24/06/2026
One thing about deadbeat dads… many will happily scream from the rooftops that they’re being “stopped” from seeing their children, while conveniently leaving out the part where their own actions caused that situation in the first place.
Abuse. Control. Violence. Manipulation. Intimidation. Threats.
Then when boundaries are put in place to protect a mother and her children, suddenly they become the victim.
“She’s keeping my kids from me.”
“She’s bitter.”
“She’s toxic.”
“She’s ruining my life.”
No. She’s protecting herself and her children from the consequences of your behaviour.
A smear campaign is often the final weapon of an abusive man. If he can’t control you behind closed doors, he’ll try to control how others see you in public.
He’ll paint you as cruel, unstable, vindictive, anything to avoid accountability.
Good dads fight for their children with consistency, patience, love and action.
Deadbeat dads fight with lies, excuses and Facebook statuses.
Children deserve safety. They deserve peace. And they deserve adults who take responsibility for their actions.
Not every father denied access is a victim.
Sometimes the truth is far uglier.
Protective mothers are too often villainised for doing what they need to do to keep their children safe.
I refuse to stay silent on that. ✋🏼