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WHAT HAVE YOU NORMALISED THAT ISN'T ACTUALLY OKAY?Sometimes we get so used to something that we stop asking whether it i...
26/08/2026

WHAT HAVE YOU NORMALISED THAT ISN'T ACTUALLY OKAY?

Sometimes we get so used to something that we stop asking whether it is actually good for us.

Being constantly exhausted.

Always being the one who gives.

Never asking for help.

Living without meaningful connection.

Being spoken to without respect.

Putting your dreams permanently on hold.

Avoiding difficult conversations.

Pretending something doesn't hurt anymore.

Being so busy caring for everyone else that you have stopped checking on yourself.

Some things become familiar simply because we have lived with them for a long time.

But familiar doesn't always mean healthy.

So take a moment today and ask yourself honestly:

What have I normalised that isn't actually okay?

You don't have to explain it here if you don't want to.

But if you're comfortable sharing, name just one thing.

No judgement. No fixing.

Just an honest Wednesday check-in.

26/08/2026

DID YOU KNOW? 💜

Sleep doesn't only determine whether you feel tired tomorrow.

It affects how well you think, remember, concentrate and regulate your emotions.

When you consistently don't get enough quality sleep, you may find yourself:

• Forgetting things more easily
• Struggling to concentrate
• Making more mistakes
• Feeling unusually irritable
• Finding everyday decisions harder

Your body may be resting, but your brain is doing important work while you sleep, including supporting learning and memory. 1

So if you've been treating sleep as something you can always sacrifice when life gets busy, perhaps it's time to reconsider.

**Rest is part of taking care of yourself.**

Tonight, ask yourself:

Am I actually getting enough sleep, or have I simply become used to being tired?

26/08/2026

I got over 2,500 reactions on my posts last week! Thanks everyone for your support! 🎉 Thank you Thank you 🙏🙏I am grateful let's keep going 🙏🙏

I AM PROUD OF HOW FAR I'VE COME, EVEN IF I'M NOT WHERE I WANT TO BE.I have come this far.By the grace of God.Through pra...
26/08/2026

I AM PROUD OF HOW FAR I'VE COME, EVEN IF I'M NOT WHERE I WANT TO BE.

I have come this far.

By the grace of God.

Through prayers that were answered and prayers I am still waiting on.

Through the love of people who stood beside me when I needed them.

Through the kindness of those who helped carry what felt too heavy.

Through hard work.

Through resilience.

Through lessons I never asked to learn.

Through days when I had to keep going even when I didn't feel strong.

I may not be where I want to be yet.

There are still things I am working towards.

There are still prayers on my heart.

There are still areas of my life I want to rebuild.

But I will not allow the distance between where I am and where I want to be to make me forget how far I have already travelled.

Today, I choose to acknowledge the grace that carried me, the people who supported me, the strength I discovered along the way, and the courage it took to keep moving.

I can be proud of how far I've come.

And I can still believe there is more ahead of me.

If you feel comfortable, finish this sentence in the comments:

“I am proud of myself because…”

You don't have to tell your whole story. One sentence is enough.

TUESDAY FAITH TALK..MY REFLECTION ON JOHN 11:32-36“Jesus wept.”Two words.Yet they tell us something powerful about grief...
25/08/2026

TUESDAY FAITH TALK..

MY REFLECTION ON JOHN 11:32-36

“Jesus wept.”

Two words.

Yet they tell us something powerful about grief.

When Jesus arrived at the tomb of Lazarus, He already knew what He was about to do.

He knew Lazarus would live again.

He knew the story wasn't ending at that tomb.

And still, Jesus wept.

Think about that.

He had faith.

He knew God was at work.

And He still cried.

Sometimes we make grieving people feel as though tears mean they don't have enough faith.

We tell them:

“Be strong.”

“Don't cry.”

“You have to move on.”

“God knows best.”

All of these things may be said with good intentions.

But sometimes a grieving person doesn't need another explanation.

They need permission to grieve.

Jesus did not stand at Lazarus' tomb and pretend that death didn't hurt simply because He knew what was coming next.

He wept.

So if you are trusting God and still hurting, you are not failing.

If you believe God is with you and still have days when you cry, you are not weak.

If you pray and still have questions, you have not lost your faith.

You are human.

Faith does not mean you never cry.

Sometimes faith means you can cry while still holding on to God.

And perhaps someone needs to hear this tonight:

You don't have to hide your tears to prove that you trust God.

Cry if you need to.

Pray if you can.

Rest when you need to.

And keep walking.

God is not frightened by your grief.

Have you ever felt that you had to be strong because people expected you to be?

