25/04/2026
Let’s talk about the impact women have on men’s lives… because sometimes, it’s deeper than we think.
In 2022, two stories shook Nigeria’s social media space: Korra Obidi & Justin Dean, and Yul Edochie & May Edochie.
Yul’s story was heartbreaking. After over 20 years of marriage and nearly 25 years together, he betrayed a woman who stood by him, built with him, and gave him four children. He secretly got another woman pregnant, married her traditionally, and his wife only found out through social media. Her only words? “May God judge you both.” That kind of pain… you don’t recover from it easily.
During this saga, tragedy struck—their 17-year-old son, Kambili, died suddenly while playing football with friends. A mother shattered, grieving her child… do you know what the father was doing? He was online, making skits with the same woman who broke his home. And the side chick came out to defend this show of shame with, “You can’t tell a man how to mourn his dead.” It was beyond insensitive, it was cruel. Even his own brothers couldn’t stay silent, calling him to order, but he came online attacking them too, even blocking them on his social media handles.
Yet May said nothing. She buried her son with dignity. She carried her pain quietly… and then she walked away. Filed for divorce. Her reason? “I can never be numbered in a family I built with blood, love, and sweat.” 😥
And as if betrayal wasn’t enough, the same man allegedly withdrew money from their children’s savings, money meant for their future and used it to build a new life with the other woman.
As the case was in court, she began to do the things she had stopped doing, all because she was married to a narcissist who constantly gaslighted her whenever she tried to grow. She launched her hair care line, opened multiple businesses, stepped into acting and influencing. In fact, it surprised many people how well she thrived. She also became a United Nations Eminent Peace Ambassador and advocates for intentional motherhood.
The husband just like Justin Dean couldn’t stand the shine, and what did he do? He began to gaslight her, calling her out constantly, accusing her of dating a married man. When she held a memorial for her son on social media, he attacked her, accusing her of doing her b***s 🤦♀️. A man that went on to say that 2023, the year his son died, was the best year of his life.
Anyways, May recently won in court. She reclaimed what’s hers, including the house she built that the so-called husband had planned to bring another woman into 😒. The same woman people barely noticed became a force. A light. A success.
Sound familiar?
Just like Korra, who many now realize was the strength behind the shine. It took separation for people to see clearly. Just look at Korra’s achievements since her separation, from houses to her music career, name them. These women were never “just wives”—they were pillars, builders, the quiet force behind everything.
And when they left? The difference became obvious.
These men, like male Anglerfish that failed to attach themselves to a female host, began dragging them unprovoked.
Some men shine because of the women beside them. But instead of protecting that light, they dim it… take it for granted… until it’s gone.
And when it’s gone?
They try to hold on. They attack. They cling. Because deep down, they know they lost the very thing that made them.
Moral of the story:
If you are someone’s light and they treat you like darkness… gather your strength and walk away.
Because sometimes, you don’t truly know your worth until you leave
and they don’t know what they lost… until you’re gone.
