12/10/2026
A memorial walk is coming up this week, Wednesday. See post for details.
Today marks the beginning of Baby Loss Awareness Week, a week that means so much to so many of us, for so many different reasons. 🤍
For some, this week can feel comforting and beautiful. There is more awareness, more conversations, more people sharing their babies’ names, more candles being lit, and more opportunities to come together with people who understand. It can feel lovely to know that our babies, children and journeys are being acknowledged and remembered. 🦋
But we also know that, alongside that comfort, this week can bring a whole mixture of emotions.
It can feel overwhelming when baby loss is everywhere you look. It can bring back memories, sadness, anger, questions, anxiety and the ache of what should have been. You might feel okay one minute and completely broken the next. You might want to talk about your baby, or you might want to hide away from everything. You might find comfort in seeing other people’s stories, or find them too painful to read.
You might be grieving a baby you never got to bring home, a pregnancy that ended too soon, a child you miss every single day, or the dream of becoming a parent that hasn’t happened for you.
There is no right or wrong way to feel this week. 🤍
You don’t have to attend an event, share your story, post a photograph or explain your feelings to anyone. You are allowed to take a step back, and you are allowed to lean on others. You can feel grateful for the awareness while wishing with all your heart that you didn’t have a reason to need it.
At Charlie’s Candle, we want you to know that you don’t have to navigate any of these feelings alone. We are here for the mums, dads, grandparents, families and everyone affected by baby and child loss, as well as those living with infertility or the pain of not being able to have children.
🕯️ A few important dates to remember:
🎗️ Sunday 11th October – Lincoln Lantern Walk
I’ll be attending Lincoln’s Lantern Walk at 6pm this weekend. This is an event organised by another charity, and I’ll be there to remember our babies and children alongside other families.
🕊️ Wednesday 14th October – Charlie’s Candle Memorial Walk
Join us at 7pm, meeting at Artisan Coffee Shop, Skegness. We’ll walk together towards the beachfront, take a moment to remember our little ones, and then add memorial ribbons behind Hildreds rear car park. You can include your baby’s name, date of birth or another special date. Whether you’ve experienced miscarriage, TFMR, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, infant or child loss, or another journey, you are welcome. Bring your family, and please know you don’t have to say a word if you don’t feel ready.
🎃 Sunday 25th October – Wren Farm Fundraising Day
Our Halloween fundraising day at Wren Farm, Hogsthorpe, is another opportunity to come together, support Charlie’s Candle and help us continue providing a safe space for bereaved families.
💗 And please remember, our messages are always open.
You can message us here on Facebook, or join our Charlie’s Candle WhatsApp group, where we can talk, listen and support one another. You don’t need to have attended a meeting or an event to reach out. You don’t need to know what to say. Sometimes it helps just to know someone is there.
This week might bring smiles, tears, treasured memories, difficult reminders, hope, heartache or all of those things in the space of a single day.
Whatever Baby Loss Awareness Week looks like for you, please be gentle with yourself. Take things at your own pace, do what feels right for you, and remember that you are never expected to grieve in any particular way.
Our babies mattered. Our children matter. Our stories matter. And so do you. 🦋🤍
Forever loved. Forever missed. Never forgotten.
With love,
Shelby
Charlies Candle 🕯️💗
