The Arthur Fund

22/05/2026

When Arthur died, we received a HUGE amount of beautiful bouquets from family and friends and it was so lovely to have fresh flowers covering our home. Ever since we have always had flowers in our kitchen. These are cheap ones from Aldi that just add a little pop of colour and they are a nod to our little man 🌷 🌼 I would highly recommend buying yourself flowers with your weekly shop if you can spare a couple of quid. They bring a smile to my face every day

11/05/2026

A little rainbow under Arthur’s bird urn 🌈 ☀️

09/05/2026

Times when Arthur has popped into my mind recently

04/05/2026

The first bloom of our ‘Arthur Bell’ rose 🌹 Every year, I’m nervous that it won’t come back (there are some of Arthur’s ashes inside) but it looks as beautiful and bright has he was.
We have recently moved into a chapel and we have a graveyard in our back garden. So his plant is sat there, enjoying the sun and looking at this beautiful space

21/03/2026

Our son Arthur would have been three today, and this is his sister blowing out a candle for him.

This year, the grief feels different. Heavier in a quieter way, because when you have another child growing up beside the one you lost, time becomes something you can see.

We watch his sister grow, and in every new word, every wobbly step, every little piece of her becoming “big”, we see him too. We find ourselves quietly filling in the gaps — “Arthur would be doing this” and “he would be saying that.” He would have been right there beside her, and it catches us off guard how loud that absence can feel.

There’s a particular kind of ache in that.
In holding both deep love for the child here, and deep longing for the one who isn’t.

Arthur changed us completely and made us so thankful for every moment of being able to experience parenting and life with his sister. He is still part of everything.
In the way we parent.
In the way we love.
In the space that will always be his.

Happy 3rd birthday, Arthur.
You are loved, remembered, and carried with us always.

If you’re loving and missing a little one today too, we see you.

20/03/2026

Today is the day we lost Arthur. Three years ago, everything changed.

My body remembers this day before my mind does. It sits heavy in my chest and in my bones. I’ve recently read the book “The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel A. Van der Kolk (highly recommend for anyone who has experienced trauma fyi) and it has really changed the way I view trauma and the lasting effects it has on our bodies.

I’ve had to relearn my body since losing Arthur. To sit with it, understand it and slowly become friends with it again. The trust had to be rebuilt as I struggled with the thought that Arthur’s passing was my fault, as it happened in my body. From what I’ve heard from others in this community, this is a common feeling.

In contrast, we are currently on our way to CBeebies Land to celebrate his birthday with his little sister. This is the first year we haven’t hidden and we are actively ‘celebrating’. Holding both the heaviness of the day we lost Arthur and the excitement of seeing his sister have the best time.

However, from our experience, grief is about holding two things at once. Deep sorrow and deep love. What was, and what is. The child we lost, and the life still moving around us. Both can exist. Both do exist.

We miss you, Arthur. Always.

14/03/2026

Mother’s Day is a complicated time of year for many families who have lost children and have earth-side siblings. It comes with a mix of emotions for us, especially with Arthur’s birthday right around the corner. It’s strange when you’re parenting a child while grieving one who isn’t here.

The day holds two very different truths at the same time, joy for the child we get to raise, and deep longing for the baby (soon to be 3 year old) who should be beside us.

Loving your earth-side child doesn’t erase the grief.
Grieving your baby doesn’t take away from the love you have for the child you’re parenting.

But both can exist together. Holding space for the baby you lost, while also showing up with everything they have for their sibling.

If this Mother’s Day brings mixed emotions, you’re not alone.
You are still a parent to all of your children.
Your baby is still part of your family.
Your grief is valid.
And the love that connects your children is real and lasting.

However you move through the day, be gentle with yourself. ❤️

23/02/2026

Amazing news for Middlesbrough based charity supporting young women experiencing baby loss and birth trauma. This will help so many people 👏 🤍

Leo's in Middlesbrough will receive the money over the next three years to support families who have experienced the loss of a baby or difficult births

22/02/2026

This time of year will always remind us of Arthur 🌼can’t believe it’s nearly been three years since we last held him but little signs in nature always make us think of his loveliness

25/12/2025

Day 25. Do one thing that brings you a spark of joy.

Small and just for you, because you deserve a moment of light. We want to wish you all a gentle Christmas.