries. I was able to gather some popular questions she was been asked during her talk/speech in some universities. I used almost a year to do my research.

That was 2016. I kept all the research hidden from some of my friends. I kept it personal. I was trying to have a blog where I can talk more about what women face in the society based on the gender issues, domestic violence.

In that same year, I read more about her popular write up about:

👉WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINIST

👉DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS

Those were what motivated me in to having such a likeness toward her. She became my godmother in terms of feminism. She made it easy for me to understand about it very well.

I started with DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS.

I used almost 4/5 months to know what feminism was all about. As I research more about her, I made more references to her book in some of my feminist topic in my blog site(Patrickreal stories.wordpress.com)

I have become an addicted fan to her works, write up and speech/talk about feminism, gender issues. Her literature and writing change my views about women and her write up empower me to remove the ideas of being stereotype and have a wider view of why people are just like that.

After that, I went further in to reading WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINIST. That was the height of all. At this point I knew all about feminism (50% ). I can explain the plight about feminist to someone.

The reason for the gender equality and the right them fight for. The books were able to discuss everything from the rise of misogyny, the problem with modern masculinity, likeability, gender issues and domestic violence.

From most of the research I did. I personally brought out the major area she talk about, which i will LIKEABILITY.

CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE LIKEABILITY IDEOLOGY

I will be giving proves and references from her own books--

👉WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINIST

👉DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS

👉👉 IDEOLOGIES ON LOVE AND ROMANCE

DEFINITION OF LOVE

a. According to Wikipedia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love

Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection and to the simplest pleasure.

b. According to merriam-webster dictionary

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/love

Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.
Attraction based on s*xual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers.

DEFINITION OF ROMANCE

According to Wikipedia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_(love)

Romance is an emotional feeling of love for, or a strong attraction towards another person, and the courtship behaviours undertaken by an individual to express those overall feelings and resultant emotions.

PROVE 1 (FROM HER BOOK)

According to a popular literature book “”” DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS “””

FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

From the thirteen Suggestion

“””” Make sure you are aware of the romance in her life. And the only way you can do that is to start very early to give her the language with which to talk to you not only about s*x but also about love. I don’t mean you should be her ‘friend’; I mean you should be her mother to whom she can talk about everything. “”””

PROVE 2(FROM HER BOOK)
According to a popular literature book “”” DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS “””

FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

From the thirteen Suggestion

“””” Teach her that to love is not only to give but also to take. This is important because we give girls subtle cues about their lives – we teach girls that a large component of their ability to love is their ability to sacrifice their selves. We do not teach this to boys. Teach her that to love she must give of herself emotionally but she must also expect to be given to. “”””

PROVE 3(FROM HER BOOK)
According to a popular literature book “”” DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS “””

FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

From the thirteen Suggestion

“””” I think love is the most important thing in life. Whatever kind, however you define it, but I think of it generally as being greatly valued by another human being and greatly valuing another human being. But why do we raise only one half of the world to value this? “”””

PROVE 4 (FROM HER BOOK)
According to a popular literature book “”” DEAR IJEAWELE OR A FEMINIST MANIFESTO IN FIFTEEN SUGGESTIONS “””

FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

From the thirteen Suggestion

“”””” Romance will happen, so be on board. I’m writing this assuming she is heteros*xual – she might not be, obviously. But I am assuming that because it is what I feel best equipped to talk about. “””””

PROVE 5 (FROM SITE/INTERNET)
I will backed it up with a powerful statement made by FEMINIST/WRITER/ CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE where she mentioned “” the most important thing in the world: love “”

For further reading here is the link to convince you.

https://time.com/3921492/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-graduation-commencement-wellesley/

SHE SAYS –

“” And, finally I would like to end with a final note on the most important thing in the world: love.Now girls are often raised to see love only as giving. Women are praised for their love when that love is an act of giving. But to love is to give AND to take. Please love by giving and by taking. Give and be given. If you are only giving and not taking, you’ll know. You’ll know from that small and true voice inside you that we females are so often socialized to silence. Don’t silence that voice. Dare to take. “””

Congratulations.

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I declare that I have no financial or personal relationships that may have inappropriately influenced me in writing this article. I write this articles based on my personal research on her and also a fan of her works on feminism.

QUESTIONS FOR MY READER/VIEWS TO PONDER ON:

1. What are your own contributions, views and insights on the articles?

2. Do young girls have to behave well for they to be likeable?

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Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka

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