Te Shin Kai - Keith Hayward

08/10/2026

One for the Diary, would be great to see you there

02/10/2026

Just confirming that there is no class tonight, see you next week

05/09/2026

LOYALTY IS NOT SOMETHING YOU CAN DEMAND. IT IS SOMETHING YOU EARN.

There comes a time in life when you stop explaining yourself to everyone. You stop chasing people who clearly do not value your presence. You stop giving endless chances to those who repeatedly show you exactly who they are.

That is not arrogance.

That is wisdom.

When you are young, you may believe that every friendship must be saved, every relationship deserves another chance, and every misunderstanding needs a long explanation. You spend your energy trying to make people understand your heart. You forgive quickly, trust easily, and sometimes ignore the warning signs because you want to believe the best in everyone.

But life teaches.

Experience changes the way you see people.

Eventually, you learn that not everyone deserves access to your time, your loyalty, your peace, or your trust. Some people only appear when they need something. Some smile in front of you but speak differently when you are not there. Some call themselves friends but disappear when life becomes difficult. Others stay close only because your presence benefits them.

A warrior does not need to announce who is loyal and who is not.

Time reveals everything.

The strongest lesson is learning when to walk away without creating a scene. You do not always need an argument. You do not always need revenge. You do not always need the last word.

Sometimes, silence is the answer.

Sometimes, distance is the answer.

And sometimes, cutting someone off is the only way to protect your peace.

Real loyalty is rare because it cannot be bought. It cannot be forced. It cannot be created with beautiful words or temporary promises. Loyalty is revealed through actions, especially when circumstances become difficult.

Anyone can stand beside you when life is easy.

The real question is: Who remains when there is nothing to gain?

Who stays when you are struggling?

Who respects you when you are not in the room?

Who tells you the truth even when it is uncomfortable?

Who protects your name when you cannot hear the conversation?

Those are the people worth keeping.

As you grow older, your circle may become smaller. And that is perfectly fine. A small circle with genuine people is worth more than a crowd filled with fake friends. Peace becomes more valuable than popularity. Respect becomes more important than attention. Loyalty becomes more important than convenience.

You begin to understand that your time is one of the most valuable things you possess.

Once it is wasted, you cannot get it back.

So do not waste it trying to convince fake people to become real. Do not keep knocking on doors that have already been closed to you. Do not destroy your own peace trying to maintain relationships that only survive because of your effort.

A relationship should not feel like a battlefield where only one person is fighting.

Know your value.

Know your limits.

Know when enough is enough.

The samurai understood discipline. Not only discipline in combat, but discipline of the mind and heart. Strength is not always about drawing the sword. Sometimes, true strength is knowing when to put the sword away and simply walk into a better direction.

You do not need to hate those who disappointed you.

You can simply learn from them.

You do not need revenge against those who betrayed you.

Life has a way of teaching everyone the lessons they refuse to learn.

Your responsibility is to protect your own path.

Move forward with dignity.

Keep your word.

Respect those who respect you.

Remain loyal to those who have proven their loyalty.

But never confuse kindness with weakness.

Never allow your good heart to become an invitation for repeated disrespect.

The older and wiser you become, the more you realize that peace is priceless. You do not need a thousand people around you. You need a few people who are genuine. People who can celebrate your success without jealousy. People who can stand beside you without expecting a reward.

People who understand the meaning of loyalty.

So if someone repeatedly shows dishonesty, disrespect, or betrayal, believe what their actions are telling you. You do not have to make a dramatic exit.

Just step back.

Close the door quietly.

And continue your journey.

Because a true warrior knows that not every battle deserves to be fought.

Some people are simply lessons.

Learn the lesson.

Keep the wisdom.

Protect your peace.

And never waste another moment trying to make the wrong people understand the value of loyalty.

Discipline your mind.
Protect your peace.
Respect your time.
And stay loyal to those who are truly loyal to you.

