06/10/2025
๐ฟ ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐ฏ โ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ป๐ด ๐๐ฑ๐๐น๐๐: F๐ถ๐ด๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ถf๐ฒ, ๐ข๐ป๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ ๐ง๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ
๐๐โ๐ ๐ผ๐ธ๐ฎ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฎ๐น๐น f๐ถ๐ด๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐๐!
When my daughter entered 9th grade, the questions began almost instantly:
โWhat does she want to become?โ
โWhich stream will she choose?โ
โEngineering, medicine, or commerce?โ
And every time, I would smile and say,
โSheโll figure it out. Thereโs time.โ
People often looked puzzled โ as though not knowing was something to fix.
But Iโve always believed: ๐๐f๐ ๐๐๐โ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ f๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐. ๐ฐ๐โ๐ ๐ j๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐
๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐.
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๐ญ ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐พ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ผf ๐๐
๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐
Our young adults are growing up in a world overflowing with expectations โ from school, peers, society, and sometimes, even from us as parents.
We live in a culture where the โAsian prophecyโ still echoes โ Engineer, Doctor, CA, MBA.
But hereโs what we forget:
Every person is different. Every mind blooms in its own season.
We canโt compare a rose to a sunflower and ask why it isnโt taller or brighter.
Each one adds its own beauty to the garden โ in its own time.
Comparison is one of the biggest killers of confidence.
It quietly tells our children, โWho you are isnโt enough yet.โ
And thatโs simply not true.
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โค๏ธ ๐พ๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐
From the beginning, Iโve told my daughter:
โWhatever path you choose, Iโll stand by you.โ
Iโve watched parents push their children toward big degrees and bigger salaries.
But Iโve also seen how that pressure often takes away joy, curiosity, and the freedom to dream.
As parents, our role is to guide, not decide.
We can share wisdom, experiences, and possibilities.
But the final choice must be theirs โ because only they will walk that path.
Thatโs how they learn courage. Thatโs how they find themselves.
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๐ฑ ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐บ ๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฟ ๐ข๐๐ป ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฒ
Young adulthood is messy and magical all at once.
Theyโll change their minds. Theyโll fail. Theyโll restart.
And thatโs okay โ because ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐โ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐z๐๐
๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
.
Our children donโt need to bloom early โ they just need to bloom fully.
Letโs remind them that figuring out life slowly is not a weakness โ itโs wisdom in progress.
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๐ธ ๐จ ๐ต๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ท๐๐๐๐๐๐
Letโs stop asking, โWhat will you become?โ
and start asking, โWho are you becoming?โ
Letโs stop comparing children โ even siblings โ because every journey is unique.
We canโt rush a flower to bloom by shouting at it to grow faster.
We just water it, nurture it, and let the sunlight do the rest.
Our young adults donโt need pressure. They need permission โ
to breathe, to explore, to take their time.
And when we give them that gift, we donโt just raise achievers โ
๐๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ฐ, ๐ด๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฑ, ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ j๐ผ๐f๐๐น ๐ต๐๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐. ๐
PS: Not denying that there could be young adults who have figured out everything at a very young age! Good for them! Also, I could be wrong in my approach โ just sharing my personal experience. Healthy conversations are welcome! Because, its high time we start talking!!
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