Tell us about it in the comments.

Someone reading your words tonight may finally realise that their tears don't make them weak.

TRUTH TUESDAY Lola had recently lost her husband.She was grieving, trying to adjust to a life she never expected to live...
25/08/2026

TRUTH TUESDAY

Lola had recently lost her husband.

She was grieving, trying to adjust to a life she never expected to live, and learning how to deal with problems that her husband had left behind.

During that difficult period, one friend stood out.

Taye was there.

She checked on Lola.
She listened.
She showed up.
She became someone Lola felt she could trust.

So Lola began opening up.

She told Taye about some of the debts her husband had left behind.

She talked about family matters.

She shared things she wasn't comfortable discussing with everyone.

She wasn't looking for gossip.

She was just looking for a safe place to offload some of the things she was carrying.

Months later, Lola discovered that the things she had told Taye privately had been shared with another women.

Things she had trusted Taye with.

Things she had shared while she was vulnerable.

It hurt.

Not only because the information had been shared.

But because of WHO had shared it.

The person she thought was her safe space.

Lola quietly pulled away.

Eventually, Taye realised that Lola knew.

She apologised.

She even asked other women in church to speak to Lola on her behalf.

Lola listened.

She accepted the apology.

She forgave her.

But she didn't return to the friendship they once had.

And some people couldn't understand why.

“Didn't you forgive her?” They asked.

Yes.

“But why can't you be friends again?”

Because forgiveness can not erased what happened.

Lola had learned something about trust.

She could release the anger without pretending that nothing had happened.

She could forgive Taye without giving her the same access to her private life as she did before.

Perhaps Taye had genuinely changed.

Perhaps she had learned her lesson.

But Lola wasn't willing to find out by handing her the same level of access again.

And this brings us to today's truth:

Forgiveness and reconciliation are not always the same thing.

You can forgive someone and still keep healthy boundaries.

You can stop being angry without becoming close again.

You can wish someone well without giving them access to the parts of your life they once mishandled.

Forgiveness may bring peace.

Trust, however, may need to be rebuilt.

And sometimes, it isn't ever rebuilt.

Do you agree with Lola's decision?

If someone genuinely apologises after betraying your trust, does forgiveness mean you should give them another chance at the same relationship?

Let's talk.👇

MONDAY CONVERSATIONS WHAT HAS LIFE TAUGHT YOU THAT YOU WISH YOU HAD LEARNED EARLIER?Life has a way of teaching us lesson...
24/08/2026

MONDAY CONVERSATIONS

WHAT HAS LIFE TAUGHT YOU THAT YOU WISH YOU HAD LEARNED EARLIER?

Life has a way of teaching us lessons we didn't know we needed.

Sometimes through relationships.

Sometimes through motherhood.

Sometimes through money.

Sometimes through loss.

Sometimes through people we trusted.

Sometimes simply through getting older.

So tonight, let's share something real.

What has life taught you that you genuinely wish you had learned earlier?

Maybe it's:

“Not everyone who smiles with you is for you.”

“Save money when things are good.”

“Your children need your presence more than perfection.”

“Don't ignore your intuition.”

“Rest before your body forces you to.”

Or maybe your lesson is something completely different.

Don't give us a quote you saw online.

Tell us something life actually taught you.

Your answer might be exactly what another woman needs to hear tonight.

PRACTICAL LIFE TIP DON'T MAKE A PERMANENT DECISION ON A TEMPORARY FEELING.Sometimes the best thing you can do when you'r...
24/08/2026

PRACTICAL LIFE TIP

DON'T MAKE A PERMANENT DECISION ON A TEMPORARY FEELING.

Sometimes the best thing you can do when you're upset is nothing.

Don't send the message yet.

Don't make the phone call yet.

Don't resign yet.

Don't agree to something you don't want.

Don't make a major purchase because you're angry, hurt or afraid.

Give yourself a little space.

Try this:

Before making an important decision while emotionally charged, ask yourself three questions:

1. Would I make the same decision if I were calm?

2. Will this decision still make sense tomorrow?

3. Am I solving the problem, or simply reacting to how I feel right now?

You don't have to respond to everything immediately.

Sometimes a pause protects you from words, choices and consequences you may later wish you could take back.

This isn't about avoiding difficult decisions.

It's about making them with a clearer mind.

Are you someone who responds immediately when you're upset, or do you need time before you respond?

Be honest.

Do You Agree???
24/08/2026

Do You Agree???

24/08/2026

Behind every widow is a God who never leaves her.
When everything else changes, His presence remains.
If you believe say Amen🙏

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