04/09/2026

🥋 A MASSIVE CONGRATULATIONS! 🥋

A huge congratulations to Ramani on passing her 2nd Dan Grading and to Ben on successfully passing his 3rd Dan Grading tonight! 🎉👏

I couldn’t be prouder of you both. You each put in a fantastic grading, showing incredible commitment, determination and spirit. You thoroughly deserved your results, and it was a real pleasure to watch you both achieve such an important milestone in your Aikido journey. 🥋❤️

A massive thank you to everyone who came along tonight and gave up their time to help with Ukemi Daniel Barrass Robyn Phillips Sean Pritchard Adam Hurlin Photography — thank you so much and support the grading. Your help, encouragement and commitment are hugely appreciated and made a real difference.

Tonight was a fantastic evening and one we can all be very proud of. Congratulations again, Ramani and Ben — absolutely brilliant! 👏🥋🎉

28/08/2026

Great class tonight with the next Te Shin Kai instructors - thanks for everyone that attended.

28/08/2026

17/08/2026

🥋 Te Shin Kai at the UKA Summer School
Members of Te Shin Kai were pleased to attend the UKA Summer School, where we had the privilege of training under Katsurada Shihan.

We extend our sincere thanks to the UKA for organising such a well‑structured and welcoming event. It was a pleasure to reconnect with long‑standing friends in the Aikido community and to meet new faces joining the journey.

A valuable and enjoyable weekend of learning, spirit, and shared practice.

04/08/2026

I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone who took the time to attend Keith’s Memorial Course on Saturday.

It was incredibly heartwarming to see so many familiar faces come together to celebrate Keith’s life and legacy. Hearing everyone share their memories, stories and laughter reminded us just how many lives he touched over the years. It meant more to our family than words can express.

A special thank you to Gordon, Mark, Eddie and Neil for your outstanding teaching throughout the day. Keith held each of you in the highest regard, and he would have been so proud to see you all sharing your knowledge and continuing the spirit of what he loved so much.

Thank you to everyone who travelled near and far, trained, reminisced, and helped make the day such a fitting tribute to an amazing man. Keith would have loved every minute of it.

He may no longer be with us, but his legacy will continue to live on through every lesson taught, every friendship made, and everyone whose lives he inspired.

❤️ Keith will never be forgotten.

Pictures to follow.

25/07/2026

❌️❌️❌️ ️One week today!!️ ❌️❌️❌️
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Aikido Memorial Course – In Memory of Shihan Keith Hayward 7th Dan

It is with great respect and affection that we invite all friends, students, and members of the wider Aikido community to join us for a special Memorial Course in honour of Shihan Keith Hayward 7th Dan.

📅 Date: Saturday, 1st August 2026
£20 for the day

This course is an opportunity to come together, train in the spirit that Keith embodied throughout his life, and celebrate the incredible legacy he left to so many of us. His dedication, friendship, and passion for Aikido continue to inspire generations of practitioners.

Whether you trained with Keith for many years or met him only briefly, we hope you will join us in remembering a remarkable teacher and person.

Please see the attached poster for full course details, venue information, and registration times.
We sincerely hope as many of you as possible can attend and help us make this a fitting tribute to an exceptional Shihan.

Please feel free to share this post with your clubs and fellow Aikidoka.

Aikido Memorial Course – In Memory of Shihan Keith Hayward 7th Dan

It is with great respect and affection that we invite all friends, students, and members of the wider Aikido community to join us for a special Memorial Course in honour of Shihan Keith Hayward 7th Dan.

📅 Date: Saturday, 1st August 2026

This course is an opportunity to come together, train in the spirit that Keith embodied throughout his life, and celebrate the incredible legacy he left to so many of us. His dedication, friendship, and passion for Aikido continue to inspire generations of practitioners.

Whether you trained with Keith for many years or met him only briefly, we hope you will join us in remembering a remarkable teacher and person.

Please see the attached poster for full course details, venue information, and registration times.
We sincerely hope as many of you as possible can attend and help us make this a fitting tribute to an exceptional Shihan.

Please feel free to share this post with your clubs and fellow Aikidoka.

29/06/2026

Thanks for being a top engager and making it onto my weekly engagement list! 🎉 Philip Howman, Paul Thomson, Mark Pickering, Mick Donnelly, Antonis Pavlakis, San Raku Kan Dojo, John Walker, Keaira Artemis Kusanagi, David Cope, Richard Prosser