01/10/2026
Sister, merely developing feelings for another person does not automatically make divorce permissible or necessary.
Feelings can arise without a person choosing them, but what Islam holds us accountable for is how we respond to those feelings. If a woman is married, she must immediately distance herself from anything that strengthens those emotions, avoid contact with the other person, and focus on protecting her marriage and her relationship with Allah.
Allah says: “Do not even go near zina.” (Qur'an 17:32). Emotional attachments that are allowed to grow can become a pathway to sin, so they must be addressed with sincerity, taqwa, and self-discipline.
However, if the marriage itself is already deeply troubled, her rights are not being fulfilled, or she genuinely feels unable to continue the marriage without falling into sin, then she may seek Islamic counseling and, if necessary, pursue khula or divorce through the proper Islamic process.
The decision should not be based solely on attraction to another person, because feelings can change, while the consequences of divorce are significant. Before making any decision, she should sincerely repent for any inappropriate attachment, pray Istikharah, seek advice from trustworthy scholars, and ask Allah to guide her to what is best for her deen and akhirah.
May Allah protect your heart from temptation, guide you to what pleases Him, and grant you purity, wisdom, and peace in every decision. Ameen 🤲
And Allah knows best.